Thegreatfrazzle Posted September 16, 2015 Share Posted September 16, 2015 I feel so much better than I used to, to an extent where I can genuinely help others on this site. However, I get moments where I don't feel so great, usually something along the lines of missing my ex, missing the memories, or being jealous of the guy she is seeing. A long story short, she treated me appallingly. After months of helping her through a tough family situation, she dumped me as soon as things got better. She also said she somewhat associated me to the 'bad times' and just wanted to forget what she went though. She also said she regretted spending time with me when she could have been with her family (despite only weeks after she dumped me she hangs out a lot with friends instead of family....). There is also the fact that she didn't bother to message and refused to see me for weeks prior to her dumping me. I know I deserve better, and I know she has changed so much that she isn't the same girl I fell in love with over a year ago now, but there is still a part of me that wants things to be how they used to be, even though it is impossible. Is this a case of me having too little self respect? Having too little regard for my own well being by torturing myself over someone who I never want to speak to ever again? Or is the way I'm feeling just the natural progression of getting over a failed relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
noun123 Posted September 16, 2015 Share Posted September 16, 2015 I don't have advice but all I can say is I am going through the same thing. I usually hold my partners to a high moral standard as that is how I would act. Going though this breakup is a contradiction of sorts because although i could never truly move past the way he left and how he acted afterwards, I want nothing more then him to come back to me. Heart vs the mind. Its a terrible place to be. I keep thinking that if I was talking to a friend in the same situation I would be yelling at her, move on, you deserve better than that! Yet I can't hold myself to the same advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Paisleycat Posted September 16, 2015 Share Posted September 16, 2015 She said she associates you with bad times, but it sounds like you associate her with good times (when you miss her). I think this is just the natural progression of things. You have the self-respect to realize that you deserve better. Speaking from experience, it's uncomfortable when you've been with someone and then have this extra time that had previously been spent with them. I'm going through that now. Don't be hard on yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
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