LookAtThisPOst Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 Recently, during a throw back Thursday day on Facebook, I posted a long time high school group photo. I only had a handful of friends on FB from high school that tagged others that weren't my friends on FB, too. It got a great response as they haven't seen such a photo in a while. Anyway, most of everyone is married with chidren, but there were a few that were unmarried...at least I'm guessing as they still had their original last names. Some still looked pretty cute for their ages. That being said, have you ever had the thought of attempting to ask an old high school class mate? Link to post Share on other sites
popcornpuff Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 I've never done it myself, but I do like to imagine that the girls I liked back in high school would work out today if I tried reaching out to them. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 Can't say I have to be honest. I did half of my high school years in another country at an all girls school. The latter half was in the States where I felt like a big fish in a small pond and I don't really talk to any of the people from my high school in the U.S. None of those guys are guys I'd date. I never liked any of them in HS so I can't imagine liking them now. For the most part, a lot of them after high school seemed to peak where they either never went to college or are still in the same place doing the same things. I never dated them in high school and wouldn't now. Guys from college though, sure, that's a bit more realistic for me. But high school? No way. Link to post Share on other sites
nescafe1982 Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 Worth a shot... what have you got to lose? I have had a couple dudes write me from FB. It's never worked, of course. But they lost nothing by trying, and if I were single, who knows. Also, I'm married and kept my last name. You might friend them on FB and check them out a bit before asking them out... name changes or lack thereof means nothing, really Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 There are several people from my home town/school that I would ask out if I were to become divorced or widowed.. As long as you observe the rules of common courtesy and aren't some weirdo stalker creeper, I don't see anything wrong with it at all. I don't see how asking out an old schoolmates would be any different than anyone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted September 11, 2015 Author Share Posted September 11, 2015 Worth a shot... what have you got to lose? I have had a couple dudes write me from FB. It's never worked, of course. But they lost nothing by trying, and if I were single, who knows. Also, I'm married and kept my last name. You might friend them on FB and check them out a bit before asking them out... name changes or lack thereof means nothing, really Right...I looked around at this one woman's photos, saw just here and no men in her pictures with her. Of course, she could have her privacy settings set up and I don't see any kind of "relationship status" of being married. I sent her a friend request, so we'll see what happens. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 Well, we had a school reunion and I recognised the girls and recognised the male host (we were friends anyway - he invited me) but I didn't recognise any of the men. Not one. They were al bald and pot bellied. The women had kept themselves together kids or no kids. I said (too loudly I later learned) where is Andy? He was sitting opposite me and I just didn't realise who he was at all. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 Pretty much most of the people I cared about in HS I never lost contact with. I also live in a relatively small town so I could still see many classmates just around the area. When FB came out, their algorithm sent many of my classmates into my queue as I got requests from them or they popped up as people I may know. IRL, at a homecoming FB game & post game picnic I did end up reconnecting with a guy who had been ahead of me in school & we dated for a few years. Part of the joy of FB is you do get to easily be "involved" with people from your past. Recently I did find some folks I had searched for years ago when I 1st joined because they just joined. Next month I will be meeting a group of college friends for the weekend about 4 hours away from where I currently live. The worst that will happen is they ignore your friend request or decline your invitation to meet. But either way, you need to try. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted September 12, 2015 Author Share Posted September 12, 2015 I never liked any of them in HS so I can't imagine liking them now. Really? Even 20 to 25 years later you wouldn't consider dating someone from high school? Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted September 12, 2015 Share Posted September 12, 2015 Well, there were only a couple of guys that I had a crush on in high school. One reached out to me first, but he is married. The other I have not been in contact with but know he is married because his sister became a movie star and he is also pretty visible so I was able to look him up and see what happened to him. Those would be the only two I had a thing for but as you can see those are a dead end. If they were single I might go for it though. Those sorts of rekindled feelings can be quite powerful. