bluefeather Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 i wonder if karma is just a blissfull / spiritual way of looking at probabilty , if your nice to someone its very likely that someting nice will happen to you in the future and if you do someting horrible to someone it is alot pretty likley that something horrible will happen to you in the future , i think people like to just put it down " karma " when really its just events happening that were likley to hahpen good or bad You are trying to put logic into something that is already logical. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EO422 Posted September 17, 2015 Author Share Posted September 17, 2015 Not doing too well today. I feel horrible. I miss her so much. Why couldn't she just have stayed with me? I don't understand. We were so close to everything. I am so lost and hurt today...I feel like I moved backwards Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Not doing too well today. I feel horrible. I miss her so much. Why couldn't she just have stayed with me? I don't understand. We were so close to everything. I am so lost and hurt today...I feel like I moved backwards That is going to happen. Some days it will feel good, but it doesn't mean it's over. Ups and downs. Just like going through a severe cold, your body will shift temperatures from normal to high to normal to high until you are finally better. You are still in the healing process. It doesn't sound like you are going backwards, just getting over a hump, so feeling down again. You will experience waves as you sail through. Let the emotions flow through you and then pass out of you. You will get there. Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 I'm just really mad. I am jealous I guess..because I know she is a super hot and beautiful girl and always gets hit on..and now that she is single..she probably has every guy hitting on her. I'm so jealous.. But good for her I guess. I am just so mad and upset...like she breaks up with me, and then gets all this attention elsewhere. While I'm sitting here grieving having a tough time getting a girl, well I'm not looking for one but still. I sitting here hurt and she is out having a blast. (Not that I'm unattractive.but I'm not the type of guy who can just go up to girls and hit it off. I gradually work to stuff)...so for her it's easy...every guy hits in her. Getting over me..her decision is again reaffirmed. I was never jealous in the relationship. I trusted her and knew she was with me. She is trustworthy enough for that. I know her, and she was faithful. Not a doubt in my mind 300%....but, now that she is single. Just so jealous. She can get any guy she freaking wants. At least I can say I had it at one point B) Read the bolded parts again. You don't really KNOW any of this to be true. The mind has a tough time differentiating the hypothetical and what actually is, so be careful with imagining what her life is like right now; what she might be doing; who she might be with. Because you don't know any of this for sure, but thinking about it will bring forth the same pain that would be there if you DID know for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EO422 Posted September 18, 2015 Author Share Posted September 18, 2015 Read the bolded parts again. You don't really KNOW any of this to be true. The mind has a tough time differentiating the hypothetical and what actually is, so be careful with imagining what her life is like right now; what she might be doing; who she might be with. Because you don't know any of this for sure, but thinking about it will bring forth the same pain that would be there if you DID know for sure. She is away at college now..:so most likely it is true :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 Keep on with the negative thoughts and report back in a while as to whether or not they've been helpful to you at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EO422 Posted September 18, 2015 Author Share Posted September 18, 2015 Me and my gf were long distance for 2 years...she said she loved me..but she broke up with me right before she went to college saying "she wasn't IN love with me anymore" I just hope that the relationship meant something to her even tho it was long distance. She DID love me. I know that 100%...but I feel like now that she is at college and will be getting a new relationship especially one that is not LDR...she will find it 100x better than ours and not miss me at all... When she got to college we were NOT going to be LDR anymore..her college was 30 min away and we were gunna hangout so much...but she bailed. Broke my heart. I waited for 2 years basically for us to not be LDR anymore. Then again. I feel like God hates me. Went out to the bar last night and failed miserably getting 2 girls numbers. It's just upsetting. I just want my ex back. But I feel that any relationship she gets now will be way better than what we had. Because we were LDR..and any new relationship will be better because it can have physical contact right away 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author EO422 Posted September 18, 2015 Author Share Posted September 18, 2015 Oh yeah and she has/got gigs...im 300% sure about that Link to post Share on other sites
