kidinfo1 Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 Hi so quick question here. With the purpose of making a long story short, I happened to find out that my girlfriend of almost a year had checked her exs Facebook recently. And went pretty far down his timeline. I also know she did it like 7 months ago once as well. Is this normal?? I tend to get jealous easily because of past relationships (I try to hide it most of the time) and I like to get opinions before I worry too much. Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
giblesp Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 She's clearly curious about her exs life, which might be innocent or an indication of something else. Have a chat with her about it. Ask her if he's still on her mind, or processing her past relationship in any way. If she's not over him, don't date her romantically because it wont work. Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 Hi so quick question here. With the purpose of making a long story short, I happened to find out that my girlfriend of almost a year had checked her exs Facebook recently. And went pretty far down his timeline. I also know she did it like 7 months ago once as well. Is this normal?? I tend to get jealous easily because of past relationships (I try to hide it most of the time) and I like to get opinions before I worry too much. Thank you She is fishing.... Fishing to feel the rush she used to feel when she would scroll down his FB wall when she was seeing him...chasing that rush. It is pretty stock in trade of relationships where something may have triggered her fond memories of good times. Generally it happens when someone starts to feel a bit bored in their relationship without communicating that to their partner. If it happens once every 6 months or so I would really not be concerned at this point. I would ask her about it however. It would be a great way to get some communication going in your relationship, which may or may not be missing, as far as you know. if the frequency increases, then a problem you may have. Link to post Share on other sites
coryreply Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 It's hard to say. I know most girls like to snoop. They want to know what's going on. It doesn't necessarily mean she's interested in him romantically. Link to post Share on other sites
cif Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 How do you know how far down the timeline she went? Did he dump her? Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted September 15, 2015 Share Posted September 15, 2015 Eh, I am FB friends with a few ex's and I might check out their page now and then. Doesn't mean I am ready to jump ship, or want to get with them or anything, just curious as to what they are up to - we were closer friends once upon a time! But these are also people that have been ex's for years (but still have common friends) - and the break ups weren't full of drama, just a friendly this "relationship" isn't working any more type of split. Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted September 16, 2015 Share Posted September 16, 2015 I occassionally check out an ex of mine's FB page, I'm hoping to see his wife find out about his sexual exploits with other men and the fallout!! Nothing yet! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted September 16, 2015 Share Posted September 16, 2015 Let it go....she is just curious and nothing more. P.S. stop snooping in your GF's stuff. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sheberiding Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 curious but she may also still have a thing for him. at the very least she's hoping any new flames aren't as pretty as her. it would bother me a bit too and I would just tell her how it makes you feel. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 curious but she may also still have a thing for him. at the very least she's hoping any new flames aren't as pretty as her. it would bother me a bit too and I would just tell her how it makes you feel. Ya after you tell her you have been spying on her. Link to post Share on other sites
hakim Posted September 19, 2015 Share Posted September 19, 2015 Has she mentioned anything about her ex recently to you? or has she been keeping it secret? If the former, I wouln't worry about it, she's probably just curious, etc... If the latter, I would worry a lot because this means she 1) doesn't want you to find out she has 2) she gets something from looking at it... A girl who is happy in a relationship won't do anything to jeopardise it - and I see a lot of people here are missing that fact, or haven't brought it up yet. I would be very wary. I've been there before. Link to post Share on other sites
hakim Posted September 19, 2015 Share Posted September 19, 2015 Ya after you tell her you have been spying on her. What she doesn't know won't hurt her. Link to post Share on other sites
nic05 Posted September 19, 2015 Share Posted September 19, 2015 How the hell do you know this? Did she tell you this? Are they still friends outside of Facebook world? I'd worry that you have invaded her privacy. I would be mortified. I occasionally check in on an ex, hell I'm still friends with one and one still contacts me to send me mail. I go to their Facebook page sure, some of us women are just super nosey (many aren't). It may well be innocent, then again she may still pine for him but if she did she'd be checking that every week. I'd ask her about it in a way that doesn't look like you've been stalking her if it plays on your mind. But please don't dig through your girlfriends internet history. Link to post Share on other sites
siankat Posted November 14, 2015 Share Posted November 14, 2015 I wouldn't have thought that looking up an ex is motivated by lust, longing or regret. Just plain old curiosity/boredom/curiosity. Relationships are not just about attraction, she knew him as a person and can still be interested in what someone she used to know well, is doing now. Facebook 101, looking up people you have no interest in knowing but are curious about none the less i hope that helps. I look up my exes and it means absolutely nothing Link to post Share on other sites
lolablue17 Posted November 14, 2015 Share Posted November 14, 2015 You can't control her mind and her memories. It's better for you that it's out in the open space. Secondly - This is your Gf, you love her for what she is, right? Her memories are also a part of who she is, try to love that part, instead of being resentful. Link to post Share on other sites
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