you_can_not_see_me Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 I wanna date and meet women, but I just feel so numb and unmotivated. I started Grad school two weeks ago and its been pretty disappointing in terms of meeting new people especially women. Most of my classmates don't seem to eager to make new friends and they just seem like they want to end class and be on their way. There are only 5 women in my classes (all my classes have the same people)and for some reason they look older and I don't find any of them all attractive. when I was in my under grad there were more women and I could easily find girls I found attractive. I honestly don't know how to meet women at this point outside of school and neither of the two has any girl I m interested in. I don't know if its only because of my non existent love life or something more but I m finding it more and more hard to put on a smile in my day to day dealings. Link to post Share on other sites
LilaMarie Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 One acronym: OLD 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted September 11, 2015 Author Share Posted September 11, 2015 One acronym: OLD I tried but I m not getting anything. No girl I was attracted to has gone beyond a few messages and sudden silence.In fact OLD makes me more depressed. I gives me the impression that only girls I m not into are ever interested. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kilgore Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 I tried but I m not getting anything. No girl I was attracted to has gone beyond a few messages and sudden silence.In fact OLD makes me more depressed. I gives me the impression that only girls I m not into are ever interested. How long have you been doing it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted September 11, 2015 Author Share Posted September 11, 2015 How long have you been doing it? I ve had an account for about a year, but I try sending out a bunch of messages 2-3 times a month and stop visiting the site when nothing happens. Link to post Share on other sites
kilgore Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 I ve had an account for about a year, but I try sending out a bunch of messages 2-3 times a month and stop visiting the site when nothing happens. That's not too long especially with low frequency. Putting yourself out there is the best way to be Link to post Share on other sites
LilaMarie Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 Same here...only the ones I'm not into are into me but don't give up. You must remain positive. When you least expect it, you might meet someone 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Maggie4 Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 Be a teaching assistant! then you will meet A LOT of undergrad girls who will think you're all that. You can't date them while they're in your class, but once they finish the course, you can date. Link to post Share on other sites
highseas Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 OP, I feel the same way you do. I don't know how to help you as I'm more or less in the same boat. OLD depresses me just like it does you. I write customized messages and read women's profiles. Hardly anyone ever responds, and the very rare messages come from those I'm not interested in. You do have one advantage over me: you're still in a school setting. You may not find women in your program/classes, but you still have the larger school setting. Where else are you going to find a higher concentration of young, single, females than the university? Go for it now somehow. I should have been more proactive back in the day. If you don't get moving, post-grad school will be even harder to meet young single women. Link to post Share on other sites
avintagegirl Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 If you are in grad school, there are still places to meet people. Universities have offices and women work in them. I can testify to that as I work in a department in a graduate school. There are also student gathering places. Beyond that, I have yet to see a university town that doesn't have a coffee house near. I too am in a graduate program and I get it - it is harder to meet people, but it is possible. Link to post Share on other sites
Qboro90 Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 Man your still at the Mecca of women and dating. Forget the girls in your class. Go to the general cafeteria or where people grab food. Go to the millions of school sponsored or promo events that colleges have. Most colleges regardless of size and enrollment have 1 activity on campus going on each day. Easiest? Go to the closest bars, cafe's, night Time spots that surround the school you're at. Link to post Share on other sites
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