eye of the storm Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 You know why she took his phone. And she read every word he had not yet deleted. She is probably right now combing his emails, his FB, she is checking AM...If she is smart she is giving him a colonoscopy. She will know everything she wants to if he wants to save his M. You already know he was completely willing to block you the second she asked him to. She is his priority. Not you. He will tell her anything she wants to know about you also. I know you are upset. But it is good that you got thrown under the bus now and not later when you two had slept together. Take this as missing a bullet. It is a good thing. Move on. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedovo Posted October 8, 2015 Author Share Posted October 8, 2015 Yes that is true. If we had slept together this would hurt even more. Still sucks tho, I'm not gonna lie. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 Well, maybe you can start the ethical part of your life now, now that someone ELSE had to stop the two of you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
eye of the storm Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 Yes that is true. If we had slept together this would hurt even more. Still sucks tho, I'm not gonna lie. No need to lie. It does suck. But I still say you dodged a bullet. That being said, you were playing hop scotch at the wrong end of the firing lines....but you lucked out majorly. Go buy a lottery ticket. And stick to single guys. Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 I just wonder why she took his phone off him, and how much she read... Thanks for the well wishes Because she probably got suspicious of his behaviour that's why. She saw the messages between you and wasn't impressed......no surprise there really. You can't have a male married friend that his wife doesn't know about and especially when you have the hots for him. She'll read and analyse everything and realise that you're interested in her man. I'm sure she wasn't so much jealous as she was pissed off, that her newlywed H, soon to be a father is texting another woman. She's probably wondering if this is a sign of the future and second guessing everything that's happened between them. Keep any interactions with married men professional or you'll get burnt. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 And if you're lucky, she won't come after you with a pitchfork. Link to post Share on other sites
SoulStorm Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Hard lesson.... You can bet his wife will be on hyper alert and watching both you and him in the future. You would be wise to cut him loose and keep pursuing your single friend or face the hormonal wrath of a married pregnant woman. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedovo Posted October 9, 2015 Author Share Posted October 9, 2015 Because she probably got suspicious of his behaviour that's why. Maybe she heard him on the phone to me late at night. I wish I knew more details... Like if she read where we met up that evening which he pursued....damn. Our friend said MM was in a terrible mood when he called him to ask why he blocked me. Apparently he told him to F**k off, for some reason, which is strange. Nah I'm not really worried about her coming after me. MM doesn't know exactly where I live. Even if he did I doubt he'd tell her so she can hurt me! Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs. John Adams Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 it doesn't matter...let it go...move on....forget about it 1 Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Maybe she heard him on the phone to me late at night. I wish I knew more details... Like if she read where we met up that evening which he pursued....damn. Our friend said MM was in a terrible mood when he called him to ask why he blocked me. Apparently he told him to F**k off, for some reason, which is strange. Nah I'm not really worried about her coming after me. MM doesn't know exactly where I live. Even if he did I doubt he'd tell her so she can hurt me! Let it go! My word! How old are you? Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Nah I'm not really worried about her coming after me. MM doesn't know exactly where I live. Even if he did I doubt he'd tell her so she can hurt me! God. Do you even hear yourself? Did you grow up thinking "I'm going to grow up to be a lying, sneaking, man stealer?" Confused, your life - right now - is pathetic. Do something better with your life. If you're capable. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedovo Posted October 9, 2015 Author Share Posted October 9, 2015 God. Do you even hear yourself? Did you grow up thinking "I'm going to grow up to be a lying, sneaking, man stealer?" Confused, your life - right now - is pathetic. Do something better with your life. If you're capable. A you're rude. B what about that you bolded makes you say this? You want me to be worried about her coming after me? You don't know my life or what im doing with it. This is just one issue in my life. It doesn't tell you anything about the rest of it. Calm down. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 (edited) No, I want you to GROW UP and start acting like the person your parents expected you to be. Honest, admirable, acting in a manner where you don't HAVE to worry about a betrayed wife finding out you're TAKING HER HUSBAND away from her. And yes, I DO want you to be worried about her coming after you. You SHOULD be worried about her coming after you. That's called a CONSEQUENCE FOR IMMORAL BEHAVIOR - people want to punish you for your BAD ACTIONS. You act like all you did is steal a lipstick from a store. You MESSED WITH another woman's LIFE. Knowingly. Have you told your mother you did this? Edited October 9, 2015 by turnera 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Maybe she heard him on the phone to me late at night. I wish I knew more details... Like if she read where we met up that evening which he pursued....damn. Our friend said MM was in a terrible mood when he called him to ask why he blocked me. Apparently he told him to F**k off, for some reason, which is strange. Nah I'm not really worried about her coming after me. MM doesn't know exactly where I live. Even if he did I doubt he'd tell her so she can hurt me! I'm amazed at just you call this guy a friend after a few weeks and meeting on the street. Anyway, that aside their marriage and conversations are nothing to do with you. It doesn't take much for suspicions to arise and she could have just looked at his phone or demanded that he unlocks the phone if he's nothing to hide. I know a guy who did this. He suspected and asked his wife to see her phone or he was gone. She refused and he spent the night at a hotel and filed for D that week. The next day she called and offered to show him the phone. He wasn't interested and was insulted that she took him for a fool. He told his friend to f off because he's being questioned about blocking you who means nothing to him, versus saving his marriage. It's a no brainer......off course you're gonna get blocked. That guy is no friend of the marriage. Stop worrying yourself and start seeing married men as UNAVAILABLE. Believe me, if she wanted to find where you lived there are ways and means. I expect she has bigger fish to fry right now though. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
