leeroy1985 Posted May 12, 2005 Share Posted May 12, 2005 Hey everyone! Im knid of in a predicament and i wondered if anyone had any tips. I recently (well 3week ago) got with my best friends girlfriend and i knew it was wrong but ive liked her for ages and i didnt agree with the way he treated her (he f**ked her close friend behind her back) But im not entirely nasty... i realised what id done wrong and i admitted it to him so he finished with her and straight away he got with her best friend and shagged someone else within a week. So his ex still wanted me and i wanted her and he doesnt like it! He said to me that he'd forgave me for going with her and that if im a good friend i wont do it anymore. This is where i have the problem.... me and him are like large and small, ugly and cutey! I aint the best looking and i have a chance (1st for a year) with a really nice girl and i think he should want me to be happy if hes a proper mate! What he doesnt understand is that if i forget about her, HE'LL be happy.... he'll move on and get with someone else where as it could take me another year and i'll feell really down because im single again.... and this is to make HIM happy which i feel is selfish and unfair. So basically whos right and whos wrong? me or him? I know i was in the wrong to start with but thats forgotten about now! I just cant see him doing the same for me either if the roles were reversed. What do you - in your opinion - think is the right thing to do? and should i do the right thing anyway? Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted May 12, 2005 Share Posted May 12, 2005 Originally posted by leeroy1985 What do you - in your opinion - think is the right thing to do? and should i do the right thing anyway? Last time I checked, dating someone didn't imply exclusive ownership of that person even when the relationship ends. People don't own someone else and they have no right, in my opinion, to tell anyone who they should or shouldn't date. If you want to date her, then date her. He can either grow up and act like an adult or go assuage his pride between the legs of another girl. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted May 12, 2005 Share Posted May 12, 2005 Originally posted by Pocky or go assuage his pride between the legs of another girl. Now there's a new euphemism. This place is a hothouse of romantic and linguistic innovation. Leeroy, doesn't sound like your friend is heartbroken. Would be different if he hadn't moved on and was still clinging to this girl. But watch out for her doing the same again to her new boyfriend - you. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted May 12, 2005 Share Posted May 12, 2005 Basically, it's a matter of which is more important to you. If the girl is more important to you then keep her; if your bud is more important to you then keep him. It might be difficult to keep both, though. Me? If it were a real bud, I'd probably give up the chick - even if it meant being single for a while again. There's nothing that says she can't dump you next week and go out with another guy, or get back together with him. And then what? Where y'at then? But, if the snatch is appealing...go for it. Let the chips fall where they may. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 12, 2005 Share Posted May 12, 2005 I agree with Amerikajin. I also believe buddies shouldn't mess with each other's girls, but yours didn't take her seriously. He also sounds selfish and egotistical. If he was really into her and wanted to stay monogamous, I'd say keep your distance from her. But... Careful, though. How do you know she isn't pursuing you to get back at him? I guess there's only one way to find out. Link to post Share on other sites
BrotherAaron Posted May 12, 2005 Share Posted May 12, 2005 I don't think you're doing something wrong be seeing this girl if you like her, but be aware that it could permanently cost you your friendship with this guy. Right or wrong is irrelevant, he'll see it as a betrayal. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted May 12, 2005 Share Posted May 12, 2005 How do you know she isn't pursuing you to get back at him? I guess there's only one way to find out. A very real possibility. Link to post Share on other sites
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