cinnamonstix49 Posted May 15, 2005 Share Posted May 15, 2005 Hello again everyone. I am writing this time because I don't know who else to turn to or what else to do. I am in no way saying that I am suicidal, I just don't know what to do. My family is crazy. Seriously crazy. I've been to therapy, but it doesn't help, because they don't understand. It would probably help for you guys to know the past history of my family, but I don't have the time to write the Devil's Dictionary. But, here's a brief synopsis... my mom and dad were never together, my dad got a job in Russia when I was in third grade and I don't see him much. My mom got married to an alcoholic when I was really little and had a baby, my brother. The guy was abusive, mentally and emotionally... and on some occasions-physically. I hate him with all my heart. My little brother is following in his footsteps. Currently he is 11 years old, in the 6th grade, 5'0 and weighs over 200 lbs. He is OBSESSED with sex and talking dirty to everyone and everything ALL THE TIME. He won't stop! He gets in trouble at school for sexual harassment. At home he is physically and verbally abusive to EVERYONE, even the pets. My mom won't do anything and his dad doesn't want to be a part of his life. Last week he stole all of my jewlery and took it to school and gave it away to people. AGHH! I know everyone is going to write back with the explanation "he just needs a father figure" or something like that... so, please don't. I've talked to a therapist... a number of therapists actually, and my mother, grandparents, and anyone who is willing to listen, but nobody can tell me what to do. Help, please. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 15, 2005 Share Posted May 15, 2005 Maybe you could enroll him in Boy Scouts, or some sort of extra curricular activity that will challenge his mental faculties. A pre-adolescent boy with too much free time isn't a benefit to anyone. Especially when there's no father around to keep him in check. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cinnamonstix49 Posted May 15, 2005 Author Share Posted May 15, 2005 Thanks West. We put him in football once last year... he went to one practice and then skipped all the others. He is such a challenge to be around. But I never thought of scouts. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 15, 2005 Share Posted May 15, 2005 Hope it works out for him... he definitely needs something to challenge him while boosting his self-esteem. Link to post Share on other sites
Fun2BMe Posted May 16, 2005 Share Posted May 16, 2005 Or he can be sent to those summer camps that are tailored for kids to lose weight. He would get active and be around a different atmosphere that he may enjoy more. Sounds like his father abuses him and he needs to get away from that, the longer the better. Plus if he loses weight he'll start to feel better about that too. Link to post Share on other sites
soccorsilly Posted May 16, 2005 Share Posted May 16, 2005 Scouts is a fantastic idea. Another idea might be a local Boys and Girls Club, or even (and I am slipping on the name of the program) that program where a responsible adult will mentor a troubled kid. You know meet him on weekends, call to see how homework is doing go do stuff with him. Or, you could also take the tough love route and call the police--he stole your jewelry. At 15, I am not sure you want him in jail, but maybe a fright might be all it takes. Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted May 16, 2005 Share Posted May 16, 2005 Originally posted by Fun2BMe Sounds like his father abuses him and he needs to get away from that, the longer the better. Plus if he loses weight he'll start to feel better about that too. His father isn't a part of his life... therefore he can't abuse him. Originally posted by soccorsilly Or, you could also take the tough love route and call the police--he stole your jewelry. At 15, I am not sure you want him in jail, but maybe a fright might be all it takes. He's only 11... not 15. Link to post Share on other sites
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