Samuel_22 Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 (edited) Me and my gf were long distance for 2 years...she said she loved me..but she broke up with me right before she went to college saying "she wasn't IN love with me anymore" I just hope that the relationship meant something to her even tho it was long distance. She DID love me. I know that 100%...but I feel like now that she is at college and will be getting a new relationship especially one that is not LDR...she will find it 100x better than ours and not miss me at all... When she got to college we were NOT going to be LDR anymore..her college was 30 min away and we were gunna hangout so much...but she bailed. Broke my heart. I waited for 2 years basically for us to not be LDR anymore. Then again. I feel like God hates me. Went out to the bar last night and failed miserably getting 2 girls numbers. It's just upsetting. I just want my ex back. But I feel that any relationship she gets now will be way better than what we had. Because we were LDR..and any new relationship will be better because it can have physical contact right away Why?why do you think God hates you? are you sure, your future would be a good one with her? Download this movie ''Ex Machina'' and watch it...they god opposed the will of the creator of the machine, and see what happened...funny the whole movie I thought the creator of that machine was an ass...and trust me if she loved you, she would not leave you...LDR or not...this is just an excuse...she said she loved you? she did things that made you believe she is crazy about you? these creatures are coded this way, simply put they do this to get your approval...my ex did the same thing...she said she loved me, she was talking about having babies and getting married a week before break up...well it did not take her a sec to leave me and it was so easy for her that I can't believe I was living with this person...now the boy for whom she left me has left her again...her sister contacted me, it was contrived, I could see that...I didn't reply...she was beautiful alright...but her inner face was worse than cheap demons believe me be strong, be man enough to let her go... and be man enough to forget her forever, don't even look back Edited September 18, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed degogatory remark 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author EO422 Posted September 18, 2015 Author Share Posted September 18, 2015 Why?why do you think God hates you? are you sure, your future would be a good one with her? Download this movie ''Ex Machina'' and watch it...they god opposed the will of the creator of the machine, and see what happened...funny the whole movie I thought the creator of that machine was an ass...and trust me if she loved you, she would not leave you...LDR or not...this is just an excuse...she said she loved you? she did things that made you believe she is crazy about you? these creatures are coded this way, simply put they do this to get your approval...my ex did the same thing...she said she loved me, she was talking about having babies and getting married a week before break up...well it did not take her a sec to leave me and it was so easy for her that I can't believe I was living with this person...now the boy for whom she left me has left her again...her sister contacted me, it was contrived, I could see that...I didn't reply...she was beautiful alright...but her inner face was worse than cheap demons believe me be strong, be man enough to let her go... and be man enough to forget her forever, don't even look back She did love me..clearly not anymore :/ I want her back. I know that I initiated the break up, but it's because I had to pull the trigger. She was too afraid to. She pushed me to do it. Now I'm trying NC for 2 reason. Too heal and to hopefully get her back...but what good is NC if she is doing NC to me for breaking up with her? Idk. I don't like how we left. No terms, no goodbye, no sense of closure. Just a freaking bs thing. I am so mad Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 what good is NC if she is doing NC to me for breaking up with her? It helps you both move on. That is the whole point, yes? What is the alternative? Keep talking to her and getting hurt again and again? Doesn't sound like much fun to me. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author EO422 Posted September 18, 2015 Author Share Posted September 18, 2015 It helps you both move on. That is the whole point, yes? What is the alternative? Keep talking to her and getting hurt again and again? Doesn't sound like much fun to me. Idk...I want her back 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lwalter Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 You should forget about her. Move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Link to post Share on other sites
Samuel_22 Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 Idk...I want her back How long have been NC? Idk...it all started with the hope of reconciliation for me too...now that 37 days have passed, I am starting to see the whole picture, I don't want her back anymore...at least not the way I wanted her back during the initial days of break up...I am starting to live my life, although I think of her all the time still, most of my thoughts are about how perfidious she was... and I still see these nightmares every night, well I loved her, wanted to marry her, the break up came out of nowhere and I was confused...during the first days, I was blind...I used to come on loveshack, asking if there is a way to get her back....now everything has changed...I don't want her back, and I don't even want to hear from her either...she is history, and all I remember now, is bad bitter memories...resentment has replaced love on my side...even moderators are angry at me I suppose Listen mate, we are all in the same boat here...we are all victims of selfishness, greed, stupidity, ignorance of other human beings...so we have to help each other, to prove what we are made of .... The first step to heal, is to kill the hope of reconciliation...this is toxic, this will drive you crazy, it will make you check your cellphone every time to see if she has sent you a message...days, weeks, months will pass by and you will get nothing...the problem? you have prolonged your healing process, and you have turned your whole life into nightmare... to kill your hope? I am here to do so...look at these statistics, what is your chance of reconciliation? Regular break up? 30% Break up when your ex moves on? 20% Break up when your ex moves to an ex? 25% that means there is 70%+ chance of failure in these examples... and even if odds are in your favor this time, and she comes back lemme provide you with another shocking statistic in accordance with a research carried out from the Kansas State University. on exes who reconciled 95% of exes who reconcile, break up again within 14 weeks... My ex went back to an ex...it only took her 2 months and the boy dumped her again, her sister contacted me, I didn't answer...but is that what you want? to be with her for another 3 months, and then you say, now what? get over her dude...not only should you get over her, you should run over her in your mind....now I am gonna keep this short, before dear moderators attack me again smile man!!! smile... embrace the unknown... it is really sweet Link to post Share on other sites
