laRubiaBonita Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 so My older sister~ says our little sis, who is almost 19, is in a princess phase, which is soooo true. this morning, i am making a sandwich and use the last two pieces of bread, but there is more in the freezer in the garage. it is t-minus 5 minutes till i have to go to work. she gets all bent outta shape saying how rude i was, using the last of the bread then not to get another loaf of bread from the freezer, basically so she could make her sandwich! i just looked at her like she had three heads, and laughed! then i said, this is not filling up ice trays, you can walk out and get your own bread, like i would have had to do had you been down here 5 minutes prior and already finished off the bread. then my older sis, washed everyone cars on sun. My little sis gets pissy and ungreatful because there are still bugs and craps plastered on her car. Keep in mind, that the girl has not washed her own car in over a year, and my older sis said there was still baby deer guts on her car, from when she hit a fawn last fall! Ugh! she is such a snobby-thing! and it comes and goes sooo fast! One second we are all nice and happy, the next second she is suddenly loathing the fact that i am breathing her air! we all get along good and all, but there is usually one hour in the day, that i cannot take her 'tude and sass! i also know, that because my sister and i are 7 and 8 years older than she, she has always been sassy due us being older and sassy........But we were Older. so she has always had this little back talk mouth, and my little sis and my father can really get into it, and piss each other off like NO other! really, my father gets the most angry at my little sister and my mother. But i think it cause she is the baby-girl. Maybe it is the Baby Princess Syndrome? Link to post Share on other sites
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 I think you need to tell her that SHE'S 19 YEARS OLD!!!!!!!! Grow the f*** up and deal with it. Is she still getting breast fed? Meaning is your mom still babying her? If so then she's not helping the problem. She's old enough to know that the "princess phase" isn't flattering when tour 19!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
FolderWife Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 Don't worry....she'll learn once she gets out on her own...or gets a husband that lines her out Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 My son is pulling this crappy behavior all of a sudden too - we were excited to see him home for the summer but the excitement is quickly failing - me, me, me, me is all he thinks about. I think it's the age - he's 19 too. Link to post Share on other sites
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 Originally posted by brashgal My son is pulling this crappy behavior all of a sudden too - we were excited to see him home for the summer but the excitement is quickly failing - me, me, me, me is all he thinks about. I think it's the age - he's 19 too. But isn't this a 6 year old phase? Shouldn't he have grown out of it after gradustion of HS? Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 I'm 19 and dont act like that!! Eventually when she realizez thatthe world does not revolve around her and she has to face the real world she'll change quicker than ASAP~ Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue But isn't this a 6 year old phase? Shouldn't he have grown out of it after gradustion of HS? Not really. When I was sixteen to twenty it was all about me, me, me. I was a real selfish bitch and did some things that were extremely inconsiderate and cruel just because I put myself first and actually scoffed at people I didn't think were as 'smart' as I was - like my family. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 Don't worry, LRB, reality will come back and bite her in her little pretty princess arse sooner than you think. And if she's a smart girl, she'll learn from it. In the mean time, don't take any of her crap and don't talk down to her either. If you treat her like a brat, she'll act back at you like a brat. And stay out of sister-dad fights. My dad was soooo right shouting at my sister in her teen years . It did her a lot of good too. Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 But isn't this a 6 year old phase? Shouldn't he have grown out of it after gradustion of HS? That's what I keep thinking!! He's been away at college and I guess thinks he can still live his life his own way (he's been living alone too so hasn't had to deal with roommates) - we had one 'rejoin reality' talk this morning and I'm thinking of establishing ground rules for the summer - he's driving me nuts and treating the house like a hotel. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 Brashgal, the next years till he graduates aren't gonna be easy for you. Isn't he looking for an internship over the summer? I've discovered that if kids have too much free time, they do really stupid things. On the other hand, once university is over, good-bye childhood, good-bye summer for yourself... so maybe it's ok to enjoy his liberty, to a point. Once these years are gone, bye bye and a rivederci!!! Forever ! Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 My sister says that I am in that little princess stage too, but I tell her that it's not that, that is just who I am already and nothing can change it Link to post Share on other sites
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 Originally posted by brashgal That's what I keep thinking!! He's been away at college and I guess thinks he can still live his life his own way (he's been living alone too so hasn't had to deal with roommates) - we had one 'rejoin reality' talk this morning and I'm thinking of establishing ground rules for the summer - he's driving me nuts and treating the house like a hotel. Well then you need to put your foot down. I think all you need is a little discipline. Their obviously princess' b/c no one tell me them to shut their mouth. Your feeding it to them by not telling then that their being selfish or spoiled etc. etc. What did you say to your sis LRB when she seemed ungrateful for the FREE car wash. Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 Originally posted by brashgal he's driving me nuts and treating the house like a hotel. When he's out of the house, make his bed and lay a mint on his pillow along with a bill for "houskeeping" services. Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 He half-heartedly looked for an internship - he still has a couple years of school left at least so I was not too worried about him not finding an internship this summer. And I do want him to have fun, but he needs to make some money this summer and he has just so many weeks to do so. He got a part-time job in a chain store that he's worked at before - retail - he was supposed to be working all week to help set up a new store. He has worked ONE DAY for less than 6 hours and he called in this morning to tell them he's too sore, he can't come in today. All I can see is laziness - job started at 8am, he'd prefer to sleep in - well, hell, who doesn't?? Then he took off with his girlfriend, no offer to help out with anything around the house (and he's done very little to help since he's been home - I figured I'd let him 'rest' after finals). No more cool Mom - trying to think of a way to appeal to his adult side without having to treat him like a child, I just hope he decides to meet me halfway or this will be a miserable summer for both of us. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 Boys take forever to grow up. Some never do. Still, thank Lord at least he isn't doing anything. Imagine a girl who's home, does nothing, and is on constant PMS condition. Plus girls need much more money. HE'll come around, eventually. This life style is quite hard do shake off, I sure remember that. Like those before me said, make rules and stick to them. But don't take it against him that he wants to make of this summer, brash. Be firm, not bitter or dissapointed. Arrggh, to be 19 again... Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 I know - I don't want to alienate him since his Dad already has. I still remember how grown up he was at 9 before all the hormones started raging - there sure are tradeoffs to growing up. This too shall pass. Thanks for the crying shoulder! Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 You want to appeal to his adult side? That's easy. Tell him that since he IS technically an adult, he needs to start paying rent or else he'll be kicked out by June 1st. My mom did that with me when I was his age. Boy, did it ever work. As far as him trashing the house, so to speak, take his dirty dishes, his dirty clothes, etc., and put them in the middle of his bed. He'll get the hint. I understand not wanting to alienate him, but please don't send him out into the world thinking his behavior is ok. Because then WE have to deal with babyish crap like that, and it's not as charming to those of us who aren't related to him. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 You're wellcome, brash. I'm sure he's a great kid, he's got one great lady as mom, he's got no other choice . IT's good that the dad is pissed off. Something tells me that he's got his motives to. But... I don't know, I was such a wild horse when I was 19, thank Lord mom didn't see me that much that summer - I got an internship that year in the same city where I did my studies. And I was a nice girl. My ex told me that when he was 20, he fall inlove like a blind man with this girl, got a job and almost lost his year at school. He spent that year/summer in between parties at the seaside and at the mountain. It dried him out. It changed him a lot. Of course, after the noce ride, she dumped him and went back to her bf . Lol, men! Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 Originally posted by Treasa I understand not wanting to alienate him, but please don't send him out into the world thinking his behavior is ok. Because then WE have to deal with babyish crap like that, and it's not as charming to those of us who aren't related to him. SO funny you should say that, I just dumped a bunch of his stuff he left lying around right in the middle of his unmade bed. No, I told him I thought his behavior was not okay but I think I need to make the case more compelling - and work on my delivery, I was definitely too emotional this morning and not in a good way. Time to negotiate while laying down the law. Link to post Share on other sites
Author laRubiaBonita Posted May 17, 2005 Author Share Posted May 17, 2005 LOL!! My older sister Just called me to complain/ vent about my little sister....apperaently the small fry wants to move out.....Bwahahahahahaha . Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 Originally posted by brashgal SO funny you should say that, I just dumped a bunch of his stuff he left lying around right in the middle of his unmade bed. You ROCK. Link to post Share on other sites
scarlyjones Posted May 17, 2005 Share Posted May 17, 2005 Originally posted by Treasa When he's out of the house, make his bed and lay a mint on his pillow along with a bill for "houskeeping" services. LMAO...................Yup,....good one. Up his bill amount due to his use of the hotels local phone service too. And that the breakfast every morning wasnt continental,..therefore wasnt complimentary. 19 is a real selfish age for alot of teens. Thats where they think that since its the end of high school and the beginning of college or work,..that they are "all grown up" and that must mean they know everything. makes you want to strangle the life out of them. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 Originally posted by Treasa I understand not wanting to alienate him, but please don't send him out into the world thinking his behavior is ok. Because then WE have to deal with babyish crap like that, and it's not as charming to those of us who aren't related to him. Hopefully no one moves in with his 19 years old bf ! True about the bad habitssticking to them on the long run, though. I see less and less strict mom boys these days - in Europe at least. What's the deal with that? And incredible mom daughters'. Weird... Link to post Share on other sites
Brandi Renee Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 This is sooooo true! Everything you said right down to the dad and her going toe to toe is exactly my situation. I am 8 years older than my sister and we just took a 3 day trip to la to gether and let me tell you, I will neveer ever ever do that again. She is soooo into herself and looks and has a major mouth on her, seen to people she does into even know. She will get right in other peoples faces . I hate it sooo much. Thank god we dont live together. I talked to my mom about it and she said I was the same way at that age, but I dont rember that. Just steer clear. Link to post Share on other sites
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