Anyone have a fake happy exterior, ragin' inside?

[ohreallynow]

Outside you are

 

Inside you are

[Emmett]

I have been that way for 30 years. My gf now wife broke my heart I have seemed ok and normal but inside I am broken. I am trying to et help. You need to start by seeing a doctor.

[Tayla]

I was just discussing this the other day within a group session. On the outside, Im cheerful, happy go lucky. Inside A huge bundle of anxiety. Yet Not a soul could tell in the group. Its an extreme imbalance... three years now and it hasn't dissipated. Its simply become a new natural ... so it goes.

[todreaminblue]

i think its more kosher to have a happy persona than rage at everyone because someone at a gas station put grape flavor in your slushie instead of bubblegum,

 

i dont rage on the inside......i go there internally to nurse a hurt heart.......if i am going to rage......it will be externally....and the only reason i would rage so to speak is if i was actually being attacked physically or restrained from escaping...even then its not really raging....its me protecting myself..........deb

[d0nnivain]

Not on a long term basis but right this second I have had a bit too much to drink while trying to process how much members of DH's family of origin hurt my feelings.

 

 

I should be OK in a few days.

[regine_phalange]

I used to have this a lot. Not raging but being unhappy. It's a bad habit and it takes a lot of effort to conceal your feelings = draining. When I oppress the truth, even if the truth is in the form of a personal feeling or mood, I feel even worse. When I let my gloominess all over the place I magically feel so much better. That's the way I've been handling my mood swings, and every time they go away a bit faster.

[guest569]

Apparently i appear emotionless, there's a lot going on inside.

[FortunateSon]

Outside you are

 

Inside you are

I naturally assume this is most people who post frequently on FB

[carhill]

To a certain degree you describe many of my daily business interactions. Generally, a fist fight, or worse, is about ten seconds away so, well, we agree that a facade of civility is preferable to the other alternative and everyone dukes it out with a smile on their face and moves on. Generally, the agreed upon demarcation is when the next person who talks loses. Heh.

 

However, I wouldn't characterize it a 'fake' happy, rather, well, purposely cordial. Or something like that.

 

Away from that stuff I'm pretty transparent. I don't socialize with people who exhibit or incite anger in social situations and am generally pretty laid-back, so no need nor desire for anything fake.

 

Probably the most marked time of 'fake happy' was during my D and sufficient time at the gunnery range took care of that.

[nescafe1982]

Why suppress it? I know that feeling, rage inside that takes all your best efforts to shield the people around you from.

 

But for me, it usually springs from one of two places:

 

1) a problem that needs addressing (in this case, addressing the problem is the way forward), or more commonly,

 

2) free-floating anxiety caused by inertia, stir-craziness, or some source of frustration I cannot control. In this case, going running has done wonders for this. If my body is tired, my mind tends to shut up for a while.

 

Either way, living with these feelings just corked up inside is just miserable. Find ways to vent it out in a healthy manner.

[sportygirl89]

People tell me I am hard to read. Probably why I'm still single. Oh well

[newmoon]

aren't we all like this? i (seriously) thought/think we are. what's going on outside rarely reflects the inside.

[sportygirl89]

aren't we all like this? i (seriously) thought/think we are. what's going on outside rarely reflects the inside.

 

 

I think we try to put a mask up to cover how we really are. Society really doesn't want to hear our problems so we just fake it until our lives get better or happy. People tell me I'm always hard to read. I think it's a more defense mechanism though. If I don't seem like I get hurt as easily, less likely I'll get hurt. I am trying to put my self out there and be genuinely happy though. Because it is lonely being the last one invited things. So I'm really trying to put my self out of my comfort zone.

[ohreallynow]

People tell me I am hard to read. Probably why I'm still single. Oh well

 

I knew a girl like you. She always looked mad.

 

I kinda liked that. We finally got inside each other's wall, and oh man. Then my outside wasn't fake anymore..

[ohreallynow]

I naturally assume this is most people who post frequently on FB

 

Not me tho, but maybe I should join the crowd

 

I wish I can post on FB "Today sucked. I hate everyone" and people would actually like it and comment. It's good therapy, it works

Edited September 10, 2015 by ohreallynow

[casey.lives]

I believe i come off as spacey or anxious or pissed. For the most part, my feelings are serene/peaceful(which is my happy place) and my mind is doing it's own thing. My mind and my emotions are not really connected, unless something or someone brings them together. Don't ask... weird

[Maxtor]

Outside you are

 

Inside you are

Good for you, at least you can fake. Im very transparent, If i am angry or mad or sad, it always shows lol.

[The Resurrection]

Good for you, at least you can fake. Im very transparent, If i am angry or mad or sad, it always shows lol.

 

Yup, same here... Its actually hurt my relationships a few times but atleast I'm not pretending or being dishonest about my feelings...

[Maxtor]

Yup, same here... Its actually hurt my relationships a few times but atleast I'm not pretending or being dishonest about my feelings...

I agree, BUT, sometimes its our demons that makes us feel that way, and while we are not being dishonest, we are being controlled by our fears.