Please help!!!

[Confused]

Hi everyone,

 

I just recently found this board, and had read a few posts here. Everyone here seems to truly want to help. That's great. So please give me some insights.

 

Well here's my problem:

 

I broke up with my boyfriend about 4 months ago (we had been dating for 10 months). He's a great and wonderful guy, he respects me and genuinely care for me and does not force me to do anything I don't want. We're still friends and still contacting each other, but we don't hang out because I don't want to, I don't want to lead him on or hurt him or lead towards more attachments. I'm also scared that if I'm around I can't help myself (not in a sexual way, we never have sex, I meant emotionally). I know that he still cares for me, and if I wanted to I could have him back in my life.

 

Here's my problem, I half wanted and half not. I still care for him, I think about him every day, before I go to bed and when I wake up, but I don't want to hurt him. I don't think I could spend a lot of time with him either. Right now in my life, I have so much going on. I need to focus on my education and my internship to set up a bright future for myself. So it would be unfair to start a relationship with him again, if I can't spend much time with. So basically I'm leaning on to not to restart anything. If someday after I'm done with all my goals, if we still have a chance something will work out. If not, I guess it isn't meant to be. I'm just not very sure of my decision, I just have some doubts in my mind that what if I'm giving up on a great guy. What if something happened before I finished my goals, what if one of us die, what would it lead to? I'm so confuse. I care for him, but I don't want to hurt him. I guess it's best to let it be as it is now.

[Tony T]

YOU ASK: "What if something happened before I finished my goals, what if one of us die, what would it lead to?"

 

It would lead to a funeral, usually within two to four days.

 

Your entire post sounds like you are trying to convince yourself that you have a lot more important things to pursue than this guy. I think you are trying to deceive the hell out of yourself. I don't believe a word of it. I think you want a relationship with this guy and you are fighting it with all your might.

 

Actuary probability is that neither one of you will die in the near future. But hope for his sake that he finds love with someone who will not give her brain a hernia trying to talk herself out of a relationship with him.

 

All your life you will have goals. If you can't work a little romance into the pursuit of them, what's the point in even living? Yeah, if one of you die...if it's you...they will put on your gravestone..."Here lies confused, who busted her butt to convince herself she couldn't have love and died in the process."

 

RIP

[Truth]

YOU ASK: "What if something happened before I finished my goals, what if one of us die, what would it lead to?" It would lead to a funeral, usually within two to four days. Your entire post sounds like you are trying to convince yourself that you have a lot more important things to pursue than this guy. I think you are trying to deceive the hell out of yourself. I don't believe a word of it. I think you want a relationship with this guy and you are fighting it with all your might. Actuary probability is that neither one of you will die in the near future. But hope for his sake that he finds love with someone who will not give her brain a hernia trying to talk herself out of a relationship with him. All your life you will have goals. If you can't work a little romance into the pursuit of them, what's the point in even living? Yeah, if one of you die...if it's you...they will put on your gravestone..."Here lies confused, who busted her butt to convince herself she couldn't have love and died in the process." RIP

er how old are you? is there pressure on you to study hard from your parents?