So, I got extremely wasted yesterday...

[lostsoul6486]

Before I say anything else, I did not contact her. This is not the first time I've had a few drinks since we broke up, but I will admit I don't remember the last time I've been so drunk. I didn't really drink that much. I probably got so trashed because I didn't eat much of anything and all the drinking took place in the hot sun (tailgating for the best time of the year ☺).

 

As a matter of fact, I've been doing pretty well since my last post on here. I've dealt with the engagement news and I don't give her nearly as much thought as I used to; however, she was all I could think about in my drunken stupor. It wasn't too bad while I was partying it up and having a good time. It wasn't even bad when I got home last night and went to bed.

 

What's bad is today. As I type this, I'm laying in bed and I'm extremely hungover. All I've been thinking about is her. I've been thinking about the first time we met and how she made me feel. I've also been thinking about all the little things I loved about her. I've been wondering how we went from loving each other to where are now. I've disected the relationship from beginning to end more than once like I used to when the break up first happened. I don't know what to do about this. I shouldn't be feeling like this. It's been almost two years. I need to get over this, but I don't know how.

[d0nnivain]

Nurse your hangover. Eat a banana. You need the potassium. Gatorade or another sports drink will help too for the same reason.

 

This step back may be the last time as you move forward in your healing.

 

Hang in there & pat yourself on the back for not drunk dialing.

 

But you are right, two years is a long time to grieve.

[HeBa]

Eat Banana and Dehydrate yourself , have some fresh fruit Juices or sports drinks too will help as d0nnivain said , Eat some toasts or crackers will help you and calm you upset stomach and raise bloodsugare .

2 years is long time for grieve but i cant tell you what to feel and what's not but you need to realize that you have invested long time in some story in the past now , Having hangover symptoms or even normal fever symptoms cant drag you to such infinite loop of thinking you need to stop yourself from going there ..its like playing in Muddy hole then you went and have good shower then when you are that Neat you jump back in the mud . You cannot do that to yourself, Think of some1 whose just got rescued up from fatal death ,Bottom Line .. Start Living your life my friend Cuz really Life is to too short to invest it on some1 who donot give a single thought about us!

[lostsoul6486]

I don't know why I still get so down at times. I feel like I should be at a point where I don't think about her when I have one too many anymore. I'm not out drinking my sorrows away, but I do like to throw back a few beers on the weekends with friends. I'm young and I figure now is as good a time as any.

 

I've posted here so many times about this girl. A couple of times I really thought I had moved on or was at least close to it. Other times, I've just vented and I always get a few uplifting responses which I am always thankful for. Some days, like yesterday, are hell. Shouldn't I be over that phase?

 

I've thought about maybe going to therapy or something because I'm worried about myself, but I don't have the means to do so. My brother and a couple of my friends really helped me through the worst of it, but I don't want to talk to them about it because I feel like it was so long ago that it's a tired subject. Whenever I get depressed, I just deal with it. Sometimes it happens days at a time. When it gets too bad, I post here and it helps a bit. I just want to be me again

[CT98]

I don't know why I still get so down at times. I feel like I should be at a point where I don't think about her when I have one too many anymore. I'm not out drinking my sorrows away, but I do like to throw back a few beers on the weekends with friends. I'm young and I figure now is as good a time as any.

 

I've posted here so many times about this girl. A couple of times I really thought I had moved on or was at least close to it. Other times, I've just vented and I always get a few uplifting responses which I am always thankful for. Some days, like yesterday, are hell. Shouldn't I be over that phase?

 

I've thought about maybe going to therapy or something because I'm worried about myself, but I don't have the means to do so. My brother and a couple of my friends really helped me through the worst of it, but I don't want to talk to them about it because I feel like it was so long ago that it's a tired subject. Whenever I get depressed, I just deal with it. Sometimes it happens days at a time. When it gets too bad, I post here and it helps a bit. I just want to be me again

 

Where I live you can get counselling in which they only ask for a donation. So it might be worth looking into that.

 

For the record, I have a friend who still gets down occasionally about a girl who left him 14 years ago! He's married now and actually very happy, but for some reason she still haunts him every now again.

 

He's thinking about therapy/counselling as well, so maybe certain people can have this affect on you? Or maybe some people are susceptible to this sort of long term pain? I don't know..

Edited September 23, 2015 by CT98

[lostsoul6486]

Where I live you can get counselling in which they only ask for a donation. So it might be worth looking into that.

 

For the record, I have a friend who still gets down occasionally about a girl who left him 14 years ago! He's married now and actually very happy, but for some reason she still haunts him every now again.

 

He's thinking about therapy/counselling as well, so maybe certain people can have this affect on you? Or maybe some people are susceptible to this sort of long term pain? I don't know..

 

Wow...14 years, huh? I feel for him. I'm not even at 2 years and it's driving me crazy. The fact that he has a family and is happy now gives me hope though. I sometimes think of never being able to move on with my life because of these episodes I get. I still have some days where I wake up and I don't have the will to do anything. Those days usually come 3 to 4 at a time as well. Having a job that I work for myself doesn't help either. I love the flexibility of it but it's so easy to take days off and wallow in my depression.

 

I think I'll look into that donation therapy you mentioned. I haven't heard of anything like that in my area though. Thank you for sharing.

[Firstheartbreaksux]

I don't know why I still get so down at times. I feel like I should be at a point where I don't think about her when I have one too many anymore. I'm not out drinking my sorrows away, but I do like to throw back a few beers on the weekends with friends. I'm young and I figure now is as good a time as any.

 

I've posted here so many times about this girl. A couple of times I really thought I had moved on or was at least close to it. Other times, I've just vented and I always get a few uplifting responses which I am always thankful for. Some days, like yesterday, are hell. Shouldn't I be over that phase?

 

I've thought about maybe going to therapy or something because I'm worried about myself, but I don't have the means to do so. My brother and a couple of my friends really helped me through the worst of it, but I don't want to talk to them about it because I feel like it was so long ago that it's a tired subject. Whenever I get depressed, I just deal with it. Sometimes it happens days at a time. When it gets too bad, I post here and it helps a bit. I just want to be me again

 

This describes me 100%, you're not alone bud.

[GreenWellington]

The person you're experiencing today is not you, but the hungover you. They're two different people. I know for a fact that the next day after drinking or smoking, I feel 5x worst. My thoughts are more intrusive and depressing, and my outlook on life is much more bleak. Good news is that it's temporary. Just your brain chemistry re-adjusting itself.

 

Take it easy for today, love yourself. Eat a good meal and maybe watch a good movie. Then tomorrow, go to the gym and do your thing. You'll be okay trust me! It's not ever lasting. But now you know to perhaps avoid drinking so much if you want to avoid these thoughts that can creep in when you're emotionally/psychologically vulnerable..