Update: Neighbor taking bikini bottom off in front of my boyfriend

[LuckyLady13]

And constantly trying to get his attention.

 

My boyfriend was in the garage and there's a large window on each side. I looked out the back screen door and see her standing about 4 feet from the window of the garage taking her bikini bottom off trying to get his attention.

 

Also, we have a large driveway and this neighbor has a back yard. Instead of tanning in her bikini in the back yard, she jammed herself up against the chain link fence along our driveway in hopes he'd see her. One of the days she did this, the sun wasn't out. I'm pretty sure if she did get a tan on days the sun was actually out, she must have a waffle pattern from our fence along the side of her body.

 

I wasn't sure exactly where to post this. I have no idea really what to do. I've seen desperate moves before but nothing like this!

 

I'd like to know what other people would do in a situation like this.

[MrBojangles]

WorldStarHipHop loves to have videos of this type of stuff posted uncensored, to take viral.

[Friskyone4u]

Take a picture of her and show it to her husband or boyfriend.

 

If she does not have a husband or boyfriend, call the police and file a complaint.

 

And I assume you are sure your husband is NOT encouraging this from her, right????????

[angel.eyes]

If she's easily visible from the road or other adjacent public space while semi-nude, public exposure and indecency laws may apply. Contact your local police and see if an encouraging chat from them about underwear might be warranted.

[S2B]

Has your boyfriend been inappropriate with her?

 

My gut says he's involved with her. You might wish to check.

 

If he's not then call the police and report her.

[angel.eyes]

That was my first thought! They've been at it a while and she's getting bolder because you seem oblivious, OP.

[S2B]

Have you checked his phone?

 

What is he doing while she's giving him a nudie show? Is he watching? Is he interacting with her by playing along? I bet he is.

 

And I bet he's seeing her behind your back.

[LuckyLady13]

I'm going to have to find out if what's she does is illegal because I knew a guy two towns away who sunbathed nude every day in his back yard saying that it's legal to do on your own property. I remembered him saying that when I got over the initial shock that someone would actually do this. I've seen people shamelessly flirt before but not like this.

 

I had similar thoughts that he's somehow brought this on so I watched him like a hawk for about 2 weeks and the only thing he's guilty of is existing! I think she's going to seriously fall over our fence soon because he's ignoring her.

 

She looks so much like the guy she lives with that I thought they were brother and sister. This guy who I thought was her brother lives with his mom (even though he's at least 30). I then realized, every time she does this, the guy who I assumed was her brother is never there. I think he's her boyfriend or husband. I'm going to have to ask him what their relationship is.

 

Am I the only one who has ever experienced someone trying so absolutely desperately hard to get the attention of their SO? To this extent? I feel like this is extreme.

[S2B]

I'm going to have to find out if what's she does is illegal because I knew a guy two towns away who sunbathed nude every day in his back yard saying that it's legal to do on your own property. I remembered him saying that when I got over the initial shock that someone would actually do this. I've seen people shamelessly flirt before but not like this.

 

I had similar thoughts that he's somehow brought this on so I watched him like a hawk for about 2 weeks and the only thing he's guilty of is existing! I think she's going to seriously fall over our fence soon because he's ignoring her.

 

She looks so much like the guy she lives with that I thought they were brother and sister. This guy who I thought was her brother lives with his mom (even though he's at least 30). I then realized, every time she does this, the guy who I assumed was her brother is never there. I think he's her boyfriend or husband. I'm going to have to ask him what their relationship is.

 

Am I the only one who has ever experienced someone trying so absolutely desperately hard to get the attention of their SO? To this extent? I feel like this is extreme.

 

Have you checked his phone?

 

Stop thinking he's innocent. If he didn't enjoy it he wouldn't be anywhere she could see him. He is participating... You aren't being realistic about what's happening between them.

 

IF he didn't enjoy it - he wouldn't be there. He also would have reported her.

