UPDATE ** My bf dumped me & got angry when I said okay & walked away

[Karen855]

Why don't you proactively block him? If he's going to do stuff like this, don't make it easy on him.

 

Hi, I have blocked him from my phone and emails etc. unfortunately he knows where I live and work so....... He also has both home and work numbers.

 

I think he wouldn't cause a scene at work and come inside but maybe call. I will speak to my work and arrange for his calls to not be forwarded to me by the receptionist so he is clear that I won't tolerate or speak to him in any manner again

[Poppyolive]

Here are some ideas for you. It may be a good idea to write up your own. This will strengthen you and your future interactions & relationships.

 

12 Core Boundaries To Live By in Life, Dating, & Relationships | Baggage Reclaim by Natalie Lue

 

 

The Guide to Strong Boundaries

 

 

 

The whole cheating thing, I too, think, if that's what you want to do, rbd the relationship. I'll be hurt. But not as hurt as cheated on. But, I think for him, it was control. His control. A sense of control over you too. Especially when you took him back. I'm glad you jumped right off this rollercoaster, with minor injuries. Can you imagine years with this guy? Children with him?

 

Bullet dodged

[Karen855]

These guys don't like to chase after new women, they go After the easiest kill... He knows you, make no mistake, chances are he will try again with you than go after someone new... Give it a month or so ... Only then can you tell he's out - understood it and stays away...

 

My friend said the same. She said, he will come back one day and make contact. A decent man wouldn't abuse any woman so she said don't expect him to respect you enough to leave you alone. She said in his eyes, he has abused me because he thinks I deserved to be punished hence will leave me alone for a short while as punishment. Once that subsides, he will look to manipulate me back.

 

He looks like a bloody psycho to me!

[Karen855]

Here are some ideas for you. It may be a good idea to write up your own. This will strengthen you and your future interactions & relationships.

 

12 Core Boundaries To Live By in Life, Dating, & Relationships | Baggage Reclaim by Natalie Lue

 

 

The Guide to Strong Boundaries

 

 

 

The whole cheating thing, I too, think, if that's what you want to do, rbd the relationship. I'll be hurt. But not as hurt as cheated on. But, I think for him, it was control. His control. A sense of control over you too. Especially when you took him back. I'm glad you jumped right off this rollercoaster, with minor injuries. Can you imagine years with this guy? Children with him?

 

Bullet dodged

 

Thank you, I will read the links you sent me. Yes, definitely a sense of control. Tbh, even though he cheated, I still loved him but my feeling did change for him. I lost my respect for him as a man, a son, a bf, and a father.

 

I didn't want a cheater, or an abuser to love me. He was behaving like I should he grateful for his love. It made me feel crap about myself. Just took me a while to get out of the mess. A part of me was clinging onto the good times we had, the laughs and cuddles and fun.....being in a relationship and falling in love was what I was clinging on.

 

But now I feel so different. I was mourning the relationship and let go of it. Only today I have come to realise I don't feel anything for him as a person now....

 

I'm starting to feel better after speaking to everyone this evening on LS.... This quote helps me through my darks time ..." You took the best of me and gave me the worst of you"

[anna121]

I am sorry that happened to you.

 

He is such an enormous LOSER. It's a miracle he actually remembers to breathe through his mouth.

 

Be organized, prepared, aware and don't hesitate to reach down and twist his b&*ls if he dares to manipulate you again. Um, figuratively of course.

[sandylee1]

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I think he was a serial cheater.

 

Cancelling the holiday too showed his true colours I guess. He abused me for cancelling the holiday as well.[/quote]

 

That's the thing, some cheaters want you and the extra on the side. It's greed.

 

He tried to get you back for the holiday. He's a user through and through. You can do way better than him. You have good credentials and your in a position to meet professionals who can support themselves , not a parasite like him.

 

He must think you were born yesterday to fall for his crappie charm to get you back.

 

You are a great advert , for how to act when you get dumped. I just love it.

 

You dropped your standards being with him and he's just jealous of how good your life is compared to his. What a fool he is.