oldshirt Posted September 14, 2015 Share Posted September 14, 2015 It's not the best advice but it's what you want to hear because you want to keep it moving forward and you don't want to go through the hassle of canceling the wedding despite the red flags. Think this through man. Repeated for truth again. Link to post Share on other sites
warshaw Posted September 14, 2015 Share Posted September 14, 2015 Do you guys run at the first sign of trouble in your relationships? Most/all of the advice in here has been terrible. Thanks end of topic You're not the one having serious doubts. You're not the one who is finally thinking clearly after years in a drug induced fog. You really think that after having one conversation her doubts are going to simply evaporate? If so you're in serious denial, which is understandable but very dangerous given the potential consequences. The advice you've been given on this thread by myself and others has been stellar, probably worthy of being published in a psychology journal, but you dismiss it as "terrible" because you're not able to accept it. This topic is far from over. Her doubts are just the beginning of problems that are going to plague you for years to come. I'm also wondering if some of her doubts are due to the fact that you cheated on her in a drunken stupor that you still can't explain. Does she ever mention that as a reason for her insecurities? Link to post Share on other sites
Author melbourneboy Posted September 14, 2015 Author Share Posted September 14, 2015 You're not the one having serious doubts. You're not the one who is finally thinking clearly after years in a drug induced fog. You really think that after having one conversation her doubts are going to simply evaporate? If so you're in serious denial, which is understandable but very dangerous given the potential consequences. The advice you've been given on this thread by myself and others has been stellar, probably worthy of being published in a psychology journal, but you dismiss it as "terrible" because you're not able to accept it. This topic is far from over. Her doubts are just the beginning of problems that are going to plague you for years to come. I'm also wondering if some of her doubts are due to the fact that you cheated on her in a drunken stupor that you still can't explain. Does she ever mention that as a reason for her insecurities? Can you not be such a dick! Topic is closed moron Link to post Share on other sites
spanz1 Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 everyone has cold feet before a wedding. Most never voice it out loud though. So do not feel she is doing something so shocking. Maybe you can take some of the stress of the wedding off of her? any planning or preparation work...do it for her or hire someone to do it. Let her concentrate on enjoying it, rather than her having to pull off this huge event. Link to post Share on other sites
Clockwork Posted September 19, 2015 Share Posted September 19, 2015 10 years is a long time to go without tying the knot. This is my guess, your problems started long before this and so did her questions. You've owned a house for 7 years and are just getting married now? Hmmm, something is amiss there. It doesn't sound like either of you wanted to marry and start the rest of your lives together so why does it surprise you that she's saying this now? Link to post Share on other sites
Tobin Posted September 19, 2015 Share Posted September 19, 2015 I wonder if there have been more discussions about canceling the wedding since this topic was first posted. Those types of misgivings don't go away after having one conversation about it. Link to post Share on other sites
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