Ginevra14 Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 (edited) Hey everyone ! I need an opinion on my long distance "friendship/relationship" with this special guy. We've met in a summer camp, two years ago and we weren't really close but I decided to keep in touch with him because he was nice and yeah, I wanted to stay friends to know him better. So we kept in contact and we talked about our lives and everything. It was actually normal and I was liking him as a friend. I also realized he was a great guy, we were thinking the same and we were really close ! He became one of my best friend even with the distance and he was feeling the same about me. Then one year after, I came to see him in his country (yes, we aren't in the same country) and we organized a day together where I was completely shy and quiet because I understood our friendship was real and I also surely understood I had feelings for him. After that day, even with my shyness and everything, we kept going our conversations and he was telling me he was missing me and I was telling him I was missing him. Long story short, he went in Canada after (to improve his English) and he was still really close to me. He was even telling me he was loving me, and he was giving me sweet surnames such as "Honey", or even "My baby". But then, when he came back and even a little bit before, he was distant and then close to me and then distant to finally even stop writing to me... So I told him if he wanted to stop this relationship/friendship, that was okay, I would understand and blah, blah, blah... He texted me back really fast, saying that I didn't have to think that, that he loved me but he wasn't physically with me which was hard. And after saying this, he began to text me everyday, asking how I was, calling me "My baby", "Hon", and all that types of sweet surnames. A few weeks ago, we became even closer than we were before and we were saying each other: "I wanna hug you tight", "I wanna kiss you" and things like this until him saying to me "Maybe that sounds very weird but I would like to sleep with you !" And I was surprised but our relationship these weeks really evolved and I was finding it so cute (Hope, you won't take me for a freak) ! I know my feelings for him are now really strong, maybe too much for a 17-year-old teenager as I am. Anyway, after that, I told him I found his message cute and honest and at the same time, I was a little bit scared of this step. He answered me there were no problem, and he told me we should keep our relationship as it was before. Right now, we write almost as nothing happened these past few weeks, and I even tried to tell him I loved how this relationship evolved but he kinda ignored and I don't know what to think of his reaction, if he's protecting himself or if he was truly honest with me... I can't know if he loves me or if he just likes me, I mean he told me he loves me but I don't know if he means it and at the same time, I freaking want to trust him a lot. Thanks a lot for reading me and I'm sorry if I made mistakes, I'm actually French... Have a good day ! Edited September 17, 2015 by Ginevra14 Link to post Share on other sites
emi Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 You are 17. Is he 17 years old too? Are u still studying? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ginevra14 Posted September 17, 2015 Author Share Posted September 17, 2015 We're both 17 and both in High School... I know we're young but it bothers me and I wanted to talk about it... Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Ginevra, you're a young girl of 17. It's natural to have crushes and longings - that's what life is all about at your age. But you need to be careful and not allow a crush to isolate you from the here and now. You'll only be 17 once, you'll only graduate high school once and experience all the things a young girl your age experiences at this time in her life. Don't spend this time pining away for a boy you can't see and can't go to the movies with or to a dance with. You only get one chance to be young and carefree before you have to grow up and be a grownup, and that time is NOW. Don't spend it dedicating yourself to someone you can't be with or make memories with. That's a futile and pointless endeavor. He's a boy you'll always remember. I know this. And he's a boy who can be a lifelong friend if you promise to stay in touch with other in the future. He's someone you'll always think fondly of. But he's a sweet summer memory, Ginevra. That's all he was meant to be. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ginevra14 Posted September 17, 2015 Author Share Posted September 17, 2015 Thanks a lot for replying... You're surely right. Maybe I got attached to this boy because he's the only one who showed interest in me. Life can be so unfair... Thanks anyway for replying, maybe I needed a comment like this to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ginevra14 Posted September 17, 2015 Author Share Posted September 17, 2015 One last thing... Is it possible to delete this whole post, please ? I realized what I said was really personnal and (thanks again for your answers) but to tell you the truth, I don't really assume... Thanks ! Link to post Share on other sites
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