code47 Posted September 23, 2015 Share Posted September 23, 2015 First and foremost; I'm really happy that I've came across this community. In the hope of some responses and opinions from neutral perspective, I'm gonna try to sum up my situation as short as possible, while keeping the essential details so you can get the happenings. I've been in a relationship with a girl for almost a year, and I can say there's been a lot of great memories we created during the times. At the 3rd month we kind of broke up because I was being jelaous, since my gf was talking way too much over phone with a guy, and they've been very close. She felt hurt as well saying that I don't trust her enough. After a week of silence, she texted me that we've been both making a mistake, blahblah...So we got back together after 7 days. Eveything was going fine, even after a month and a half she said it was the best thing that happened to us, because we got closer than before. Time was passing, everything was awesome... 9th month. Things started to get out of balance, she got to know some other guy, and I was absolutely fine with that. I don't consider myself a jelaous type. She was hanging out with his circle of friends, as they had mutual friends. A friday night I was working in a club as a DJ, and she got into some trouble and came on stage for her phone being in a hurry. I tried to stop her to ask what's going on, and she just pulled me away and ran outside. Anyway, I was playing, so I decided to stay on stage and not go out with her. In the next few days she started being cold and distant, and I asked her what's going on. She told me it hurt her I dind't came after her and now she is sure she's not priority for me. We argued on this a lot, for the first time. A few days later I appologized, and things were messy. One time it was her texting me, a few days later it was me texting her. Meanwhile we tried to solve things but each time we ended up fighting and not talking for days. Two weeks later, I texted her I understand her anger and that I can understand she doesn't want to continue the relationship. Suprisingly, she replied she is able to continue it, but she needs time to sort out stuff with that guy I mentioned, because she couldn't get away from him (which I could believe easily because I know the guy is a big problem, he even threatened his ex girlfriend with things). I told her it's okay, I'm hosting a house party tomorrow, and invited her over to chill and have fun. She agreed, and came over. The party was going on, we chatted, making jokes, and I was totally casual with her. Two hours later she invited me out to talk, and told me she still loves me the same, but we couldn't get back together yet because she doesn't know how to tell the other dude to f*ck off, as the guy is into her (and I strongly believe she was into him as well,but they argued over me, and he pulled her into my arms on that night). I was happy things are getting back on track, and we had an amazing night being together again, after more than a month of being apart and constant fighting. A few days later, we ended up being together again. It was pretty awkward after all these fights, and I saw in her she couldn't get over those fights. Meanwhile, the guy was constantly calling her and threatening us with physical abuse. One night as I was out with her brother, I got the info that she's hanging out with that dude again, and it got me totally upset. Next day I told her over text she was having a hard time running away from him, and now she meets him again?! I lost belief in her words. She got upset on me again that I'm jelaous, blahblah...And that I should have just asked her on normal why they met, because all she wanted with him is a closure of their friendship. This was our very last fight, and a week later I tried to ask her what's up with us, and she told me it's over. Another week passed, and I told her I agree with the breakup, and hope it doesn't bother her if we see each other sometimes, because I'm in good friendship with her bro and family. Since then, she's in touch with that guy again... We aren't talking, but she was asking my sister what's up with me. Today she came over with her bro to our house to wish my sister a happy birthday. It was super-awkward I must say. She couldn't even look at me the whole time. Whenever she tried to indirectly tell me something, she looked at her bro while saying it, lol. I'm in NC, though. Do you see any chance for us in the future? As she told me it's over, I asked her why, and she said because I wasn't there for her when she needed it (that night), and that I didn't care for her enough. Interestingly, while we were both buys with school and stuff, everything was different. But as the vacation hit in, and we met pretty much every day, it led to this situation... Thank you very much for your time to read, and for those who are trying to help me. Daniel Link to post Share on other sites
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