jen1447 Posted September 2, 2015 Share Posted September 2, 2015 Open marriages are for people that have satisfactory marriages and good sexlives and have exceptional communication and are open and honest with each other. for those people open marriages can work. People that try to veil affairs under the guise of open marriages always go down in flames because the underlying problems and dissatisfactions and deceit are still there and the open marriage is being used as a ruse to develop the affair and to get out of the bad marriage. To have a successful open marriage, one must fix the marriage and have a successful marriage first. In an instance such as this, if she were to ask him if they could have an open marriage and he said, "fine!', Their marriage would be broke open like rotten eggshell in a matter of weeks anyway because the marriage is a disaster and she would just be using that as means to move forward with the OM. Thanks, but I'm more interested in her opinions/answers. Also I should add, I in no way was hoping and counting on having a relationship with OM. I have VERY strong feelings for him and if he were to officially divorce his wife, I may consider having an open relationship with him but in no way whatsoever do I expect anything to come of it. What's his relationship like with his wife? Link to post Share on other sites
Author humor.me Posted September 2, 2015 Author Share Posted September 2, 2015 I have no idea. TBH, we hardly speak of either of our marriages. My H would be in NO WAY for a polygamy relationship. I think he'd freak out more if I were to ask him about that than me telling him about the affair. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted September 2, 2015 Share Posted September 2, 2015 You are now my new idol. "I'm no hero ...." What was that from, Batman? Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted September 2, 2015 Share Posted September 2, 2015 I have no idea. TBH, we hardly speak of either of our marriages. My H would be in NO WAY for a polygamy relationship. I think he'd freak out more if I were to ask him about that than me telling him about the affair. K thanks, that's all I need to know. Carry on. (btw I assume you don't mean polygamy as in being married to more than one person. Polyamory just means multiple concurrent romantic interests or relationships.) Link to post Share on other sites
nightmare01 Posted September 2, 2015 Share Posted September 2, 2015 I have no idea. TBH, we hardly speak of either of our marriages. My H would be in NO WAY for a polygamy relationship. I think he'd freak out more if I were to ask him about that than me telling him about the affair. At this point I'm just curious. How do you feel about polygamy? Could you handle being in that sort of relationship with your spouse sleeping with other women? I personally find the concept not for me, however I grant that many out there are fine with it. So my feeling is that if everyone is open and honest about everything - well I guess it's ok then. Again - not for me though. What I detest the most about cheating is the lies and the manipulation that goes with them. That's the real soul killer. Link to post Share on other sites
Author humor.me Posted September 2, 2015 Author Share Posted September 2, 2015 Hahaha I am such a noob to this. But yes... I meant polyamory. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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