waterwoman Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Oh lordy! I can imagine how I'd have reacted being pregnant and suspecting H was getting too close to another woman. Pregnant women can have a tendency to be somewhat emotionally volatile. I am the most placid woman imaginable ....except when hormonally-enhanced And you are wondering why she took his phone off him. She's lucky she didn't take something else off him.... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SoulStorm Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 This one is a train wreck of epic proportions. Let her keep riding this train. Experience will be the best teacher. Warnings do nothing for this person. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 I am trying to imagine this woman with a new baby, crying in her glider rocker after a feeding, while her hubby is texting confused or off "working late" but really sleeping with confused......MY heart breaks for her, and I'm not even involved. That the OP could have such a lack of empathy and boundaries just blows my mind. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Faust Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 I just wonder why she took his phone off him, and how much she read... Thanks for the well wishes Probably enough to see you flinging yourself at him and he was lapping it up like a dog to water. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
eye of the storm Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Confusedovo. You don't know this guy well enough to know what he would do in a situation where his W is breathing down his neck for answers. Many WSs, who spent years with their APs, have thrown their APs under the bus. And many BSs have come after the AP with guns blazing. You don't know. Please stop asking these people to contact the MM for you, stop asking them why he blocked your/isn't talking to you. It makes you look like a needy doormat that is begging to have someone wipe their feet on you. Get up and show some pride in yourself. Every time you think of the MM say "dodged a bullet" and then think about something else. Right now you look bad. (needy, clingy, willing to accept scraps from the garbage) but if you stop and move on, eventually nobody will remember. Ask yourself why you are desperately begging for scraps when there is someone out there willing to serve you a complete meal? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Maybe she heard him on the phone to me late at night. I wish I knew more details... Like if she read where we met up that evening which he pursued....damn. Our friend said MM was in a terrible mood when he called him to ask why he blocked me. Apparently he told him to F**k off, for some reason, which is strange. Nah I'm not really worried about her coming after me. MM doesn't know exactly where I live. Even if he did I doubt he'd tell her so she can hurt me! Trust me on this, if he has to choose between you and his wife, child, bank account, alimony, child support and living in his home or a cardboard box behind his favorite Chinese restaurant, he will throw you under the first available bus. He will tell his wife everything he knows about you to save his cheating a$$. He was grooming you to be his bit of strange on the side, that's all. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 OP, now would be a good time to get in to see a counselor. You can work on boundaries, detecting and stopping risky behavior, loving yourself first, and getting interested only in men who are available and behave acceptably. (There are many single men actively chasing you, so goof around with them. No guarantees of successful r/s, but you won't get thrown under the D-day bus or end up with a BW's nails ripping your throat open.) Wishing you well and hoping to see you move on in a better direction. Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Maybe she heard him on the phone to me late at night. I wish I knew more details... Like if she read where we met up that evening which he pursued....damn. Our friend said MM was in a terrible mood when he called him to ask why he blocked me. Apparently he told him to F**k off, for some reason, which is strange. Nah I'm not really worried about her coming after me. MM doesn't know exactly where I live. Even if he did I doubt he'd tell her so she can hurt me! Not strange that he told his friend to f&@k off. He was dealing with the consequences of his actions and feeling the full weight of his stupid flirtation with you. At the time his friend called his wife was probably rightfully having a meltdown and being asked about why he blocked you probably sounded unbelievably stupid and inconsequential. Like if you had just received news that you are going to die from a terminal illness and right at that moment somebody called you to ask why you are not showing more concern for your friend Mildred's toenail fungus. You might want to tell that person to f&@k off. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Blunt Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 (edited) Confusedovo This is kinda like a heavyweight title fight. In one corner we have: Confusedove …Stats for winning the fight: New to the MM…MM does not have the hard parts in life associated with confusedove…..young and eager for excitement….. MM is interested in sex…..Confusedove may look better physically to MM than MM’s wife. MM…stats for winning the fight: He has cut off contact…..he has a wife that he has children with….he cares about his financial status, child support, alimony, …he knows that betraying his wife is also betraying his children… If MM pumps you a time or two he will be disgusted with you and himself. Confusedove You may win a few opening rounds in this fight but I guarantee you will lose the fight! You are a guaranteed loser in this fight but you will probably have to get knocked out before you learn. You are so controlled by your initial one day feelings and chemistry that your wisdom does not have a chance to work for you. Like a lot of heavyweight fights, we get to be excited about the battle but after the few minutes of interest we all go home to more important issues. You, Confusedove, will pay the price, and your wounds will last a long time, maybe your whole life. If you do succeed in harming this man, his wife, and innocent child, will you keep us posted? I get bored sometimes and need someone like you that will drama at your own expense so that I can have a boredom killer for a few minutes; your destruction will not affect me, so go ahead and pursue your evil! Ding ding…round two! Edited October 9, 2015 by Mr Blunt 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedovo Posted October 10, 2015 Author Share Posted October 10, 2015 Not sure why some of you are still acting like I'm still persuing him, cause I'm not. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs. John Adams Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 Have you blocked him and stopped all contact with him? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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