Daisy1339 Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 Hi every one. I was here last year same time in August but posted on breakups. Now I am separated from my husband for 3 weeks. It is for the same reason as last year. I should listened to your advice and moved on with my life but I didn't. Instead I gave him a second chance. He said he is going to prove to me that he will not do it anymore. Well He didn't. Not only he didn't prove but he went and cheated again. He instead of trying to get my trust back went online and did the same thing. I found out and we got in to fights until I got a place and moved out. As soon as I moved out he started he's chats and sext and all that. It's funny at the same time he chat with others, he dare to send me text and say he is missing me! When I told him why don't you leave me alone and text your girlfriends, he says those women are only friends!! Any advise? This time I will not go back ever. But I need advise how can I avoid this kind of men! Link to post Share on other sites
Friskyone4u Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 Unfortunately, there is no guaranteed way to predict how to avoid this crap you went through. Anyone who figures out how to correctly predict it will be the richest person in the world overnight. The only thing you can do in future relationships is be alert for the red flags you may have missed the first time. Back to your husband or soon to be ex husband. I would not answer any of his communications. As long as you keep responding, he will keep trying. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Daisy1339 Posted August 31, 2015 Author Share Posted August 31, 2015 Thank you, you are right. I should not reply to any of his texts. I know is just matter of time to forget about him! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 . But I need advise how can I avoid this kind of men! walk away and don't look back when they reveal themselves to you. .... the first time. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Daisy1339 Posted August 31, 2015 Author Share Posted August 31, 2015 I wish I could see it first time! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Daisy1339 Posted August 31, 2015 Author Share Posted August 31, 2015 Thank you. Filing will be my next step. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MajorOak Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 Hi Daisy We are sorry you are going through this ,a similar set of circumstances with me. My advise, is to get to know who you really are before committing to another relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 walk away and don't look back when they reveal themselves to you. .... the first time. Good advice and also implies a relationship and courtship of sufficient length - and IRL, not online - to get to know your partner. Anyone can keep a facade up for a few months, harder to do over several years... Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
understand50 Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 Thank you. Filing will be my next step. Daisy, Reconciliation requires both sides to work hard, but the BS to work the hardest. Looks like in your case, he was not really interested. You tried. Hold you head high and file for divorce. There are men out there that are and will be faithful. To avoid the "cheater", look to see how they treated their past partners, how they treat other people. How they treat their mom and family and women in general. If they are self centered and everything is about them,and only them, then you know odds are good they may cheat. My two cents, and I wish you luck. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Daisy1339 Posted September 1, 2015 Author Share Posted September 1, 2015 Hi Daisy We are sorry you are going through this ,a similar set of circumstances with me. My advise, is to get to know who you really are before committing to another relationship. Hi Majoroak, thanks for the advise. It's easy to say but by the time I get to know I am involved and it's so hard not to commit! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Daisy1339 Posted September 1, 2015 Author Share Posted September 1, 2015 Daisy, Reconciliation requires both sides to work hard, but the BS to work the hardest. Looks like in your case, he was not really interested. You tried. Hold you head high and file for divorce. There are men out there that are and will be faithful. To avoid the "cheater", look to see how they treated their past partners, how they treat other people. How they treat their mom and family and women in general. If they are self centered and everything is about them,and only them, then you know odds are good they may cheat. My two cents, and I wish you luck. Hi Understand50, thank you it's a very good advise. I hope one day I can find such a person. Right now I feel like there is no faithful and if there is very rare. I don't know but now I can't trust anyone! Link to post Share on other sites
LukeRBetts Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 Hi Daisy, just gone through a very similar thing....be brave, stand strong, know that u exausted every possiblity for your marriage to work. Look out for you...and put things in place to protect yourself from him....NC is the best....block his number etc...and look forward...not backwards. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Daisy1339 Posted September 2, 2015 Author Share Posted September 2, 2015 Hi Daisy, just gone through a very similar thing....be brave, stand strong, know that u exausted every possiblity for your marriage to work. Look out for you...and put things in place to protect yourself from him....NC is the best....block his number etc...and look forward...not backwards. Thank you Luke, I really appreciate your advise and I know you understand! It's so hard though. I can't sleep at nights. Keep thinking of what he did and still doing. I can't believe he can switch to another relationship that fast. I moved out and a week later he started dating someone else. It is not possible for me doing that. I think he is sick. I so blame my self that I was so stupid to put up with this for 6 years. Why did I waist my life? He has been doing this all long. When I was still living with him I saw 3 different women texting him.!!! That's just sick! Really!how can you be like that? Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted September 2, 2015 Share Posted September 2, 2015 Any advise? This time I will not go back ever. But I need advise how can I avoid this kind of men! You are now wiser than you have ever been before about this type of man. My only advice is don't close yourself off from the possibility of finding someone amazing. I've only been "back in the market" a very short period of time, but I was shocked when I met the woman I'm currently seeing. Shocked that I put up with such garbage in my previous relationship but also shocked that there are members of the opposite sex who have gone through similar experiences as me and are still willing to be open and vulnerable. Be wise, but not closed off. I'm still plenty willing to get hurt and betrayed again. But I'm wiser to listen to my gut more. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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