cookiemonster26 Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Went on a great first date, talked the whole time about our mutual interests and whatever (I didnt talk about any weird things like my ex, politics religion I didn't over share and I didn't make it like an interview) the conversation flowed nicely and he kissed me on the lips at the end but no text back?!! WTF? why would you kiss someone if you weren't interested ? And what did I do wrong ?!! Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Maybe he is waiting for you to text him. Maybe he is following some ridiculous "don't text her for 3 days" rule that he read on the internet. Maybe he had other girls on the go. Who knows - only one way to find out! Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 I couldn't begin to guess why he hasn't texted you. If you were yourself, you didn't do anything wrong. Maybe he reevaluated, met someone he liked better, is waiting for so honing, or just flaked out. Women have a reputation for being flakey but we men do it too. How long has it been since the date? Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Maybe he didn't enjoy the kiss? I had a GREAT first date awhile back and at the end of the night she was primed for a kiss. But after the kiss ended, I knew I never wanted to kiss her again. Obviously I have no idea what your kissing skills are like. But maybe he just wasn't feeling the spark. On the first date w/my GF, I not only had to re-adjust my jeans after we kissed, but I was so rocked I got lost walking back to my car. Haha So sometimes it all just comes down to what someone feels in the moment. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Went on a great first date, talked the whole time about our mutual interests and whatever (I didnt talk about any weird things like my ex, politics religion I didn't over share and I didn't make it like an interview) the conversation flowed nicely and he kissed me on the lips at the end but no text back?!! WTF? why would you kiss someone if you weren't interested ? And what did I do wrong ?!! It's fairly common for the woman to text him after the first date to thank him. He initiated the date, you can reciprocate with a "thank you". Just because they kiss you doesn't mean they are "all in". It's just a kiss. He at least wasn't repulsed by you. You are already overreacting. Sit back and observe whether he contacts you again for another date. Date was last night? Send him a light text thanking him for a nice time and that you'd like to do it again sometime. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Maybe he didn't enjoy the kiss? I had a GREAT first date awhile back and at the end of the night she was primed for a kiss. But after the kiss ended, I knew I never wanted to kiss her again. Obviously I have no idea what your kissing skills are like. But maybe he just wasn't feeling the spark. On the first date w/my GF, I not only had to re-adjust my jeans after we kissed, but I was so rocked I got lost walking back to my car. Haha So sometimes it all just comes down to what someone feels in the moment. Gotta love those types of first kisses. After my first first kiss I had trouble finding the door handle to the car I was in. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Maybe he didn't enjoy the kiss? I had a GREAT first date awhile back and at the end of the night she was primed for a kiss. But after the kiss ended, I knew I never wanted to kiss her again. Obviously I have no idea what your kissing skills are like. But maybe he just wasn't feeling the spark. On the first date w/my GF, I not only had to re-adjust my jeans after we kissed, but I was so rocked I got lost walking back to my car. Haha So sometimes it all just comes down to what someone feels in the moment. Haha. This is the best thing I've read all day. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cookiemonster26 Posted September 17, 2015 Author Share Posted September 17, 2015 I couldn't begin to guess why he hasn't texted you. If you were yourself, you didn't do anything wrong. Maybe he reevaluated, met someone he liked better, is waiting for so honing, or just flaked out. Women have a reputation for being flakey but we men do it too. How long has it been since the date? It was last.night now it'd early morning Link to post Share on other sites
Author cookiemonster26 Posted September 17, 2015 Author Share Posted September 17, 2015 Maybe he is waiting for you to text him. Maybe he is following some ridiculous "don't text her for 3 days" rule that he read on the internet. Maybe he had other girls on the go. Who knows - only one way to find out! Which is what ? Text him back? Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Which is what ? Text him back? Logical conclusion is logical. Either wait a bit, or give him a text, thanking him for last night. I agree with the others that even a good kiss doesn't always translate into a relationship or even a second or third date. Try not to sweat it; not everything will go your way in dating, and not every "bad" thing that happens is your fault or because you "did something wrong." Don't make this guy the center of your world after one kiss. Time will tell at this point. I'd stop waiting by the phone if I were you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cookiemonster26 Posted September 17, 2015 Author Share Posted September 17, 2015 Logical conclusion is logical. Either wait a bit, or give him a text, thanking him for last night. I agree with the others that even a good kiss doesn't always translate into a relationship or even a second or third date. Try not to sweat it; not everything will go your way in dating, and not every "bad" thing that happens is your fault or because you "did something wrong." Don't make this guy the center of your world after one kiss. Time will tell at this point. I'd stop waiting by the phone if I were you. I feel like I have done something wrong because I feel like this always happens where I go on a good first date and never hear from them again so it has it be me but I can't seem to figure it out. I would say I'm fairly attractive, not obese but I could probably lose a few pounds, and I'm pretty out going and friendly with lots of interests. Maybe it's the weight ? Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 I feel like I have done something wrong because I feel like this always happens where I go on a good first date and never hear from them again so it has it be me but I can't seem to figure it out. I would say I'm fairly attractive, not obese but I could probably lose a few pounds, and I'm pretty out going and friendly with lots of interests. Maybe it's the weight ? Girl, no. Men don't generally kiss women they're not attracted to; you're making your weight a bigger factor than it is. People are fickle, they change with the wind. As you date, you'll find that MOST of the dates you go on will be first dates, regardless of whether or not they end with a kiss. I too, could stand to lose a few, and because of that, I was afraid to date, and didn't until I was in my 30s. I thought I'd be awful at it, but as I continued to meet guys, I found that it was easy to have a good first date. I came off as funny and relaxed, and many of those guys were very attracted. So count that as a good thing, that these guys are not falling over themselves to get away from you. You're charming and they're feeling it with you, but it's not like you're doing anything "wrong" that they don't come back. Maybe THEY'RE doing it wrong, eh? If this date was JUST last night, try and chill about a bit. Maybe he's just taking it slow. Or, you COULD reach out to him; there's really nothing to lose at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
