LookAtThisPOst Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 This is it basically. I've never heard anyone refer to a female as a creep or creepy. I've known some guys who were being stalked by women though. I've never been stalked. Agreed, I mean, I would hear VERY occasionally how a man was stalked, but this is something someone rarely hears about. Or if he is, it doesn't make a big stink about it as he's not really too concerned. I mean, I don't think I've ever seen a man carrying pepper spray on a key chain. I think women have more reason to be on alert as they are the ones being pursued by men. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotpotato Posted September 26, 2015 Author Share Posted September 26, 2015 Yes, I have been stalked though I am an amateur MMA fighter and over 220 lbs and 6'3. I've had some weird encounters and my wife has had to deal with some weird women doing some questionable stuff to me over the years...see past threads of mine about someone sniffing my boxer shorts on the bathroom floor of our master bath at one of our lakeside parties. Creepy as flip and that isn't even the worst of it. One gender never has a monopoly on bad behavior, G Oh my how could I forget that one Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 (edited) Happened to me in HS.... Back then the thing was girls put notes in your locker...They'd fold them up and stuff them in your locker through the vents....Anyway, this girl left countless notes every other day....3/4 pages long...all kinds of weird stiff (beyond all the normal stuff)... There were other crazy stuff that happened but dont want to give all the details.. Went on for the entire junior year of HS...Crazy....hey, of it can happen to me, then it can happen to anyone... TFY Edited September 26, 2015 by thefooloftheyear 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 yes its feasible for the behavior and or mindset that follows to be disturbing. Some habits are eerily unsettling. Link to post Share on other sites
GravityMan Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 Of course women can be creepy, and worse. Extreme example from a week or two ago: I would absolutely find this woman creepy (and that's putting it VERY mildly): Officers Find Over 3,700 Blades in Florida Woman’s Home But in general, men are far more likely to be creepy than women. IIRC, the last time I personally encountered a woman that unnerved me a bit was during college about 13-15 years ago. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 Creepy is subjective, not objective. It is individually and situationally applied by the person providing the label. A person can take the same action twice with the same person and be labelled creepy one time and not creepy the other. Personal example: I surprise my girlfriend in the shower fairly often. She usually enjoys it. One time, she was particularly jumpy and she yelled at me: "Don't be so creepy". Thus, for a woman to be labelled as creepy, her actions must be perceived as creepy by someone else. Women are much less likely to invoke a fear response in men than vice versa, so men are much less likely to label a woman as creepy, even if the actions are exactly the same. Example: A man keeps staring at a woman and turns away every time she makes eye contact. He is labelled as creepy. A woman keeps staring at a man and she turns away every time he makes eye contact. She is not labelled as creepy.But in general, men are far more likely to be creepy than women.Due to the subjective nature of "creepy", I would say that more men are more likely to be labelled as creepy as opposed to just being creepy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 Title says it all. Can women be creepy/stalkerish? As a women have you ever been scared of coming across as creepy? I know ive done or usually not done some things in fear of looking creepy. oh yeah. i went out with her only once and then never contacted her again. the broad called me every day for 6 months 2 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 I think the term "creepy" implies that there is some level of fear or intimidation...I would think a typical woman would(rightfully so) have more to fear when a guy comes on strong than a guy would fear a woman....Like stated, I have been stalked and I kinda thought it was maybe cute or a bit sad. but never felt intimidation on any level... TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotpotato Posted September 27, 2015 Author Share Posted September 27, 2015 oh yeah. i went out with her only once and then never contacted her again. the broad called me every day for 6 months Wow. I actually feel bad for some people who stalk. Its like theres nothing else going on in their lives. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 If my ex showed up in town I would be creeped out so yes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
shet Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 I've known/known of more creepy women than men. You have to lay out what exactly you mean by creepy because what I mean or someone else means may not be the same. I've known more women who'll casually e-stalk everyone, friends, friends of friends, any men who enter their or their friends lives. I've known more women who practice severe self delusion over an ex's motives and actions, up to and including believing they're being stalked when that is clearly not so, just because it makes them feel better (these sort of mental gymnastics to feel superior are a big component of my definition of creepy). I've known more women behave unreasonably cruelly to people in their lives, have anger problems, use hard drugs, claim mental disorders they don't have to excuse bad behaviour. Creepiness is an equal opportunity character flaw. There are clean honest ways to conduct yourself and dirty manipulative secretive ways and the latter is attractive to certain kinds of people male or female. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 Some folks experience in different ways... and some seem to attract the creepers. This is an equal opportunity flaw in a humans nature. I can name equally as many guys as gals that carry this behavior and justify it . Since the op asked though if woman can be this way... the answer is yes. My co worker who is socially awkward ( odd) , just bailed her daughter out for stalking charges... I seriously think this kid learned this behavior from her mom. Her mom has strange ideas running thru her head and when they are espoused , you wonder if evolution got stalled in that family tree... Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 (edited) I think the term "creepy" implies that there is some level of fear or intimidation...I would think a typical woman would(rightfully so) have more to fear when a guy comes on strong than a guy would fear a woman....Like stated, I have been stalked and I kinda thought it was maybe cute or a bit sad. but never felt intimidation on any level... TFY This is how I interpret "creepy" too. I have only ever found someone creepy when they inspired some type of uneasiness about my physical safety. I would not and have not considered a guy who I did not find particularly attractive who hit on me creepy at all, unless it was coupled with some behaviors that made me uneasy. Edited September 27, 2015 by lollipopspot Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 A good looking guy hits on a woman, she is flattered. An ugly guy does it, and it's creepy. In your world, not mine or that of women I know. Have you been called creepy? Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 This is how I interpret "creepy" too. I have only ever found someone creepy when they inspired some type of uneasiness about my physical safety.In your world, not mine or that of women I know.Not every woman is logical when it comes to applying the creepy label. According to my girlfriend, spiders are creepy. According to my adult niece, lizards are creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 Some women, usually the younger ones, tend to use the word "stalker" in a fashion that's positive when used in the context of a man having a crush on them. It's kind of become a slang term, "I think I may have a stalker, hehehehehe!" Said in a fashion where it's used interchangeably with "I have a crush." Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 Women can be Stalkers too. Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 No, I haven't had a woman call me creepy before. I'm just going by what I've seen and heard. I'm also not the type to go hitting on random women either. I have heard plenty of women call a guy creepy for complimenting her or trying to talk to her. Each time, the guy was ugly. I have seen better looking guys do things that should be creepier, but they generally don't get called out for it. There's hitting on a woman and hitting on a woman. A few months ago I was hit on by this guy. We'd been working together all day and had had a few drinks after work with some other people we were working with, so it wasn't even one on one drinks. We left at the same time. He started invading my personal space, by standing literally behind me. I could FEEL him. He was TOUCHING me. I would move, he'd follow. Then we got on a train, sat side by side, as you do and he puts his arm on the back of the seat (you know the move) and starts TOUCHING MY HAIR! I was completely freaked out. He was a creep. If he'd asked me out, I would have declined, but would not have been freaked out. Anyway, back on topic. Of course they can. My dad was stalked by an ex. For a couple of years. And I find it creepy when women perv over famous guys. I mean... finding people attractive is normal. But there are a few people I know who take it to another level. And I find it really creepy. As in, I fear for the guy's safety if they are ever in the vicinity. The 2 main guys from the tv show Supernatural don't hang out with fans at conventions other than the scheduled times because they have been attacked. In one instance, a woman threw herself at Jensen, knocking him over. They have bodyguards now. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Title says it all. Can women be creepy/stalkerish? As a women have you ever been scared of coming across as creepy? I know ive done or usually not done some things in fear of looking creepy. Of course they can. There are definitely women who get obsessive, stalkerish, clingy and weird when they like a man and it could be considered creepy but I find that men tend to like to call women like that "crazy", the other C word, instead of creepy. As thefooloftheyear pointed out, a big difference though is that with men, many times this kind of behavior is linked to it being intimidating and truly scary for a woman in terms of him potentially harassing her physically. Whereas, for men, I don't think they fear that aspect so much (although some women might resort to that) but I find that calling the woman crazy, bunny boiler etc is more common. No, I've personally not worried about coming off as creepy. Sure, I can be self-conscious of not seeming overly into the guy before I know where he stands but I don't fear being considered creepy. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Ok, I honestly did something creepy recently... Oh boy, call Homeland Security, I think I'm at threat-con "Stage One Clinger":laugh: Can I just chalk it up to me being awkward around someone I likey? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Wow. I actually feel bad for some people who stalk. Its like theres nothing else going on in their lives. yea it's c-r-e-e-p-y Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Not every woman is logical when it comes to applying the creepy label. According to my girlfriend, spiders are creepy. According to my adult niece, lizards are creepy. lizards are creepy any animal that can lick its own eyeball....should be carefully watched from a distance./......deb Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted September 29, 2015 Share Posted September 29, 2015 Of course! Think . She was created for a reason 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MoreAmore Posted September 29, 2015 Share Posted September 29, 2015 Yes, both can be creepy. As an overused word that says more about the person saying it than reality, men are creepy and women are crazy.... But in actual description of behaviors? Either can be creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
Trane Posted September 29, 2015 Share Posted September 29, 2015 Go watch fatal attraction and get back to me. I will second and third this one. Women like this, who most definitely exist in this world, I would call "psycho" more than creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
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