My ex has gone to uni

[supermaddud]

I knew today would mess me up, I feel sick. There are now so many new people in her life and I feel I will have been forgotten. I've been doing so well for a while and now I feel like I'm back to square one.

 

It's the feeling that she will, and most likely has, met some other new guys that will be trying to get with her. She's very attractive. But I also know she isn't the most sociable person, at least when I was with her she wasn't. I don't know if that will change with her being at university.

 

I'm not sure if I can resist contact, but I know why I must. I stupidly saw an instagram post of her. I need to remember that instagram is just cherry picking the good things, who knows what is really happening, how she is really feeling.

 

I wish I could stop caring about her, it's been too long now. I have no idea why I still have feelings for her after she basically threw me away like trash. I think of the bad things in the relationship, but they always ended up being overshadowed by the good things.

 

The reason I am worried about this is because I'm still holding out for a second chance. I've still got this feeling in my gut that she still cares about me, that one day I will wake up with a text from her asking to try again. I don't know how I can shake that feeling. I really don't know when this will stop, because even after this I still love her. Does anybody have any advice, or has anybody been through something similar?

[kevin smithy]

I knew today would mess me up, I feel sick. There are now so many new people in her life and I feel I will have been forgotten. I've been doing so well for a while and now I feel like I'm back to square one.

 

It's the feeling that she will, and most likely has, met some other new guys that will be trying to get with her. She's very attractive. But I also know she isn't the most sociable person, at least when I was with her she wasn't. I don't know if that will change with her being at university.

 

I'm not sure if I can resist contact, but I know why I must. I stupidly saw an instagram post of her. I need to remember that instagram is just cherry picking the good things, who knows what is really happening, how she is really feeling.

 

I wish I could stop caring about her, it's been too long now. I have no idea why I still have feelings for her after she basically threw me away like trash. I think of the bad things in the relationship, but they always ended up being overshadowed by the good things.

 

The reason I am worried about this is because I'm still holding out for a second chance. I've still got this feeling in my gut that she still cares about me, that one day I will wake up with a text from her asking to try again. I don't know how I can shake that feeling. I really don't know when this will stop, because even after this I still love her. Does anybody have any advice, or has anybody been through something similar?

 

I'm on my way to work but I had to reply to you before I leave home. I've been through the same thing man. Treated like rubbish then just dumped when me and my ex were so good and had so many plans. She startes university from the beginning of this month. I was thonking just like you, by friend came over last week and i went up on his fb n saw her pro. I aleeady saw she mad friends with some guys n they are posting stuff on her wall n what not. I still feel thw way you so cause i love her. But if she loved me she wouldve been here for me and with me, abs stuck and mase things work. They lefr for a reason. I broke contact last week and it sucked. She sais shell call back or text n she never did. Don't ever contact her. Completely finish with her. You will always have some hope but move on with your life as much as you can, meet people and hell you might meet somebody btr suited to u. I'm hoping to take the same advice I'm giving to u. If its meants to be. Then our they will try , they will comtact us because they want to and they want o ty again.until then. I choose to moved on without her.

[kevin smithy]

I knew today would mess me up, I feel sick. There are now so many new people in her life and I feel I will have been forgotten. I've been doing so well for a while and now I feel like I'm back to square one.

 

It's the feeling that she will, and most likely has, met some other new guys that will be trying to get with her. She's very attractive. But I also know she isn't the most sociable person, at least when I was with her she wasn't. I don't know if that will change with her being at university.

 

I'm not sure if I can resist contact, but I know why I must. I stupidly saw an instagram post of her. I need to remember that instagram is just cherry picking the good things, who knows what is really happening, how she is really feeling.

 

I wish I could stop caring about her, it's been too long now. I have no idea why I still have feelings for her after she basically threw me away like trash. I think of the bad things in the relationship, but they always ended up being overshadowed by the good things.

 

The reason I am worried about this is because I'm still holding out for a second chance. I've still got this feeling in my gut that she still cares about me, that one day I will wake up with a text from her asking to try again. I don't know how I can shake that feeling. I really don't know when this will stop, because even after this I still love her. Does anybody have any advice, or has anybody been through something similar?

 

I'm on my way to work but I had to reply to you before I leave home. I've been through the same thing man. Treated like rubbish then just dumped when me and my ex were so good and had so many plans. She startes university from the beginning of this month. I was thonking just like you, by friend came over last week and i went up on his fb n saw her pro. I aleeady saw she mad friends with some guys n they are posting stuff on her wall n what not. I still feel thw way you so cause i love her. But if she loved me she wouldve been here for me and with me, abs stuck and mase things work. They lefr for a reason. I broke contact last week and it sucked. She sais shell call back or text n she never did. Don't ever contact her. Completely finish with her. You will always have some hope but move on with your life as much as you can, meet people and hell you might meet somebody btr suited to u. I'm hoping to take the same advice I'm giving to u. If its meants to be. Then our they will try , they will comtact us because they want to and they want o ty again.until then. I choose to moved on without her.

[coryreply]

So sorry you're going through this, bro. It's tough.

 

Stay focused and keep moving forward. Good luck!

[d0nnivain]

Block her from IG & all other social media so you are not tortured. Do not contact her.

 

Join a new club or sport at school so that your life has new people in it too.

 

As harsh as this will sound to you, when they do go off to uni their whole worlds open up & they don't dwell on past relationships. Sorry.

[supermaddud]

Thanks for all your replies, they are much appreciated.

 

I feel that because she knew she was going to uni that she didn't feel the need to fix and try to work out the problems in our relationship. You're right in that she will now almost become a new person. It just sucks that I'm left to pick up all the pieces and work out what happened.

 

I suppose there's nothing I can do, she is her own person after all. I just wish we could have talked it out, instead of everything being over in a single moment.