Author Penguin_hugs Posted September 23, 2015 Author Posted September 23, 2015 OK. That is clear. Sorry I gave you a hard time. You seem to have it handled but I can't tell you how many countless women I have seen on boards like this crying on their keyboards because they had these whole elaborate anniversaries planned & their guys were like huh? what? anniversary? what are you talking about? That's ok- I know the type of people you mean- but we are a pretty open couple and would just chat out any issues we have.
lovemetobits Posted September 23, 2015 Posted September 23, 2015 Perhaps plan a getaway for your 2nd anniversary? Definitely experience for me!
Els Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 Last weekend I said "I was thinking about getting x date off work for our anniversary- we could go to x place to look at the such and such museum and have a really nice day out together" he agreed and thought it was a good idea. That's how subtle my hint was. I'm not really fussed about receiving anything back- I just like spoiling other people. Besides he treats me to dinner a lot more than I treat him so I like a day to spoil him more. With regards to the whole "anniversaries are only for marriage" idea- I'm not planning on getting hitched for a while- but I'd rather not just dismiss the years we have been together. Circumstances mean we still can't even live together for another year :/ Sounds like a good plan. Have fun! 1
Tribble Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 I don't really get it. Celebrate it or don't. I'm a mark an occasion kind of person. With my now ex, I used to send a monthly text (when I remembered) to mark when we got together. It was a big deal for me and being together meant a lot so I thought it was worth mentioning. It didn't annoy me at all when it had completely slipped his mind. At 6 months, I bought us a night away at a spa. He didn't get me anything and I didn't care at all. I wanted to go away and treat us and that seemed a perfect occasion. We took the day off work and it was lovely. And if we'd stayed together, I was planning a day trip out for our year anniversary to the place we first visited when we were seeing each other. I don't think it's insipid or silly to mark your dating anniversaries or not. I think, if you want to, mark the things that are important to you in the way that you want. Although, I do agree, don't get pissy if your OH misses it.
newmoon Posted September 24, 2015 Posted September 24, 2015 no, imo this is completely lame. like having those graduation ceremonies now for every child in kinder dressed in a cap and gown. it's not normal to be celebrating every single thing and puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on the relationship - for someone to remember, to spend, to plan, etc. placing emphasis on this stuff means your focus is on external recognition of one another, i see nothing positive in recognizing anything other than true wedding anniversaries. wasteful and weird. imo
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