misslotus Posted September 20, 2015 Share Posted September 20, 2015 I had met a guy online and we chatted for 3 years. Feelings were mutual between us and we finally met last month as he stayed for 10 days. (We are both 22). Everything was great as we were very comfortable with each other and had an amazing time. However, ever since he left, things have been very different. I expected our first visit to bring us closer together but it has done nothing but bring distance. I call every other day and he never answers, he says hes annoyed with me and our daily talking has been minimal. I'm very upset about this and tried talking to him about it but it doesn't seem to really phase him and doesn't think there is a problem. Our next visit was going to be in February. I'm not sure what to do in my case. Whether I should accept the fact that maybe it's not meant to be between us or maybe this is just a phase? Link to post Share on other sites
PrettyEmily77 Posted September 20, 2015 Share Posted September 20, 2015 Sorry you're going through this, OP. Probs best to let him come to you at this stage IMO. Expect plenty of ppl to tell you shouldn't have invested in a 3 year LDR without meeting him, but hey, the heart wants what it wants, right? At least you did get to meet and spend time in person. Has he given a reason why he's upset with you? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted September 20, 2015 Share Posted September 20, 2015 Ouch. I think he's not feeling it anymore. If he's actually telling you that he's annoyed, I would stop trying to reach out to him. For whatever reason, it's not working for him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author misslotus Posted September 20, 2015 Author Share Posted September 20, 2015 Sorry you're going through this, OP. Probs best to let him come to you at this stage IMO. Expect plenty of ppl to tell you shouldn't have invested in a 3 year LDR without meeting him, but hey, the heart wants what it wants, right? At least you did get to meet and spend time in person. Has he given a reason why he's upset with you? Just says it's little things over texting that I may say that he interprets or takes the wrong way and says that it's annoying. Link to post Share on other sites
PrettyEmily77 Posted September 20, 2015 Share Posted September 20, 2015 Just says it's little things over texting that I may say that he interprets or takes the wrong way and says that it's annoying. Looks like he's trying to look for a cowardly way out. If he ever has second thoughts (very doubtful), he may try to reach out. Let him go. Sorry misslotus. Have a few ((hugs)) Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted September 20, 2015 Share Posted September 20, 2015 Put yourself in his shoes... Let's say YOU met him after three long years, and while things went well, once you had a chance to spend time with him (for any number of reasons) your interest/feelings cooled. After you two spent time together, he on the other hand, kept contacting you. Often, he gets upset because you take his comments the wrong way. Wouldn't you find that annoying especially when you're not as hot about him as you were before you met? Sorry OP, but as others have already suggested, I think the flame's gone out -- at least on his side. Think about it... How many times in RL have you gone out on a date and nothing materialized? Sometimes things work out, sometimes they don't. Have some dignity and self-respect. Don't chase after him. Let him be, and get on with your life. You've already wasted three years, don't waste any more. Best, TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
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