iDrumKing Posted September 20, 2015 Share Posted September 20, 2015 So over the past two days I attended a music festival. My mindset going into the festival was to have fun, meet a girl, and pursue whatever happens afterwards. I would drink and drink to get a buzz so I could become more "confident" when speaking to strangers, but it always wore off. All last night I would make eye contact with multiple girls, but I always never knew what exact signs to look for so I never approached. Nearing the end of the festival this gorgeous girl from out of nowhere approached me asking me what the football score was for a game going on.... I knew she could care less about the game because it was her ice breaker. I asked if she was with a group, what school she went to, and her name. With so much going on around me, I froze..... She stood around for a few more seconds, I guess for me to say something. I didn't know what to say, so she eventually brushed my arm and walked away. I'm so pissed at myself that an opportunity like that slipped away because I didn't know what to do. What can I do to get over it and what can I do in the future if this happens again? I didn't want to ask stupid things like "what's you're major?" or "where are you from?" Shouldn't the questions pertain to the situation? I mean we were at a loud and exciting concert. Link to post Share on other sites
LostOne1 Posted September 21, 2015 Share Posted September 21, 2015 So over the past two days I attended a music festival. My mindset going into the festival was to have fun, meet a girl, and pursue whatever happens afterwards. I would drink and drink to get a buzz so I could become more "confident" when speaking to strangers, but it always wore off. All last night I would make eye contact with multiple girls, but I always never knew what exact signs to look for so I never approached. Nearing the end of the festival this gorgeous girl from out of nowhere approached me asking me what the football score was for a game going on.... I knew she could care less about the game because it was her ice breaker. I asked if she was with a group, what school she went to, and her name. With so much going on around me, I froze..... She stood around for a few more seconds, I guess for me to say something. I didn't know what to say, so she eventually brushed my arm and walked away. I'm so pissed at myself that an opportunity like that slipped away because I didn't know what to do. What can I do to get over it and what can I do in the future if this happens again? I didn't want to ask stupid things like "what's you're major?" or "where are you from?" Shouldn't the questions pertain to the situation? I mean we were at a loud and exciting concert. I was in your spot and here is what I did.... I screwed around! I tried EVERYTHING possible... 1 time I told myself I will act nice. The 2nd time I met a woman I acted like a jerk and like I was all that. I'd pick certain phrases to say and see how women react to them. Slowly, I started realizing what works, what doesn't... Think of it as a science experiment as school all over again/. This time you're learning about how to talk to women and get more comfortable with them. I share more of my experiences at Home - K3N's Relationship Advice Link to post Share on other sites
froz Posted October 16, 2015 Share Posted October 16, 2015 Hey OP yeah these opportunities come and go in life. I guess it's taking them when they do come but don't beat yourself up about it for too long, you might miss the next one! Good luck to you! Link to post Share on other sites
froz Posted October 29, 2015 Share Posted October 29, 2015 OP how are you feeling now? Any better? Link to post Share on other sites
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