A new low for MM

[wbm665]

I finally worked up the courage to end things and the man faked a heart attack. Put me back on the wheel for about 2 weeks.

 

Then last week while at my house he got a text from the wife where she called him sweetie. Doesn't sound like a man who supposedly filed for divorce and served papers on Aug 21.

 

Then today magically his move to a new house fell thru, so I ended it again.

 

What does the man do... Claims to have chest pains again. For pity sake man, grow up.

 

Now I am questioning whether his daughter really did attempt suicide 6 weeks ago. What kind of freak makes this crap up.

[CarrieT]

What kind of freak makes this crap up.

 

One that doesn't want to let go and is trying whatever works (and so far it has!?!?) to keep you...

[Pastypop]

It's probably just heartburn from his lunch. Tell that liar to take a Zantac and get lost. Or better yet, some other drug to help him with his delusional behavior.

[S2B]

I finally worked up the courage to end things and the man faked a heart attack. Put me back on the wheel for about 2 weeks.

 

Then last week while at my house he got a text from the wife where she called him sweetie. Doesn't sound like a man who supposedly filed for divorce and served papers on Aug 21.

 

Then today magically his move to a new house fell thru, so I ended it again.

 

What does the man do... Claims to have chest pains again. For pity sake man, grow up.

 

Now I am questioning whether his daughter really did attempt suicide 6 weeks ago. What kind of freak makes this crap up.

 

Oh wow, he has his own brand of manipulation.

 

IF he filed for divorce it is public record. Have you checked with your court system?

 

My bet goes to no filing.

 

I suggest not even communicating with him until his divorce is final and he can prove it to you.

[anika99]

Any man who can tell such manipulative and elaborate lies is a very disturbed person. Consider yourself lucky that you have seen him for who he really is and get yourself out of this affair.

[privategal]

Have you considered your own health and such? I know the anxiety and stress of ending my affair had me not eating right or sleeping well...my hair was falling out...every contact with him was like a literal brushburn...

That "sweetie" text...oh my...I think you KNOW whats going on here but you just dont know how to face the end.

You've just got to pull the plug.

Wouldn't it be so much more peaceful forcing him to focus on his own marriage and life giving him zero acess to yours?

I would love to see you move forward from this nightmare and have a peaceful Thanksgiving and Christmas without having to mother and care for a man who is basically behaving like a boy and who cannot commit, make decisions, or tell the truth.

He doesn't have an ow in you, he has a mother.

Do you really want him? Respect him? Does he deserve you?

Its time friend. Be strong.

[gettingstronger]

He sounds like a manipulative wuss- stay away and consider yourself lucky-Take care!

[wbm665]

Have you considered your own health and such? I know the anxiety and stress of ending my affair had me not eating right or sleeping well...my hair was falling out...every contact with him was like a literal brushburn...

That "sweetie" text...oh my...I think you KNOW whats going on here but you just dont know how to face the end.

You've just got to pull the plug.

Wouldn't it be so much more peaceful forcing him to focus on his own marriage and life giving him zero acess to yours?

I would love to see you move forward from this nightmare and have a peaceful Thanksgiving and Christmas without having to mother and care for a man who is basically behaving like a boy and who cannot commit, make decisions, or tell the truth.

He doesn't have an ow in you, he has a mother.

Do you really want him? Respect him? Does he deserve you?

Its time friend. Be strong.

 

This, this all of this!!

 

I am thinner now then I was in college. I haven't eaten properly in 2 months (about the time I discovered I was truly the other woman and he hadn't filed for divorce May 20th or June 19 or or or or). I actually went to my IC apt last week and told my Dr. that I thought my depression was taking over again because I couldn't sleep or eat. He told me NO, in fact I was a massive ball of anxiety because of how manipulative my MM was.

 

This morning, he called. Admitted that he found out last week that she hasn't accepted service for the divorce papers but wouldn't tell me because I would accuse him of lying about filing. Hmmmm... well when there is a pattern of lies, it is a little hard to accept your truth. (Please note, I don't believe he has even had them prepared. I do have the public record where he did file in June but withdrew them a few days later).

 

We work in the same field. I will have to deal with this man going forward. I know I am the lucky one though... I got out. He either lost the most amazing supportive woman in his life or ended up back with the woman who has slept with multiple friends of his. Good luck with that doll.

 

God, I feel for his kids though. If the one is really suicidal, I sincerely hope she can find the strength to keep on keeping on.

[anika99]

I read your first thread where you spoke a lot about his wife and said she cheated on him. Having realized what an incredible liar your MM is, do still believe everything he says about his spouse?

[Goodbye]

This, this all of this!!

 

I am thinner now then I was in college. I haven't eaten properly in 2 months (about the time I discovered I was truly the other woman and he hadn't filed for divorce May 20th or June 19 or or or or). I actually went to my IC apt last week and told my Dr. that I thought my depression was taking over again because I couldn't sleep or eat. He told me NO, in fact I was a massive ball of anxiety because of how manipulative my MM was.

