reallyconfused1 Posted September 21, 2015 Share Posted September 21, 2015 Hello everyone. I am in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year. He lives about 100miles away from my town, I thought thing are pretty good between us in spite of our distance but suddenly he stop contact me since 2 weeks ago. He was supposed to come to my house and I asked him to call me before he leave his house and he said "YES" but he stood me up, since then he doesn't answer my calls, no reply to my text. Usually he is very good about answering my calls or texting me but not at this time. I know the fact he's been stressed out about his job, finances, family situation, so I told him that I won't ask anything till he's ready to come forward to me and talk to me again...but I am wondering, is it just a phase or he's breaking up with me. Please share your opinion if you had a similar experience as mine. Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted September 21, 2015 Share Posted September 21, 2015 I would consider this dead in the water. He has not contacted you in quite sometime. Standing you up? I believe you should definitely consider this over. But hey; there is always better out there. I am sorry. You care; he doesn't - he would not have stood you up, otherwise. 100 miles is fairly far from one another. But, that is of no concern to the answer you are looking for. Has he ever visited you before? I know you have said he was going to, but stood you up. Link to post Share on other sites
madjac74 Posted September 21, 2015 Share Posted September 21, 2015 Not trying to be insensitive but can you verify that he is still alive? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted September 21, 2015 Share Posted September 21, 2015 100 miles away? That would be a LDR - Long-Distance Relationship. While the above question is quite scary, it's a legitimate one. But chances are he is. And if he is - he's met someone closer to home. Nobody just shuts down 100% and doesn't engage at all in any way, without some guilty reason.... So it's either that, or he doesn't have the current ability to communicate. Can you ring his work? Relatives? You must have SOME means of being able to check.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author reallyconfused1 Posted September 21, 2015 Author Share Posted September 21, 2015 Well....when I called next morning he stood me up, his phone was off and also, I saw the history of playing FB game late that night also, sharing some pics on FB...so I don't think he's dead. I hope he's just frustrated by his problems outside of our relationship. But really...I don't understand at all..even we're 100 miles away, he doesn't mind to drive at all and we're back and forth to each other's town regular bases. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted September 21, 2015 Share Posted September 21, 2015 Well....when I called next morning he stood me up, his phone was off and also, I saw the history of playing FB game late that night also, sharing some pics on FB...so I don't think he's dead. I hope he's just frustrated by his problems outside of our relationship. But really...I don't understand at all..even we're 100 miles away, he doesn't mind to drive at all and we're back and forth to each other's town regular bases. When my H and I entered into an LDR (opposite sides of the country, 7.5 hours apart, if not more) we could only last a month, and we spoke 2, 3 sometimes 4 times a day... We had a stressful situation, and it was a very difficult period for both of us. Plenty of outside influence and experiences going on, issues with families, work, jobs, the lot. We just couldn't stay apart. It's a very difficult thing to accept, when they simply refuse to talk to you but - He's refusing to talk to you.... because he doesn't want to. I suspect, sadly, he's seeing someone else, and can't face the guilt of speaking to you, confessing or ending it. I'm sorry, but I have to suggest you completely back off and quit even checking on him.At one point or another, the silence, distance and overwhelming guilt will get the better of him, and I am sure he WILL reach out and contact you. I'm really hoping that by then, you'll have come to terms with his frankly deplorable attitude, and be able to tell him... "Who..? Oh, you. Yeah, I figured you'd disappeared so, I've moved on. I was really, really worried about you to begin with but, to be honest, you were so rude to not at least respond or get in touch that I got you pretty quickly, and decided I didn't want someone that insensitive in my life. I hope you think she was worth it." And put the 'phone down. if he doesn't try to make an effort to see you or talk to you after that - you'll know you were right.... Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 21, 2015 Share Posted September 21, 2015 Since you have verified other on-line activity, yes, your relationship is over. Him standing you up & then refusing communication is a particularly cruel, immature way of breaking up with you but that is exactly what he did. Link to post Share on other sites
AugustSnow Posted September 21, 2015 Share Posted September 21, 2015 The relationship with you and him are over, to say the least. Link to post Share on other sites
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