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted September 12, 2015 Author Share Posted September 12, 2015 Well, there were only a couple of guys that I had a crush on in high school. One reached out to me first, but he is married. The other I have not been in contact with but know he is married because his sister became a movie star and he is also pretty visible so I was able to look him up and see what happened to him. Those would be the only two I had a thing for but as you can see those are a dead end. If they were single I might go for it though. Those sorts of rekindled feelings can be quite powerful. I wonder if some are rather weird about having people from high school all of a sudden wanting to reach out to them all of a sudden. Some don't mind it and actually enthralled with the idea that Facebook can be a means to be in touch with those you haven't been in touch with via through high school or even college alumni. While others figure, "I never had a close friendship with these people, even high school and after." They feel no need to accept a friends request from an old high school class mate only because, "Hey, I knew that guy/gal" and nothing more. Some may be rather suspicious even. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted September 12, 2015 Author Share Posted September 12, 2015 Well, we had a school reunion and I recognised the girls and recognised the male host (we were friends anyway - he invited me) but I didn't recognise any of the men. Not one. They were al bald and pot bellied. The women had kept themselves together kids or no kids. I said (too loudly I later learned) where is Andy? He was sitting opposite me and I just didn't realise who he was at all. Why, was Andy one of the hot guys back in the day, but now....not so much? Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted September 12, 2015 Share Posted September 12, 2015 I wonder if some are rather weird about having people from high school all of a sudden wanting to reach out to them all of a sudden. Some don't mind it and actually enthralled with the idea that Facebook can be a means to be in touch with those you haven't been in touch with via through high school or even college alumni. While others figure, "I never had a close friendship with these people, even high school and after." They feel no need to accept a friends request from an old high school class mate only because, "Hey, I knew that guy/gal" and nothing more. Some may be rather suspicious even. I can't speak for what others mind, but I don't mind at all, it's just a friend request. Beyond that, I only mind when the friend is taken but wants to chat it up with me. I don't want to be involved in that dubious mess, but a mere friend request is nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted September 13, 2015 Share Posted September 13, 2015 Why, was Andy one of the hot guys back in the day, but now....not so much? Not to me he wasn't, he was a and still is a close friend of the guy who organised the event which is why it seemed odd he wasn't there. Turned out he was but he had changed so much I didn't recognise him. I was never attracted to the 'hot guys' at school anyway. In fact I can't even think of any I would call 'hot'. The one I liked was pleasant looking, short and a gentleman. A lovely, normal guy. His personality was the thing I noticed first and then his looks grew on me. Link to post Share on other sites
circlesinfinity Posted September 13, 2015 Share Posted September 13, 2015 I have lost contact with everyone, on purpose, from high school. When I see photos of them I think of all the bad times I had in middle school and depression I had in high school, I felt like no one really cared what was going on in my life in high school. My stomach starts to turn... I have asked on guy for his number that I went to high school with...i got it, texted him and he ignored me from than on...he talks to everyone else but me. I got annoyed and finally removed him from my friends list. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted September 13, 2015 Author Share Posted September 13, 2015 I have lost contact with everyone, on purpose, from high school. When I see photos of them I think of all the bad times I had in middle school and depression I had in high school, I felt like no one really cared what was going on in my life in high school. My stomach starts to turn... Really? It bothers you THAT much?! It's been 25 years, I've had my trails and tribulations while in high school, but that's in the past and I figured with so much time having passed, people's personalities change since the high school days. What, you think if you were bullied then, you'll be bullied as 40-something year old when you go to a reunion? Link to post Share on other sites
circlesinfinity Posted September 13, 2015 Share Posted September 13, 2015 TE=LookAtThisPOst;6542674]Really? It bothers you THAT much?! It's been 25 years, I've had my trails and tribulations while in high school, but that's in the past and I figured with so much time having passed, people's personalities change since the high school days. What, you think if you were bullied then, you'll be bullied as 40-something year old when you go to a reunion? It is not them and I'm 28 not 40. The real issue is that I was treated badly only because I was an introvert and I guess my looks didn't match my personality. I found out most of them thought I was stuck up...which never mard sense, i mean what awkward teenager wants to talk to people who are teasing her? (Wtf!)plus a lot of them didn't "evolve" from being cool in highschool...they went off to college and still came back to the same thought patterns. I have changed a lot I don't want to revisit negativity from the past is all. I know a lot of them tried to find me on Facebook. Link to post Share on other sites
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