Sweetgirlie Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 My MM has recently moved. I had been in LC for the past few months..then he basically emailed: oh did you know I'm no longer in (my state). I knew he might be moving in the future he had talked about it with me but I had no idea it would be so soon and I took it really hard. I basically was a flood of tears yesterday. I asked where he moved to, and got no reply from him as of yet. Yes, we are in a ' break'I think. I took it very hard. Any advice?? Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
blue963 Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 Thats a really nasty thing to do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
eye of the storm Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 You were in LC so I am assuming the A was over. This is probably a good thing he moved. It may help in your recovering from the A. He really had no obligation to inform you he was moving anyway, which town is irrelevant. Use this as a jumping off point to move on. Ripping the bandaid off hurts, I am sorry you are in pain. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweetgirlie Posted September 11, 2015 Author Share Posted September 11, 2015 Thats a really nasty thing to do. Why do you think that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweetgirlie Posted September 11, 2015 Author Share Posted September 11, 2015 You were in LC so I am assuming the A was over. This is probably a good thing he moved. It may help in your recovering from the A. He really had no obligation to inform you he was moving anyway, which town is irrelevant. Use this as a jumping off point to move on. Ripping the bandaid off hurts, I am sorry you are in pain. Thank you. Basically sent him an email saying I missed him and was remembering good times we had, etc...that is when he said he had moved out of the state. Yes it hurts, yes I know it's time to move on, and basically never knew any man like him, he was special to me and was able to give emotionally and physically to me in ways my husband could not. No, I don't want to get divorced, and no he isn't either. Just hard when you fall in love! Link to post Share on other sites
cif Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 Were you looking to restart the A? He may be lying, not that it should matter... you should be in NC. Link to post Share on other sites
eye of the storm Posted September 11, 2015 Share Posted September 11, 2015 Sweetygirl, I really do understand it is hard. But you were in LC and then you send an email that was obviously a "hey let's hook up" email. Maybe he moved, maybe he didn't. What he did do was let you know very clearly that he was done with the A. IMHO Of course he can give to you in ways your H can't. You don't have to pay bills, figure our how to stretch paychecks, deal with screaming kids or pick up his dirty socks with him. As are fantasy, not reality. Reality cannot withstand the appeal of a fantasy. But fantasy cannot stand up to real life either. This is your chance to refocus on either fixing the issues in your M or how to leave your M. Good luck on getting thru this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweetgirlie Posted September 11, 2015 Author Share Posted September 11, 2015 Sweetygirl, I really do understand it is hard. But you were in LC and then you send an email that was obviously a "hey let's hook up" email. Maybe he moved, maybe he didn't. What he did do was let you know very clearly that he was done with the A. IMHO Of course he can give to you in ways your H can't. You don't have to pay bills, figure our how to stretch paychecks, deal with screaming kids or pick up his dirty socks with him. As are fantasy, not reality. Reality cannot withstand the appeal of a fantasy. But fantasy cannot stand up to real life either. This is your chance to refocus on either fixing the issues in your M or how to leave your M. Good luck on getting thru this. Yes it is very difficult. I know its not reality, but I really miss it and him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweetgirlie Posted September 11, 2015 Author Share Posted September 11, 2015 Were you looking to restart the A? He may be lying, not that it should matter... you should be in NC. Yes, but I really believe he moved. No reason to lie about it. House he lived in is for sale-they are gone. Yes, I was reaching out to him to restart it. Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Faust Posted September 12, 2015 Share Posted September 12, 2015 Having read your first thread, I got the impression you were more into him than he was into you. He has no consideration for your feelings. Hope you feel better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweetgirlie Posted September 12, 2015 Author Share Posted September 12, 2015 Having read your first thread, I got the impression you were more into him than he was into you. He has no consideration for your feelings. Hope you feel better. Really? From one post you got that? Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Faust Posted September 12, 2015 Share Posted September 12, 2015 (edited) Really? From one post you got that? I said having read your first thread not one post. And yes, that is my impression.having trouble linking on my phone, but anyone can go back through the profile and look at the history. Here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/other-man-woman/539955-how-long-wait Edited September 12, 2015 by Ms. Faust Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweetgirlie Posted September 12, 2015 Author Share Posted September 12, 2015 I said having read your first thread not one post. And yes, that is my impression.having trouble linking on my phone, but anyone can go back through the profile and look at the history. Here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/other-man-woman/539955-how-long-wait Guess so but nevertheless - Many other things written and said between us but I could be still in the fog. Link to post Share on other sites
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