 

This morning, he called. Admitted that he found out last week that she hasn't accepted service for the divorce papers but wouldn't tell me because I would accuse him of lying about filing. Hmmmm... well when there is a pattern of lies, it is a little hard to accept your truth. (Please note, I don't believe he has even had them prepared. I do have the public record where he did file in June but withdrew them a few days later).

 

We work in the same field. I will have to deal with this man going forward. I know I am the lucky one though... I got out. He either lost the most amazing supportive woman in his life or ended up back with the woman who has slept with multiple friends of his. Good luck with that doll.

 

God, I feel for his kids though. If the one is really suicidal, I sincerely hope she can find the strength to keep on keeping on.[/quote

 

 

Yuck. Sounds so much like my exmm. Btw, my exh wouldn't accept service so I had the notice of filing published in the local paper for 1week. Most states recognize this as notice of service for those who dodge the marshal. If he really wanted to get divorced, he'd figure it out. My exmm had a PhD but couldn't figure out how to get divorced. In other words, he couldn't be bothered.

[wbm665]

I read your first thread where you spoke a lot about his wife and said she cheated on him. Having realized what an incredible liar your MM is, do still believe everything he says about his spouse?

 

I've wondered that a time or two in the last few days. But in the end I guess I do. I happened to be in the car with him (on a business trip long before anything started between us) when she called. As a former WS spouse, she said all the right "cover my tracks" things. And I have seen the text messages from his kids when her 2nd lover started spending the night. He would show me as this was before all the lies started.

 

But in the end, it doesn't really matter. Doesn't matter if she was faithful or slept with 100 guys. He is still the liar.

[S2B]

This, this all of this!!

 

I am thinner now then I was in college. I haven't eaten properly in 2 months (about the time I discovered I was truly the other woman and he hadn't filed for divorce May 20th or June 19 or or or or). I actually went to my IC apt last week and told my Dr. that I thought my depression was taking over again because I couldn't sleep or eat. He told me NO, in fact I was a massive ball of anxiety because of how manipulative my MM was.

 

This morning, he called. Admitted that he found out last week that she hasn't accepted service for the divorce papers but wouldn't tell me because I would accuse him of lying about filing. Hmmmm... well when there is a pattern of lies, it is a little hard to accept your truth. (Please note, I don't believe he has even had them prepared. I do have the public record where he did file in June but withdrew them a few days later).

 

We work in the same field. I will have to deal with this man going forward. I know I am the lucky one though... I got out. He either lost the most amazing supportive woman in his life or ended up back with the woman who has slept with multiple friends of his. Good luck with that doll.

 

God, I feel for his kids though. If the one is really suicidal, I sincerely hope she can find the strength to keep on keeping on.

 

I think the error is constantly answering his calls. That you can control.

 

He just keeps lying more and it's a waste of energy to even listen to him.

 

Tell him no more personal talk. It's time for you to move forward and in order to do that no more personal talk.

 

If he has business to discuss then so be it - but make sure he knows the discussion is about business only.

 

Tell him you're tired of his crap and wish to eliminate that part from your life.

 

 

He's so full of it - it's disgusting.

[Lois_Griffin]

I finally worked up the courage to end things and the man faked a heart attack. Put me back on the wheel for about 2 weeks.

 

Then last week while at my house he got a text from the wife where she called him sweetie. Doesn't sound like a man who supposedly filed for divorce and served papers on Aug 21.

 

Then today magically his move to a new house fell thru, so I ended it again.

 

What does the man do... Claims to have chest pains again. For pity sake man, grow up.

 

Now I am questioning whether his daughter really did attempt suicide 6 weeks ago. What kind of freak makes this crap up.

LOL. Who makes this kind of crap up? The lying conniving kind who cheat on their wives and lie right through their teeth to them every single day. The kind who don't give a rat's ass WHO they deceive and destroy in order to be able to keep their filthy hand in the cookie jar.

 

I seriously hope you've eradicated this tumor from your life.

[hardlesson]

A narcissistic one...?

A manipulative man who is doing everything he can to control you and who is only concerned with his own need...?

 

I've been where you are. The things they come out with are amazing. He isn't going to leave his wife. You know that.

 

I guess I don't have to tell you what I think you should do. You already know x

[Zagan]

Well you already knew he was a lying little toad since he was running around with you behind his wifes back. Everything to come out of his mouth so far has kept you with him, in his eyes it's a tactic that works.. So why wouldn't you expect him to carry on telling porky pies?

[USEDOW]

He told me her dad was dying

he told me his daughter was wanting to kill herself

he told me he had told her he had been having an affair (i told her but she ignored it)

i do not know the truth except i know i told her the truth three years before the affair ended.

 

He told me he loved me after three years..... not before. it was true

 

 

Who the f.... knows

[Dutchman1]

Dear USEDOW,

 

 

Why don't you start your own thread.

There are people here who might be able to help, understand and elaborate.

 

 

I know a few people on this board who are wise.

 

 

Hang in there, don't lose faith. You and only you are responsible for your happiness.

 

 

Dutchman 1

 

 

PS, sorry to thread jack.