Author EO422 Posted September 18, 2015 Author Share Posted September 18, 2015 I still have strong feelings for her... Link to post Share on other sites
Author EO422 Posted September 18, 2015 Author Share Posted September 18, 2015 Okay this is just so weird.... My gf blocked me because I blocked her..you all know my story. But I went and finally unblocked her.:because the social media stuff was just stupid and immature...but I just checked to see if she unblocked me ...and SHE DID...WTF is up with her and her stupid games. I am so done. I don't like these games. If she wants to contact me she should just do it. She is clearly continually trying to stalk my social media. Like wtf. So confusing. I am just so confused. I did NOT look through her stuff. I refused too. All I did was go to check if I was unblocked and I am. I am NOT going to go through the pain. She unblocked me probably so I could "stalk" her and she could start winning the war again. But I withdrew from all social media 10 days ago and haven't posted...I deleted all of it except for Twitter because I like to search stuff and look at people's feed for that. But I do not post Link to post Share on other sites
pidgeon1010 Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 Are you really done with the games? sounds like you're playing along. If you were really "done", you would have NO desire to check on whether you had been unblocked and then try to make sense of why she did what she did. Does it matter? Is this worth your sanity and emotional well-being? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 shouldn't you be in class now? or getting your homework done so you can party this weekend? maybe you and your buds could go to a big fraternity party ... maybe sign up for intramural volleyball or something is there a football game tomorrow? DO SOMETHING, it's a great time in your life, at what is probably a pretty cool place. That won't last forever, so take advantage. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EO422 Posted September 18, 2015 Author Share Posted September 18, 2015 I have feelings for her..but yes I am done with the social media games! I am just In NC..which was kinda broke but not really Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 You did get gypped. It sucks that you invested 2 years & now she bailed. But I have to ask. . how old are you? If she's just starting college that puts her at 18-19. If you are old enough to go to a bar now (21 at least) that is a pretty big age gap & a huge / insurmountable life stage gap NC works better when you both use it. It's not a punishment. Mutually staying away from each other facilitates healing. We know you want her back but you have to realize that is not happening. Starting college opens a whole new world for most people & their pre-college relationships don't usually survive especially if it's a transition from high school 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thejabberwocky Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 Okay, here's how you stop the games. You block her on all platforms and start NC over. After 60 days, you can unblock her. And you won't feel so emotionally invested. Link to post Share on other sites
drseuss Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 Can you actualy hear your self , read your origonal post a couple of times and imagine it was a random thread on here and you were going to give some advice on it , what would you say Your going round in circles ,you shouldn't even care about all this blocked unblocked stuff because you shouldn't even be checking ,that's breaking nc . Your doing well and you are getting better and nobody wants you to feel down or upset ,it is very painfull and I feel for you because it's so relentless having something on your mind 24/7 but you need to get a grip now Link to post Share on other sites
Oregon_Dude Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 Dude, stop making new threads. Just post in your long one. Also, who knows if it meant anything to her. You need to breathe and relax a bit. I suggest starting therapy soon. They can help you get a grip on some things. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 Closure cannot come from the other person. Usually when someone is talking about wanting or needing closure, what they really mean is that they still want to be with the ex. Nothing this girl says or explains to you is going to make you feel better or give you any sense of closure if the end result is still her not wanting to be with you. Link to post Share on other sites
warshaw Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 But I went and finally unblocked her.:because the social media stuff was just stupid and immature...but I just checked to see if she unblocked me . You're playing games, more with yourself than anyone else. You really need to stop tormenting yourself. It's not getting you anywhere but down. I am NOT going to go through the pain. Why not, what's changed? You seem to enjoy constantly ripping off the scab while denying you are doing exactly that. Link to post Share on other sites
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