snoop_dawg22 Posted May 16, 2005 Share Posted May 16, 2005 I have a first date with the guy I'm talking to on Friday night. He wants me to come over and said that he's going to cook for me and we could go rent a movie and have a nice quiet time at his place. I was thinking more along the lines of dinner ( out somewhere ) and a movie ( at a movie theater ). I'm not a big dater as I've always been in a relationship for long periods of time so I don't know if this is a good date idea or not. Should the first date take place at one's house? Link to post Share on other sites
st8toftheheart Posted May 16, 2005 Share Posted May 16, 2005 I'd be weary. How long have you known him prior to this date your setting up. If you've known him a for awhile as friends, then you can tell if he's a stand up guy or not, but if you barely know him, I think hard about it. My thought is, regardless, you should always protect yourself. Somewhere public for a little while, before getting to that stage of things. Good luck and be safe. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted May 16, 2005 Share Posted May 16, 2005 No. If he doesn't want to take you OUT, then chances are all he wants is to TAKE you. Date for a while, get to know each other, be seen together before you spend time alone in his (or your) place where things can get out of control very quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted May 16, 2005 Author Share Posted May 16, 2005 Thanks for the replies. We've been friends for about a year now and never really got together b/c I was with someone at the time. He asked what I wanted to do and I really couldn't come up with anything. I'll let him know that we should go out and have dinner and leave it at that. He told me that he likes to go out and he'd like for us to be seen ( may be a line ! ). I was weary of having the first offical date at his place too. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted May 16, 2005 Share Posted May 16, 2005 No way!! Neutral places for a first date, this guy isn't thinkin' straight! Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted May 16, 2005 Share Posted May 16, 2005 This is pure booty call. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 You say you've been friends - so you already know him fairly well? If so, you could go over but it is possible that he wants the booty. Or maybe you've already gone out to dinners as friends so he's comfortable inviting you to his place. Link to post Share on other sites
Jennifer'sSecret Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 This is nothing more than an advance booty call! Link to post Share on other sites
XNemesisX Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 If you all have been friends for a while, like real friends then I see nothing wrong with going to his place. If you have been more like acquantances really, or barely that, then yes, this is pure booty call. Link to post Share on other sites
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted May 17, 2005 Author Share Posted May 17, 2005 Yep we've been real friends for almost a year. We have already connected emotionaly. We know each other's secrets and what not. I still think that we should go out for our offical first date. I'm comfortable around him but like Hokey said, being at his place just leaves room for opportunity for things to get out of control! Link to post Share on other sites
XNemesisX Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 If you are already emotionally connected then I see nothing wrong with going to his place for the date! The good thing about going to someone's house to spend time together, is that you can be really comfortable and see how you might be in a relationship with that person. And if you have already known eachother this long then who cares if some extra stuff happens? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 Hmmmm...I don't think it's a good idea. First date should always be in a public place, UNLESS you have a high level of knowledge and trust relative to him. And even THEN it should be in a public place. Some men know this instinctively, some apparently don't... Watching movies at home and snuggling on the couch is, IMO, a privilege you should reserve for your actual bf, not just for someone you're dating. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 Originally posted by snoop_dawg22 Should the first date take place at one's house? Absolutely not!!! He will be sure that sex will be on the menu if you go to his place on the first date. Of course he will say "I will cook and we'll rent a movie", do you expect him to announce the dessert part as well? If you've never met this guy in person before (or you barely know him), he might even rape you. Link to post Share on other sites
XNemesisX Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 They have been friends for a year. She never specified just how good of friends they were though. I say if they are close friends as it is, then why not have a date at his house? But if they are semi-friends or more like acquantances then definitely don't do a date at someone's house. Link to post Share on other sites
JanieQP Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 For the sake of discussion, let's presume his intentions are pure. And because they already know each other well ... A first date at his place is too comfy, too soon! If there's no going out etc on the first date, what will it be like when you're settled into a relationship?! In two weeks he'll be saying Hey, let's do laundry and eat ravioli out of the can! (I'm not saying it's not a booty call. Just offering another take on the situ.) Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 Originally posted by JanieQP For the sake of discussion, let's presume his intentions are pure. :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted May 18, 2005 Author Share Posted May 18, 2005 Hey guys. We talked and agreed that we're going to go out to dinner and go see a movie. No going to his place or mine. It may have been his way of wanting a booty call, who knows. But the fact that he's willing to take me out says a lot I think. He may try it again though. Link to post Share on other sites
st8toftheheart Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 Originally posted by snoop_dawg22 Hey guys. We talked and agreed that we're going to go out to dinner and go see a movie. No going to his place or mine. It may have been his way of wanting a booty call, who knows. But the fact that he's willing to take me out says a lot I think. He may try it again though. That's good. And yes, I'm sure he'll make another attempt at some point. So again, only go when you're comfortable, and hopefully after sometime you'll know if its geniune to be with you or for a booty call. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 I mean you have known him for a year and usually first date dinners are to get to 'know' the person u know? Haven't you passed all that already? He probably really just wanted to just hang out? Or maybe he was broke? lol I would take a home cooked dinner aver going out to dinner anytime. Link to post Share on other sites
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted May 18, 2005 Author Share Posted May 18, 2005 Thanks EC. He has said that he owes college loans ( just graduated ) so I understand. But to be careful I would like to go out for our first date. Being at his place could lead to some na There is a physical attraction that you can't beat with a stick so to be safe it'll be better to just go out. And after a couple of dates like another poster said I'll be able to see if he's really intrested in me and not just hooking up. We'll see. Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 Should the first date take place at one's house? Not if you don't want to end up in the sack... Honeslty that sound romantic, but for a couple that's been together a while and feel comfotable together and can end the night with some love making. He can maybe cook dinner for you and then leave and go out somewhere. You can see if he cooks good and save some money After the dinner make plans to go somewhere nice, a walk or a movie but I personally wouldn't stay in the whole night. Link to post Share on other sites
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted May 18, 2005 Author Share Posted May 18, 2005 NSN. That sounds like a good idea. That could be date #2. We're just really getting the chance to actually be togehter and it's so exciting and I don't want to mess anything up. No spending the entire night at his place for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 EXACTLY...You want it to be nice and comfortable not weird and "oh my gosh what am I doing this is not right"... Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 Originally posted by JanieQP For the sake of discussion, let's presume his intentions are pure. And because they already know each other well ... A first date at his place is too comfy, too soon! If there's no going out etc on the first date, what will it be like when you're settled into a relationship?! In two weeks he'll be saying Hey, let's do laundry and eat ravioli out of the can! (I'm not saying it's not a booty call. Just offering another take on the situ.) This is what I was thinkin'. Also - this is how I used to end up having sex on teh first date, Link to post Share on other sites
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted May 18, 2005 Author Share Posted May 18, 2005 That's why we agreed to go out. I don't want to end up having sex with him on the 1st date. Link to post Share on other sites
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