Op17 Posted September 16, 2015 Share Posted September 16, 2015 (edited) When someone that ment everything to you is gone, it feels like your mourning a death. Even though I'm still recovering from my lost, I'm still writing this in high spirits because I believe there's a way out of this. I just know. Everyone's situation is different but we all know the same feeling of the pain inside. I know how it feels when your world has gone to sh*t and the only person that could take the pain away is your ex. When you spend days wondering if he or she will comeback I know how it feels when you wake up every morning and that person is the first thing on your mind. Or maybe for the whole day. When you want to talk to them so bad but it's impossible. When you spend days reflecting on mistakes in the past and wondered What If and what you could've or should've done. When good and bad memories keep playing back in your head. When certain places, seasons or things remind you of them. When they forget about you or act like nothing between you two happened. When you lose all confidence afterwards When you've been replaced and there's no going back. When you've been depressed for a very long time I know how it feels and it hurts bad. The pain is unexplainable but all we know is that it hurts and is unbearable. But one thing we got to remember is that nothing is impossible. There WILL be a day when you'll stop hurting inside. It might take a while but you have to fight the pain and not sit in it forever. You have to stay strong, it's gonna take a while but fight it every single day and try hard with all your might to fight the thoughts of that person. I know it's easier said than done but you have to keep trying. Stop beating yourself up about what you did in the past. We're all human and make mistakes, thats how we learn. At that time you tried your best and did what you thought was right. You didn't know then what you do now. You we're 2 completely different people. Even though you can't go back in time to re-correct those mistakes you have to understand the key thing, experience. Even though this was a bad experience you grew as a person and were able to learn something from it. The only way we're going to learn is if we mess up to truly know right from wrong. Even if your someone who tried to get your ex back and failed several times, don't look at it as you messed up, you did everything in your power that you could. You had to see what worked and what didn't, you had to experiment to learn. But we have to make those mistakes to become better people so when something greater comes our way we know how to handle it and not mess up again. Experience is what makes us stronger as people. You are going through one of the biggest challenges in your life right now and when you overcome this, nothing can hurt you as bad again. Nothing hurts worse inside than what your going through right now. Theres so many people who came before us that experienced the same thing and if they were able to get out of this and find someone new so can you. Several celebrities have been through divorces and heartbroken. So many people on here, same thing but they were still able to bounce back and be happy again. You have to believe you can too. Even though we this is a community where your not alone don't forget the people in this world that are going through hell right now as you read this, that aren't on the internet. Also be proud of yourself that your still here, there are many people who couldn't bare the pain of a break-up and committed suicide but your still here to this day getting through it. It takes a lot to live with this pain and not many can do it. Your strong, remember that. Find a way to make yourself happy again by working on you. There's so many ways you can improve yourself and better yourself for the next person. Your life CAN'T end because of one person. ONE person, another human being. There's so many people out there that you haven't met yet, with different personalities; probably even better than your ex. For those of you that are hurting from being replaced don't think you can't replace them with someone better either. There's always something better out there, don't forget that. Value yourself and hold yourself high as much as they do. If you were able to find them and they were so perfect, someone else thats perfect can be found too. I know that fish in the sea line is cliche but lets be real. They're not superior to every other person out here you haven't met, they're not a super human being and out of the billions you haven't met NO ONE is better, you can't say that, you haven't met all those billions of people. You have to remember they are NOT the only person IN THE WORLD to look good or have an amazing personality. There are so many things you've have not seen yet. Keep your head up and look forward to the future. Obsess about bettering yourself and what your future is going to bring instead of that person and the past. You can' change the past only learn and set up your future. There is a way out of this pain, believe it. It's not impossible. Keep fighting and remember all of this. We all find our own way out of misery but just remember that day is coming and you'll look back at these days as the some of the trials and tribulations you've ever overcame. Edited September 16, 2015 by Op17 11 Link to post Share on other sites
Dot1 Posted September 16, 2015 Share Posted September 16, 2015 This is a brilliant post! Thank you it has put a smile on my face through a difficult time if nothing else 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NVO Posted September 16, 2015 Share Posted September 16, 2015 Amazing post! It just sums up my attitude at this moment. I don't know if some of you watch South Park, but in this one episode both Stan and Butters get dumped. At the end of the episode Butters sits in the streets with rain falling on him. Stan passes by and tells him to join his group of Gothic friends. Butters declines. He states that no matter how much this hurts, it also is a beautiful thing to feel these emotions instead of the 'Let me die in agony' attitude. Be proud of yourself that you are capable of caring this much for another human being. There are so many people out there who litterally don't give a **** and move on like it's nothing. But not you. You are all amazing people with the ability to care and feel love. And one day, someone will notice this and make your life complete. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Op17 Posted September 16, 2015 Author Share Posted September 16, 2015 (edited) Amazing post! It just sums up my attitude at this moment. I don't know if some of you watch South Park, but in this one episode both Stan and Butters get dumped. At the end of the episode Butters sits in the streets with rain falling on him. Stan passes by and tells him to join his group of Gothic friends. Butters declines. He states that no matter how much this hurts, it also is a beautiful thing to feel these emotions instead of the 'Let me die in agony' attitude. Be proud of yourself that you are capable of caring this much for another human being. There are so many people out there who litterally don't give a **** and move on like it's nothing. But not you. You are all amazing people with the ability to care and feel love. And one day, someone will notice this and make your life complete. Thanks a lot, I know a lot of people (including myself) have felt like the pain is going to last for the rest of their life. But I know there's hope because we have other people as living proof that it's possible to stop it. I just hope I could help someone that feels like it's the end of the road and help them believe they could break through this challenge. It's one of the hardest but it's possible. Edited September 16, 2015 by Op17 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MajorOak Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Thank you OP17, I needed that dose. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emma1a Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Thank you for the amazing post! All the best to all of us! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Felicite Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Thank you very much for the inspiring post! Sometimes it’s very hard to overcome the pain, and reach a point where you can truly say it’s ok, but in the end you have to believe you will (and you truly will get better). It’s nice hearing people confessing how bad it got for them, but then in the end everything turned out alright. There is hope after all, and time will bring it closer . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
goodguy1 Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 Reading that post really got me thinking and every bit of it is absolutely true. Its relieving to know there are others out there who are going through heartbreak and being strong enough to get through this. I admit I've have had dark thoughts within the past month but i keep the hope that everyday will be better as the sun rises. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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