jam.over.jelly Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 First date kiss doesn't mean anything. Some people just like to kiss just for the sake of it. I had that happened to me before, and the feelings were mutual, I left the date knowing I didn't wanna see him again, but was attracted to him enough that when he reached out for a kiss I kissed him back. Never heard from him again but it was mutual so it didn't bother me one bit. Just move on there are plenty of other guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 I feel like I have done something wrong because I feel like this always happens where I go on a good first date and never hear from them again so it has it be me but I can't seem to figure it out. I would say I'm fairly attractive, not obese but I could probably lose a few pounds, and I'm pretty out going and friendly with lots of interests. Maybe it's the weight ? It's just part of dating. You will have a ton more first dates that don't lead to another date than you will the other way around. Why do you think it's you? It's them And, get out of the automatic negative thought process in thinking you've done something wrong. Be confident. Bring your best self into every new dating scenario. Are you content with your weight? If so, dress in a way that enhances your best features and downplays the things you aren't so happy with. If you aren't happy with your weight, work on that. Don't try to change yourself to accommodate dating scenarios. The right guy will like you just the way you are. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 (edited) text him a thank you message. "Thank you for a good time." Leave it at that if you do not want to see him again. Add "Let's do it again" if you want to see him again. Or if you're really into him say something like: "I look forward to getting to know you better" Add a smiley face if you want to flirt. I really like hearing the last one if I am interested in someone. Then, if he doesn't respond to your thank you he's not interested. If he treated you, you really should send a thank you message. I have nexted people for not thanking me before. Edited September 17, 2015 by Jj66 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cookiemonster26 Posted September 17, 2015 Author Share Posted September 17, 2015 text him a thank you message. "Thank you for a good time." Leave it at that if you do not want to see him again. Add "Let's do it again" if you want to see him again. Or if you're really into him say something like: "I look forward to getting to know you better" Add a smiley face if you want to flirt. I really like hearing the last one if I am interested in someone. Then, if he doesn't respond to your thank you he's not interested. If he treated you, you really should send a thank you message. I have nexted people for not thanking me before. You are a man? Lol just checking Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 You are a man? Lol just checking Most definitely Link to post Share on other sites
Tobin Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Two possibilities. He likes you and wants to see you again but he's playing it cool, in which case youll here from him within a week. If a week goes by with no contact, then you can write him off to possibility 2. He didn't like you, or there wasn't chemistry when he kissed you, or there was some but not enough. Either way you won't be hearing from him again. Whether you contact him first or wait to hear from him won't change the outcome. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cookiemonster26 Posted September 17, 2015 Author Share Posted September 17, 2015 Most definitely Well thanks for the tips it's nice to know some guys like a thank you text I never have done that because I thought it made you look desperate Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 Well thanks for the tips it's nice to know some guys like a thank you text I never have done that because I thought it made you look desperate It makes you look polite, not desperate. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cookiemonster26 Posted September 17, 2015 Author Share Posted September 17, 2015 It makes you look polite, not desperate. I guess If someone thought you were desperate for saying thank you why would you want to date them anyways Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 I guess If someone thought you were desperate for saying thank you why would you want to date them anyways Yeah, exactly. Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted September 17, 2015 Share Posted September 17, 2015 As a man if I'm interested in someone after the first date I have two questions on my mind: 1. How did she think it went. 2. How long to wait to contact her. A thank you text with let's do it again solves both of those problems that I have. Even a thank you text with I don't think we are a match would be welcome. I would be grateful to know her feelings. Leave it at one text. Don't send another later if he doesn't respond. That would reek of desperation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cookiemonster26 Posted September 17, 2015 Author Share Posted September 17, 2015 Yeah, exactly. He replied. Don't feel very Convinced though. I dunno Link to post Share on other sites
Author cookiemonster26 Posted September 17, 2015 Author Share Posted September 17, 2015 As a man if I'm interested in someone after the first date I have two questions on my mind: 1. How did she think it went. 2. How long to wait to contact her. A thank you text with let's do it again solves both of those problems that I have. Even a thank you text with I don't think we are a match would be welcome. I would be grateful to know her feelings. Leave it at one text. Don't send another later if he doesn't respond. That would reek of desperation. He replied and said definitely he liked my vibe. For some reason I don't feel Convinced ? Maybe I'm over thinking it ? Link to post Share on other sites
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