learning to breathe Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Hi everyone, as some of you may know i am "learning to breathe" and you may have read some of my prior posts about me getting a divorce soon, i had an emotional affair, i've been abused, sought counseling, the whole 9 yards and i am FINALLY becoming loosened from these chains of misery. but why i am writing today, is that of what my last post said. everyone was asking how i was doing. i am doing great besides a twisted ankle, but all in all i am great. I did also include that i went through my "husband's" phone. it included multiple pictures of 3 girls, one who happens to live here in CA and a list of direct messages.... Now as stated in my last post he had belittled me because i came forward with telling him the truth about my feelings, where i stand in my life, i dont want anymore abuse and about my EA. i gave all of that up because of how he made me feel. like nothing but a slave. but nooooo, he has been talking with not 1 but 3 girls longer than i had been talking to my EA and like i said before it isnt surprising because he has done it before. Anyhow, my question is, has anyone done this as well? looked through their "significant others" phone? and do you think it was wrong for me to have done it? i dont feel bad by any means but i found myself in a bad spot because i dont like to invade anyones privacy but i did it because i wanted to and i had a feeling i was going to find something in there. and i did and he would have never of came clean at all, he only did because he was caught red handed and if i stayed here with him he would have tortured me for the rest of my life saying how much of a hoe i was for having an EA. just sayin. all opinions are welcomed. xoxo learning to breathe. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lil hoodlum Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 I really don't have too much of an opinion on going through a SO cell phone or not, but after reading your post I am reminded of a saying, "The truth shall set you free." Glad you were able to find out some "truths" though. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author learning to breathe Posted September 17, 2015 Author Share Posted September 17, 2015 thanks lil hoodlum. YES! the truth has really set me FREE and i feel better than ever! xoxo. learning to breathe Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 i had an emotional affair, i've been abused, sought counseling, the whole 9 yards and i am FINALLY becoming loosened from these chains of misery. I don't think it's wrong but it does seem irrelevant. If you're miserable and abused, why does his fidelity matter? Mistreatment in itself is a perfectly valid reason for ending a relationship, no other issue needed. I'd be less concerned with who or what's in his phone and more focused on your future. Once you're out, he can send all the pictures he wants... Mr. Lucky 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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