Author Popsicle Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 "Meet" meaning that is where you first met your girlfriend or boyfriend.
fitnessfan365 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Approaching women @ the gym has become kind of a social taboo. The ironic thing is that many of these same women will complain about out of shape men writing them on their dating profiles. Maybe if they were more open to men approaching @ the gym, it wouldn't be an issue. LOL Personally, I think it'd be great if more people met at the gym. Loving fitness and being healthy seems like a great place to start. But as I said before, many women hate being approached there. As a personal trainer I've had many female clients tell me that the main reason why they wear headphones is to discourage men from talking to them. 3
Author Popsicle Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 So I guess this never happens?
sydneysider1978 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I know a couple of couples that have met at a cross fit gym and martial arts clubs. But this are group activity gyms that encourage members to work together, attract a certain type of person and often have social events. At a more typical globo-gym where people (girls) just want to get on with it, listen to their music and do their routine, not so much. As the other poster said, earphones in = doesn't want to be disturbed. Maybe you could hang out in the cafe / smoothie bar, it would be better to chat to girls after they are done. 1
Lansing Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 At my local gym there is a guy that sits on the rowing machine all of the time and I see him chatting up girls that sit on the machine beside him.... I can see the girls are just trying to work out but often he is sitting there on the machine and not even working out and talking to them while they are rowing! It kind of makes me cringe actually. I saw he got one lady's e-mail or phone number. She looked like 10 years older than him. Seemed really awkward. I agree probably not an ideal spot to meet a mate but if you are a girl interested in a guy a smile and a "hello" or something would go a long way to getting the guy to take a chance if he was also interested. 1
Author Popsicle Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 At my local gym there is a guy that sits on the rowing machine all of the time and I see him chatting up girls that sit on the machine beside him.... I can see the girls are just trying to work out but often he is sitting there on the machine and not even working out and talking to them while they are rowing! It kind of makes me cringe actually. I saw he got one lady's e-mail or phone number. She looked like 10 years older than him. Seemed really awkward. I agree probably not an ideal spot to meet a mate but if you are a girl interested in a guy a smile and a "hello" or something would go a long way to getting the guy to take a chance if he was also interested. Hmm, maybe I'll join a gym and try it.
lino Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Like another member said, it's a taboo for men to do the heinous act of approaching a woman in a gym. The reverse is unsurprisingly acceptable though, even welcomed... Funny that In my early 20s I met two girls in my gym at the time. Both approached me and I had no problem with it. Both were pretty air headed girls though. 1
joseb Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 I just got back from the gym. There was a cute girl there that I thought about chatting up, but really it feels a bit awkward approaching in the gym. But yeah popsicle, if you do the approaching, it may be a good hunting ground 1
Author Popsicle Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 But yeah popsicle, if you do the approaching, it may be a good hunting ground Really? I'm imagining hitting the jackpot because everyone else is too scared to approach anyone. LOL 1
MrMeh Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Gotten two numbers. Pretty decent considering there have only been four attractive girls at my gym since mine is primarily a 'dudes' gym ( other two were taken). I think the biggest tip I can give is just having a slight smile, while also being serious about your workout. 2
oberkeat Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 Most gyms have group fitness classes. Try approaching some guy at one of those. It seems to be more acceptable for folks to strike up conversations in those settings if they see you're a regular. I take yoga classes and I've made some platonic friends through those, where people chat after class. 1
Author Popsicle Posted September 10, 2015 Author Posted September 10, 2015 I think the biggest tip I can give is just having a slight smile, while also being serious about your workout. I'm guessing your talking about eye contact here?
