Changing goals/priorities?

[anomaly]

Early in 2014 I met a woman online on the other side of the world and we messaged for a few months and got to know each other pretty well in that time. She's actually from the US like I am but is living abroad. There was some mutual interest but at that time, I just couldn't imagine even meeting her or being in a LDR plus I was seeing someone already. Our communication dropped off as she started to see someone else.

 

This past April I messaged her again, we both happened to be single again, and it took off stronger than ever. We haven't stopped talking since that point. We message throughout the day and Skype 2-3 times a week and both had a dream/plan to eventually move to the same US city. It became an instant strong connection as our (Myers Briggs) personality types really complement each other and we were both ready for something more serious with each other. We've both admitted to how happy we've been. It was going so well that we decided to meet in June for the first time while she was in the US for work. We spent the weekend together and had an amazing time and confirmed what we had been feeling and talking about for a few months. So we moved forward with our plans to move to the same city.

 

I quit my job and just moved to the new city. I'm still looking for a job as is she but she won't move until she has one. The job hunt hasn't gone as expected and she quickly became discouraged and afraid she couldn't find something. I've encouraged her to be patient and not worry about the time. Coincidentally she was applying for jobs in Europe before we reconnected and one company just came back to her showing strong interest to make a big offer. She's now considering taking that instead of what we agreed upon because it's such a good opportunity and pays so much more than she figures she could make here. She's taking time to think about everything including whether she really wants to move back here. It's caused a serious issue between us for the past week or so and we haven't been talking much.

 

I feel betrayed and misled and upset that she's going back on what we agreed upon especially since I moved already. And I'm also upset that she would choose a job over a relationship. It'd be a good job but in a place that's not really a destination either of us have really ever desired and I can already imagine her being unhappy there looking to leave just like she is now. In the few times we've talked about it she seems completely overwhelmed with the decision and at a loss for so many bad things that have happened to her over the past few years. I'm very emotional about the situation and have been given advice to just be supportive so she can decide for herself. I'm not one to push or demand something from my partner. I want it to be mutually agreed upon. Yet the situation has made me want to fight for what we've been talking about for months. I don't know if I'm really looking for anything in particular here, just some insight and objective views if possible. Thanks for listening/reading. And just for some additional context we are both in our mid 30s and have been talking about wanting to settle down ever since we reconnected.