Author violetdiamond Posted December 13, 2015 Author Share Posted December 13, 2015 Thanks so much Gosh and Whenwillthisbeover! And Gosh, that is great that your crush is probably coming for Christmas, that will be amazing! Link to post Share on other sites
Author violetdiamond Posted December 19, 2015 Author Share Posted December 19, 2015 (edited) Ok now I'm very confused...I need some second opinions. So two weeks ago during one of our talks he said that he considered me his girlfriend, and hoped that I considered him my boyfriend. He even said "I love you" and everything. We skyped twice that week, and then twice last week and spoke on the phone once and messaged twice last week. The last time we talked on skype was last Thursday. I didn't hear anything from since then so I sent him a message on whatsapp on Tuesday. He called right away after reading the message and we talked for about 10 minutes, he was at work. We had a nice chat and he said that he's been working on a big show (he does theater light design) and that he's been coming home around 4 AM. He said he would try try to send me pictures of from his lights for the show when they were done. Everything seemed fine and normal. And that's it. I haven't heard from him since Tuesday. And it's driving me crazy. We haven't skyped all week, and he hasn't initiated contact since last Thursday. He hasn't been on whatsapp since he called me and he's been on facebook maybe 2 or three times since then (according to his last active status)...he hasn't been on facebook since yesterday. Based om this it seems like he really is busy, it's not like he's been sitting around on facebook and whatsapp all day and not contacted me. Basically I'm getting to the point where I'm wondering about this whole thing. Shouldn't you talk to your "girlfriend" at least once a week on skype? Or am I being too needy/demanding? Should I message him (which I don't really want to do, I hate initiating contact twice in a row...I feel like the person who has gone MIA should initiate contact, I don't want to seem needy and like a nag). I can't skype him, he only signs onto skype to talk to me and I'm always signed in on my phone with the app... I don't know if I'm overreacting or not, sometimes I lose perspective, haha. There is a 6 hour time difference and I know it's a busy time for him at work, and the holidays and everything. I just don't like not being contacted for so many days, him sending me a text message takes about 5 seconds to do. Should I just move on and assume it's over after not hearing from him since Tuesday, or should I just chill out? Thanks so much! Edited December 19, 2015 by violetdiamond Link to post Share on other sites
privategal Posted December 19, 2015 Share Posted December 19, 2015 Does anyone else think a 39 yr old guy on whatsapp spells married? Also no gaps in communicating to gaps now with excuses? Just playing devils advocate. Know who your texting everyday. Be sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Author violetdiamond Posted December 19, 2015 Author Share Posted December 19, 2015 haha I see what you're saying. I'm pretty sure he's not married though, otherwise wouldn't his wife think it's strange that he's on skype in his living room talking to another women all hours of the night? We met this summer and this started out in person, not online, so I did get to actually see him and we went on dates and stuff. Everyone in Europe seems to be on Whatsapp of all different ages, it seems a lot more widespread there than in the USA... In terms of gaps in communication, there have been gaps before, in August and September. We would go up to a week without any communication, which he explained again as due to being busy with work. We weren't skyping back then though, only messaging. I appreciate your feedback though, I agree that I do need to be careful and you never really know who you are texting! Link to post Share on other sites
privategal Posted December 19, 2015 Share Posted December 19, 2015 haha I see what you're saying. I'm pretty sure he's not married though, otherwise wouldn't his wife think it's strange that he's on skype in his living room talking to another women all hours of the night? We met this summer and this started out in person, not online, so I did get to actually see him and we went on dates and stuff. Everyone in Europe seems to be on Whatsapp of all different ages, it seems a lot more widespread there than in the USA... In terms of gaps in communication, there have been gaps before, in August and September. We would go up to a week without any communication, which he explained again as due to being busy with work. We weren't skyping back then though, only messaging. I appreciate your feedback though, I agree that I do need to be careful and you never really know who you are texting! His wife might be asleep, or travel for work or he may be at his familys house. Id start trying real hard to consider visiting him again soon and ask to see his home. I have a feeling....tell him also on Skype next time...show me your place...where do you sleep...give me the tour...you can see if his bedroom has a woman's touch. If he gets weird about it...you visiting or showing you more of his place...you kinda know he's shady. Link to post Share on other sites
craw Posted December 19, 2015 Share Posted December 19, 2015 Sounds like he's just busy to me. Do you see yourself moving closer to him? Link to post Share on other sites
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