LookAtThisPOst Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Approaching women @ the gym has become kind of a social taboo. The ironic thing is that many of these same women will complain about out of shape men writing them on their dating profiles. Maybe if they were more open to men approaching @ the gym, it wouldn't be an issue. LOL Personally, I think it'd be great if more people met at the gym. Loving fitness and being healthy seems like a great place to start. But as I said before, many women hate being approached there. As a personal trainer I've had many female clients tell me that the main reason why they wear headphones is to discourage men from talking to them. I know, right? Yet people here post constantly here about how to ask a woman out at work, when everyone knows THAT'S a social taboo more so than the gym. I mean, you have the same interests, hobbies, and goals in common, yet women f'ing HATE it when men try to approach them at the gym. Though, I wouldn't do it in the middle of their reps or on the treadmill....but I try to catch them in line at the water fountain or hanging by the desk chilling out and such. I would say, esp. if you've been going to the same gym for a while, seeing the SAME women...after THAT time you can approach and I don't see why not if that's the case. 1
mr_dave Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Me me me! I did! I met my first love at the gym, we were together three and a half years. I had seen her around, and said hi to her a few times. When I saw her doing crunches on the mat I knew I had to go over and introduce myself. She was wearing a vest top that could barely contain her boobs, and nice tight leggings. I was absolutely terrified! The mat next to her was free, so I sat down, trembling, and did a half-arsed set of bicycle crunches - whilst trying to hide a semi! We had a nice chat and the rest (and her unfortunately, she left me for another guy) was history. 1
LookAtThisPOst Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Me me me! I did! I met my first love at the gym, we were together three and a half years. I had seen her around, and said hi to her a few times. When I saw her doing crunches on the mat I knew I had to go over and introduce myself. She was wearing a vest top that could barely contain her boobs, and nice tight leggings. I was absolutely terrified! The mat next to her was free, so I sat down, trembling, and did a half-arsed set of bicycle crunches - whilst trying to hide a semi! We had a nice chat and the rest (and her unfortunately, she left me for another guy) was history. Right, just think of how many hold true to this silly, "I don't meet people at the gym" rule and probably have regretted not having gone down that road. 1
popcornpuff Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 I think the biggest tip I can give is just having a slight smile, while also being serious about your workout. I got a girl's number at the gym doing this once. I was a gym regular and she was as well, and every time I saw her there I flashed her a quick smile before working on my machine. After seeing me there a few times she got curious and just had to go and talk to me. Of course, you do have to genuinely be working out. Go to the gym just to approach women and you'll get labeled as a creep pretty quickly. 1
introverted1 Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 I dated a guy from my gym for a while. The flirtation leading up to the dating was awesome! Luckily for me, when we broke up he moved to another gym. That's the only reason I can think there'd be a taboo (aside from obvious stuff like don't start chatting someone up mid-set): if things don't work out, can you easily change workout times or location or will you have to keep running into each other? 1
hotpotato Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 If you want to meet people at the gym, more power to you. Id imagine its easier to approach if youre a girl and/or in a more laid back type fitness center. I am the type who wants to get in and get out. I have a lot to do in a relatively short amount of time. Then theres the prospect of breaking up and still using the same gym as the ex. For me working out/gym time is a drama free zone.
Versacehottie Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 There are cute guys at the gym. You already know you share common interests with fitness and health. It would be a missed opportunity NOT to go after someone there that catches your eye. And it's something you go to regularly so you have a chance for it to build vs one night at a bar. That said, since it is so taboo (i agree even more than work which is silly!), you will probably have to make the first move. IMO, cooler and better bf material guys, don't want to do that at gym because they don't want to be labeled a creep. Also a lot of cute girls reject super hard at the gym--like pissed! It's actually funny. You also want to be really selective about your choice there since it's almost like a neighbor thing. Unless you don't love your gym and don't mind changing. Keep in mind if you open the door with someone for sake of being nice or without a pretty good idea you'd want to go on a date, you could get a clinger. 1
wb1988 Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 I go to the gym 3 times a week and there is always 1 girl that I'd love to chat up. Have I ever? No way! It's frequently the same people at that time and I don't want to move gym over silly awkwardness that I got myself into. However there are some things I think (just my hunch, not from experience). If a girl is wearing makeup, has some sort of perfume on or has made some sort of effort to look attractive (i.e. is wearing an outfit that is obviously fashionable) then she's probably more likely to being open for approach or at least will react less 'feminist' if she regrets you. If she's wearing less than fashionable clothing, is very sweaty (if they feel icky they probably won't feel sexy and will be uncomfortable towards approaches), has bad facial expression, has earphones or a cap on then definitely don't try it. Also similar to a club it might be easier when she has a friend that way you can gauge her friends reaction to find out what she's really thinking.
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