[LuckyLady13]

I haven't check his phone because I'm around him so much that I see he barely uses it. He isn't the texting type like I am and is rather antisocial and doesn't even talk to his own mother unless she calls him first. He's quite lazy, really.

 

I have been the one to notice what she's doing before he does about 90% of the time. When he's working in the garage, his head is down looking at a work table and 99.9% of the time he's out there, I am too!

 

The first few times she was plastered against our fence, I looked at him, he was working and I looked at her and back at him and I was totally confused after a while since he's ignoring her completely which seems to have pushed her to keep trying harder.

 

I have a stereo system hooked up in the garage and have music playing quite loud so we don't hear her. I'm closer to the door than he is and with music up that loud and not hearing her approach, I'm always the first one to look out the door when I turned around and...there she is again! Unless he walks out of the garage, he can't even see her most of the time. Inside the garage is really shaded and I noticed when I put the stereo on, she appears within 10 minutes of hearing music in our garage. I don't think she realizes I'm out there with him!

[LuckyLady13]

I so would be agreeing with you guys 100% if it wasn't for the fact that I own a business and run it out of this very garage I'm talking about so I'm always around (I need a vacation) and he can't be involved with her because I'm right here, I'd know.

 

I was suspicious that he was somehow bringing this on but I really did watch him. She's seriously nuts or something!

[LuckyLady13]

I forgot to mention something that I think is important. On 3 occasions in the past 2 months, at 2 in the morning, 4 in the morning and again 6 in the morning, I heard a guy yelling next door "you cheated on me" and just ranting and raving. He said "you're talking to all these dudes online that just want to **** you!".

 

If the guy I originally thought was her brother is her boyfriend or husband, seems he knows she's cheating on him repeatedly.

[jen1447]

Don't get paranoid - if you're not suspicious that's good enough, no need to manufacture it.

 

Does this woman just straight up take off her bottom, trim in full view and all that? Is there some pretense she's doing it under, like changing, or does she just take it off and leave it off? Does she even know you're around?

 

If it was me and it bothered me, I'd go have a word next time she's naked and ask her what's up with that.

[LuckyLady13]

The time I saw her take her bikini bottom off, I just happened to leave the garage to heat up some lunch in the micro so I wasn't even gone 5 minutes. It was nice out so I looked out the back door and saw her in front of the garage window, pull the bottom down and seriously just STAND THERE not moving. It was really bizarre!

[S2B]

Why don't you just walk out there when she's doing this - and ask her what the F she thinks she's doing?

 

Then tell her you're calling the cops for indecent exposure. No one is allied to get nude without a law being broken. Start calling. But confront her bare a$$ first so she knows you've seen her.

[S2B]

The time I saw her take her bikini bottom off, I just happened to leave the garage to heat up some lunch in the micro so I wasn't even gone 5 minutes. It was nice out so I looked out the back door and saw her in front of the garage window, pull the bottom down and seriously just STAND THERE not moving. It was really bizarre!

 

Sounds like druggie behavior.

What's weird is usually a gal takes her top off - taking her bottom off usually indicates he's already seen that part of her before.

[angel.eyes]

Please don't get into arguments with your neighbors. The long-term outcome is rarely pleasant. Involve the police and let them deal with the obscene view and crass behavior.

 

Now, what is unusual about this is the fact that she's plastered up against your fence or standing around in full view of your house/garage with no bottoms on. Why isn't she doing this on the other side of her property? Why are your husband (and you) treated to this wonderful view while her other neighbor is deprived? Something is rotten in Denmark! Where is your husband all day when you're running your business in the garage? Does this behavior ever happen when he's not around? Or only when you're both at home?

[LuckyLady13]

She knows when he's around because that's the only time she'll do this.

 

There is a restaurant on the other side of her house with a solid stockade type of fence so there's no one to bother on the other side of her property. We're the only people she can actually see.

