treehugger101 Posted September 7, 2015 Share Posted September 7, 2015 My Boyfriend and I just spent the weekend together, went to a convention, stayed at a hotel and had a good time at this event. BUT there were some things that happened that he disliked. For instance, at this convention there were autograph sessions with the guests, so I waited in line to meet some of them, and would pull out my phone, while my Boyfriend was standing there with me, I did not lean against him, or cuddle him, or hold his hand or kiss him, just focused on my phone. BUT he did the same, pulled out his phone and was on it, then he decided to take off and walk around since waiting in line was boring. He ends up telling me later on that he disliked how I was into my phone and not paying attention to him. Like focused on him and only him only. Another instance was that later that evening at the same convention, they had a concert and a rave with music, dancing, etc. I have never been a fan of that style of music, but I decided to check it out, because my Boyfriend enjoys that style of tunes. ALSO because I am also writing a review and snapping photos of this event for my own website so I was hanging with him, while also covering this event. Anyway during the concert, when we were first let inside, the performer I wanted to see was already playing and I missed part of their set, so I ran to the front, leaving my man behind, and manged to snap some photos and see the last minutes of the performer. After my Boyfriend and I took off to his car and get some glow sticks then came back to the concert, as soon as entered another performer dressed up in this outfit, was performing so I again ran to snap some photos and my Boyfriend didn't like this, he instead wanted me to tell him "Hey BRB need to take a photo" THEN leave. Not just leave him there standing still. So he disliked how I ran off and did that. After snapping the photos, my Boyfriend who had brought his camera, was going to take his camera back to the car, so I was left alone for a bit. I then took off and walked around the convention to pass the time, and wait for my Boyfriend to return. He did and I went back to look for him, and him and I hung out, hearing the music. As I was standing there with glow sticks in hand, some of the people asked me, if they could buy 1 off me, I said no and just gave them the stick for free. This one guy asked me for one, I handed him one and he gave me a hug in return saying thanks, then returned to his friends to enjoy the show. This is where it goes bad. My Boyfriend says he heard that guy and his friend or friends talking amongst themselves and saying that I was single, because I wasn't dancing with my Boyfriend. These guys didn't know if we were a couple of not. So my Boyfriend says he heard them talking and then says he disliked how that guy hugged me and my Boyfriend thinks I was dancing with that guy who asked for the glow stick! I WAS NOT dancing with that guy. I didn't even dance period. I was standing still, just moving back and forth, I didn't even dance with my Boyfriend. So my Boyfriend disliked that I didn't dance with him. He kept going on later on that night about wanting to dance with me etc. But we didn't dance and in the end he said the music wasn't all that great anyway but he again wanted us to dance. So what do you think of these situations and what should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
clam Posted September 7, 2015 Share Posted September 7, 2015 Frankly, the whole date sounds obnoxious. You running around snapping pictures, you fixated on your phone, leaving the event to run out to buy glow sticks, him running to the car to ditch his camera (why couldn't he just hold onto the darn thing?) I don't see where you really interacted together much at all. Doesn't really seem like a date; more like two people who attended an event together. You both seem very young. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Jules Dash Posted September 7, 2015 Share Posted September 7, 2015 I think this is one of those situations where the saying "there is two sides to every story" really comes into play. You probably both contributed generously in your own way to a funky weekend. Yes, from the way it is laid out here, your boyfriend sounds insecure but if you contributed to situations that pushed some boundaries of insecurity or awkwardness, he cannot be completely at fault. Link to post Share on other sites
Jacob_Duluoz Posted September 7, 2015 Share Posted September 7, 2015 I would suggest actively trying to socialize together. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
madjac74 Posted September 7, 2015 Share Posted September 7, 2015 First of all the glow stick for a hug sounds pretty sketchy. Why couldn't you just direct him where to buy his own? Regardless your boyfriend is insecure and unsure of your relationship and with good reason. You paid him very little attention and when you weren't running off after some band like a little school girl...you were buried in your phone. I think you guys should just be friends since there isn't anything romantic here 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author treehugger101 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Share Posted September 7, 2015 I have my own website where I review events, whats wrong with covering an event while also hanging with my Boyfriend? And plus this convention wasn't selling glow sticks so we bought and brought our own for the event. People just happened to ask me for them since I did have a few and was friendly enough to hand them out. Anyway him and I talked it all over and everything is fine now. Link to post Share on other sites
joseb Posted September 7, 2015 Share Posted September 7, 2015 . Anyway him and I talked it all over and everything is fine now. Is this the same boyfriend you say you dont love and is too clingy, too untidy, too...everything else, who you are constantly fighting with? Please just break up with him already. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Maggie4 Posted September 7, 2015 Share Posted September 7, 2015 You are just being yourself. You two are not compatible. There will be many more similar situations down the road. He won't like it. Link to post Share on other sites
Ami1uwant Posted September 7, 2015 Share Posted September 7, 2015 This isn't paying attention 24/7... Issue...he standing there and wants yo interact with you while you are standing in line. You won't so he pulls out his phone ( you are already on yours) Issue...it doesn't take much to tell him " hey I'm going up to the stage to take a few pics " Issue...you aren't behaving like you two are a couple. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author treehugger101 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Share Posted September 7, 2015 Well him and I are working things out now and all is well. Link to post Share on other sites
WonderKid Posted September 7, 2015 Share Posted September 7, 2015 Im so poor I can't even afford to pay attention so I know the struggle O.o Link to post Share on other sites
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