Bobbi7 Posted September 4, 2015 Share Posted September 4, 2015 This is the second time I met up with my meet up friend. I usually do the contacting, she does follow through with plans and replies back, however she never initiates contact. Now, we're both in a shyness meet up group, but I doubt she's that shy to reach out. I mean she tells me she goes out with friends, and I'm thinking why she doesn't invite me to tag along. I don't know, she mentions her birthday is coming up and that she's going skydiving, doesn't bother to ask if I want to go..I don't know. I don't want to pursue a one sided friendship. We met in May, so the "she just met you" excuse doesn't apply. I see other people on meetup that instantly become the besties. Socializing just doesn't guarantee a damn friendship! Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted September 5, 2015 Share Posted September 5, 2015 Have you discuss this with her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bobbi7 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Share Posted September 8, 2015 Have you discuss this with her? No, I haven't. She mentioned her birthday is coming up in 3 weeks and said that she's going skydiving. I assume she's going with her friends, she didn't invite me or say if I wanted to tag along...she is being rude? She tells me that I can text her whatever to hang out, but half of the time I always text her first. And I find myself always intiating contact with people that act half ass towards me. Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted September 8, 2015 Share Posted September 8, 2015 No, I haven't. She mentioned her birthday is coming up in 3 weeks and said that she's going skydiving. I assume she's going with her friends, she didn't invite me or say if I wanted to tag along...she is being rude? She tells me that I can text her whatever to hang out, but half of the time I always text her first. And I find myself always intiating contact with people that act half ass towards me. Are you a man? If you are, chances are she's giving you the blow off like other women do with men they have no interest in. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bobbi7 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Share Posted September 8, 2015 Are you a man? If you are, chances are she's giving you the blow off like other women do with men they have no interest in. No, I'm a woman. Link to post Share on other sites
scooby-philly Posted September 13, 2015 Share Posted September 13, 2015 No, I haven't. She mentioned her birthday is coming up in 3 weeks and said that she's going skydiving. I assume she's going with her friends, she didn't invite me or say if I wanted to tag along...she is being rude? She tells me that I can text her whatever to hang out, but half of the time I always text her first. And I find myself always intiating contact with people that act half ass towards me. Ok - thanks for clearing up your gender - I'll assume you are not interested in her romantically but as friends as you said yourself "your meetup FRIEND" NO offense intended - but please go back and read your own writing. You met her in a SHYNESS group---correct? Perhaps she's just uncomfortable with new people early on. Or, she has a good group of friends already and doesn't want more friends - she's just in the group to make her overall life easier. You also said you text her first "half the time" - isn't that the way it's supposed to be - i mean 50/50? How about this approach....when you do talk to her and she mentions plans then graciously ask if you can tag along? Maybe she'll say she'd love to have you....she may just not feel comfortable or just even think about inviting you - you won't know until you try. Worst case, she'll say no and that proves either she's not that interested in you as a friend and you can move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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