 

S2B, the druggie behavior? You hit a nail right on the head! She looks out of it like she's high every day while the rest of the world has jobs. We have an anonymous drug task force line to call here but wouldn't you know, I tried that and nobody picks up the phone. I'm positive she has been high at times because my best friend was with me in the back yard and we watched her swaying, standing there putting lipstick on her whole face! She was too high to figure out where her lips were. We were laughing at her and I can't possibly feel sorry for her. Look at her behavior.

 

I'm going to keep trying that tip line until someone decides to do their job and pick up that phone!

[Qboro90]

Has your boyfriend been inappropriate with her?

 

My gut says he's involved with her. You might wish to check.

 

If he's not then call the police and report her.

 

 

Not sure how you have a "gut" feeling about this based of the information she gave. Innapropriate neighbor, attention craving, exhibitionist, are all more logical reasons behind it.

[marco1ca]

. I looked out the back screen door and see her standing about 4 feet from the window of the garage taking her bikini bottom off.

 

Address? j/k

 

She is an exhibitionist. Many exhibitionists simply get off by getting that kind of attention, and like it more so than actual sex.

[ShatteredLady]

She's a weird one! Keep trying to get the police interested. You don't want to get involved in this kind of thing. Living next to an exhibitionist is easy compared to living next to a crazy lady who thinks you're the enemy!!

[jen1447]

If you get the police involved they'll want some evidence before they take a real interest, so take photos when she gets naked. (Seriously.)

 

I doubt the drug line is interested in the possible (speculative) drug use of an individual - they moreso want to know about trafficking and locations of significant drug activity.

[Clarence_Boddicker]

She sounds mentally ill. Borrow someone's kids & have them inside the house. Set up some web cams. Turn on the garage stereo & see if she goes outside and does her thing. If so, call the cops. Of course don't let the kids see it.

[LuckyLady13]

Thanks for your responses, guys. You made me feel a lot better about this in 2 ways!

 

I was angry about this situation. Make no mistake about that from my ever so calm demeanor in my posts. And just seeing some of the anger sparked up in some posts made me feel more sane about how I was feeling. THANK YOU!!!!

 

Also, I like your ideas as to how to handle the situation. I'm going to combo your advice together into a "plan of attack" to get this resolved.

 

Believe me. Before I started watching my boyfriend (I immediately suspected he was bringing this on himself), I had visions of stringing him up by his nutsack in one of the tall trees behind the garage. Despite feeling that way..., I started watching him closely and when I saw how he was minding his own business and the most he did was take out the garbage to be anywhere near the driveway, my anger shifted toward her. He'd insist on taking my garbage out late at night twice a week which took a minute, at most, and if she saw that as encouragement, she really is mentally ill.

 

If there was a house on the other side of her property, I would imagine she would have been trying that house too.

 

I'm 100% positive she's doing heroin. I have a close friend who is an ENT in this town and he's tired of dealing with heroin overdoses and talks about the new batches coming in that are making the addicts combative and throwing punches at him. Black vans pull up in front of my house loaded with guys in bullet proof vests and full swat gear. They stop here for a pow-wow in front of my front gate before doing a bust. This town is...absolutely loaded with drug problems.

 

The cops are super nice guys with good intentions but we have 10 detectives and they are just in over their heads and don't know how to clean this up.

 

I do want to move out of this town. I'm working on that, actually. But, until then, I need to deal with the next door nutjob.

 

Am I seriously though...the only person who has had a crazy neighbor fall all over herself (or himself, if that's the case) trying to get the attention of your SO? To this extent??

[SSJROMANCE]

I so would be agreeing with you guys 100% if it wasn't for the fact that I own a business and run it out of this very garage I'm talking about so I'm always around (I need a vacation) and he can't be involved with her because I'm right here, I'd know.

 

I was suspicious that he was somehow bringing this on but I really did watch him. She's seriously nuts or something!

 

Maybe she's laying out and wants YOU?