LookAtThisPOst Posted September 23, 2015 Share Posted September 23, 2015 There's this woman that rejoined OK Cupid, in fact, when I met her a couple of years go, online, she was just getting to know a man and dating him. So our timing was off. Hadn't seen her since, until today. We started chatting as we're both into kayaking and other outdoor activities. Same beliefs. She did remember me, so I decided to take it to the next step. She said that she couldn't as she's very involved with other volunteer activities in the community. In fact, even her after work events ties into her career, she's also active in the local community theater rotary club, local film festival board, etc. She claimed all this got in the way between her and a man she had been seeing through OK Cupid to a point she was eventually engaged to, but he lives an 1:40 mins away...they couldn't make it work because neither could give up leaving their corresponding locations. She lives in small town American, and acknowledges even in her profile that the reason she joined OK Cupid was due to the lack of quality singles that don't look like the butt of a Jeff Foxworthy joke. She claims now that even though they had to call thigns off with her fiance', from now on, she'd prefer to date someone local...even though there are lack of prospects in the area. So she's really screwing herself in a sense, because she's passionate for involvement in the community and isn't willing to give that up for someone....but perhaps may find it easier for someone a few miles down the road. Where I live, which is north of a very large city, an hour, even FURTHER north the cities turn to towns and the towns to townships to intersections with a flashing yellow light. Not sure why'd she limit herself, considering she's likely "out of place" in her town, but also considers what she does after work for her community a passion. Thoughts on why this woman is limiting herself? People like this, I don't know what they have to prove with the whole "live to work" vs. 'Work to live", but I don't know of anyone ontheir death bed that's wanted to be remembered for such things , right? Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted September 23, 2015 Share Posted September 23, 2015 She's on Ok Cupid, it's obvious she is looking for something romantic with someone. I don't think she joined just to tell every man she is busy. My wager is that she will say yes and make time for a man who piques her interest. I think she simply wasn't interested so decided to pull the ol' I'm busier than God excuse with you, as she probably feels it seems more polite than just saying no. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted September 23, 2015 Author Share Posted September 23, 2015 I'm busier than God excuse with you, as she probably feels it seems more polite than just saying no. That made me crack up, Miss Bee...lol. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 23, 2015 Share Posted September 23, 2015 People like this, I don't know what they have to prove with the whole "live to work" vs. 'Work to live", but I don't know of anyone ontheir death bed that's wanted to be remembered for such things , right? I'm certain many people would want to be remembered for their accomplishments within their passion, yes. Not everyone values a relationship over other interests. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted September 23, 2015 Author Share Posted September 23, 2015 I'm certain many people would want to be remembered for their accomplishments within their passion, yes. Not everyone values a relationship over other interests. I was kind of surprised she told me she didn't grow up in said town, lived there a long time, but not a "townie" as some call it. It's pretty rare for a single person that's an empty nester to have any interest in their area Chamber of Commerce, Rotary Club, and any number of existing, small town functions that most single tend to avoid like the plague, esp. when their interests lie in finding a future someone. She also claims to not have internet at home, which I don't buy because her job both on and off the clock would pretty much require it. She could be married and just not telling anyone. I usually am willing to commute a certain distance a way from my small town to meet other singles, because I have to. Funny, where she lives in relation to me, is not that far. I know quite a few single people where I live that just use this place to live (hang their hat) and nothing more, but yet their friendships usually include people that are out of town. They travel to see others usually within the state and avoid their small town. Some even kind of criticize the area due to the fact of it closing it's businesses so early. It's rather backwards thinking on her part as a single, empty nester living in a backwater town and at the same time her reason for BEING on the site is because there's mostly back water hicks with missing teeth where she lives aren't worth dating. But yet, she's not willing a few more miles to meet someone? That's a problem with a lot of singles, they want their cake and eat it too. Sorry, not going to happen. Link to post Share on other sites
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