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Want to Get Her Back & She Just Broke NC


Ace Rothstein

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Ace Rothstein

So, I had a breakup in slow-motion over almost the entirety of August and this last Friday it finally got to the point of her saying she had given up and was done with me. From that text on, I immediately went NC.

 

Last night around 10:30pm she sends me a simple "Hi". I have yet to respond to it but I'm becoming increasingly tempted to do so, namely because I do not want to rebuff her if she is attempting to reconcile.

 

Do I stay the course with NC and perhaps make her more flustered and intrigued or respond? Keep in mind my goal is to get back together, whether it is a good idea or not.

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I dunno. Don't you feel like it already didn't work out? What's the point in being unhappy with someone... for a second time?

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SoThatHappened
Keep in mind my goal is to get back together, whether it is a good idea or not.

Wow, that's not a good way to look at it. Seriously dude, really analyze that statement.

 

My 2 cents:

 

Absolutely nothing has changed in a matter of, what... hours? Are you serious?

 

If you truly wanted her back and for it to work, you'd have to spend a good amount of time apart and without contact to figure yourselves out.

 

Breakup with no time apart before reconciliation = disaster.

 

Breakup with significant time to assess, decompress, analyze, figure things out = decent chance for true reconciliation.

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Her saying "hi" is such a weak and effortless thing for her to say. That was simply meant to gauge if you'd respond quickly and start a conversation. Great job by you for not responding and taking the bait.

 

Think about it... What could you have written back.... "Hey what's up" then she replies "nothing what's up with u".... Ugh what a stupid waste of time. She's looking for you to confess something first or tell her you miss her and have been wanting her back. DO nOT do that!

 

If you really are wanting to talk to her then "hi?" Or "hey......" is the way to go... That puts it back on her to dictate how the convo goes and might make her get to the point of why she reached out quicker instead of the mundane texts I went through above.

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Just "Hi"? i'll pass it's not enough, if she wants to get back together with you then she'll do more than 'HI".

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