I cheated. Help!

[warshaw]

You get the credit for coming clean even though she had no suspicions. Most cheaters don't. That says something about your character. That much said, you're in for a lot of ups and downs.

 

You say you'd never hurt her again, but how can you expect her to believe you if you don't even know how you got into that position in the first place.

 

I hope you have come to the conclusion that you will completely abstain from drinking going forward, if not, then you are not being honest with her or yourself when you say you will do everything in your power to never hurt her again.

[thecrucible]

I'm about to ruin my best friends life and all the blame is on me, I never want to experience this feeling again. I'm not religious but I'm praying she dosent think I'm a terrible person. I'm really not.

 

I don't get how ppl cheat and feel fine about it afterwords. And are married, with kids...

 

I felt how you felt when I cheated on someone and it was also a situation with drink. It changed a lot of things for me. I still drink but I wouldn't get really drunk and I don't really treat it the same way. It'll be easy for you to wind down now and drink a lot less purely because of the guilt. But I wonder what really happened? Does your friend know?

 

Now you told her. You just have to face the consequences and like others said, there may be unforeseen consequences down the road.

[TheDJGingersnap]

thank you for the kind words.

 

sorry for the absence. After telling her and thinking all was good, you were right, things blew up. ive been in damage control for the past few days.

 

The night I told her we blow agreed to go see our friends. I went and saw my best friends, she saw hers. ive never cried to my buddy before but I broke down telling him what I did. we talked for a bit and I went home.

 

She got home and was in tears. I tried to talk it out but she blew up, understandably so. she put me in my place. I could go on for days about this. long story short after much fighting and tears we made up. remembering the good times. believing we will fight through it.

 

the next day I got the email that I was going to work Monday.

 

Since I told her I have been doing everything I can to help make this right. it really has been a roller coaster. we will fight then make up, argue then make up. seeing the one u love cry is the worse feeling in the world and I wouldn't wish it upon my worse enemy. Saturday and sunday were the best days so far. she was so positive and loving. seeing the old her. laughing and cracking jokes. yeah she would have her moments but she battled thru it. she would cry and cry and I would tell her that I love her and that im not a bad person and she would tell me I wasn't a bad person.

This is the kind of person she is. the one who when going through her own hardships will take the time to comfort me.

 

I went to work today... it was the hardest goodbye of them all.

 

im on this job for two weeks, im also working nights. this is going to be so hard. she is already having a hard time. the magnitude of what ive done is just getting more and more overwhelming. I have hurt the one I love, I have put her through pain. seeing or hearing her cry over the phone is unbearable. im at the lowest point in my life. I told her every day that we were going to be alright, we were going to get thru this together. I tried being strong for her but im starting to break.

 

im not the best at conveying this thru text. just know I am truly truly sorry for what I have done and I am not a person who would do this. I am disgusted in myself.

[TheDJGingersnap]

I am DONE drinking.

 

Im doing everything I can t prove to her she can trust me. its exhausting but its worth it. She is worth it.

[MoreAmore]

I wish you luck.

 

This was clearly a mistake. You were honest when you were not forced. That's the most important thing

[frigginlost]

thank you for the kind words.

 

sorry for the absence. After telling her and thinking all was good, you were right, things blew up. ive been in damage control for the past few days.

 

The night I told her we blow agreed to go see our friends. I went and saw my best friends, she saw hers. ive never cried to my buddy before but I broke down telling him what I did. we talked for a bit and I went home.

 

She got home and was in tears. I tried to talk it out but she blew up, understandably so. she put me in my place. I could go on for days about this. long story short after much fighting and tears we made up. remembering the good times. believing we will fight through it.

 

the next day I got the email that I was going to work Monday.

 

Since I told her I have been doing everything I can to help make this right. it really has been a roller coaster. we will fight then make up, argue then make up. seeing the one u love cry is the worse feeling in the world and I wouldn't wish it upon my worse enemy. Saturday and sunday were the best days so far. she was so positive and loving. seeing the old her. laughing and cracking jokes. yeah she would have her moments but she battled thru it. she would cry and cry and I would tell her that I love her and that im not a bad person and she would tell me I wasn't a bad person.

This is the kind of person she is. the one who when going through her own hardships will take the time to comfort me.

 

I went to work today... it was the hardest goodbye of them all.

 

im on this job for two weeks, im also working nights. this is going to be so hard. she is already having a hard time. the magnitude of what ive done is just getting more and more overwhelming. I have hurt the one I love, I have put her through pain. seeing or hearing her cry over the phone is unbearable. im at the lowest point in my life. I told her every day that we were going to be alright, we were going to get thru this together. I tried being strong for her but im starting to break.

 

im not the best at conveying this thru text. just know I am truly truly sorry for what I have done and I am not a person who would do this. I am disgusted in myself.

 

First off, good job. By reading your words, I do feel that you are truly remorseful about it all.

 

Like I mentioned, things are going to get really tough. It is really going to test your mettle as she works through her emotions. How you both are feeling is completely normal, though.

 

I will warn you though, that eventually anger is going to hit her and that is when you will really need keep your eye on the goal.

 

Losing the trust in someone you love is one of the hardest things to get over. She has got a lot to work through.

 

But... it may make you guys stronger than you ever thought possible. Keep your chin up!

[smackie9]

This will bring you closer together, because you both appreciate each other more than ever.