PinkDotsXOXO Posted October 1, 2015 Share Posted October 1, 2015 *Sorry for the long post * My father got married for the third time after being with his now wife for 3 years. In the beginning things with her were good. She was very helpful to my entire family. She shared personal things with me and I went to her for advice. However, about 8 months before the wedding my father and I got into a huge argument. He said some hurtful things about my maternal grandmother even though she had past away that same year months before and I was very close to her. This fight grew and grew much bigger than it should have gotten. When my father and I somewhat temporarily reconciled my step mother called me and asked if I was going to be in the wedding. I told her I was really unsure and uncomfortable because my father and I were still on the rocks. She responded that she ALWAYS gets her way. My father and I got into ANOTHER fight and that was the end of me being in the wedding. My father and I have since reconciled, but really just talks to me about his life and doesn't show a genuine interest in what's going on with me. Despite not being in the wedding, I did however attend. The entire night when I was talking to or dancing with my father I looked over at my step mother and she glared at me numerous times. After the wedding was over she began ordering me and my father around and went bridezilla on us. She was cold to me the entire night. After talking to my uncle (father's brother) he says that my step mother told him she feels like there is a rift between us. While I was at the wedding, my stepsister came up to me and said I was selfish, immature, and I have a lot of growing up to do and that I owe both my father and her mother an apology and that I made my dad upset and that they may choose not to forgive me. This happened twice. Wrong place/ Wrong time in my opinion. Needless to say, I feel uncomfortable going over to their house while she is there, calling my dad while she is around, and don't know if I should write them a letter together or separately or call them or even if I owe an apology. Any advice is a appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted October 1, 2015 Share Posted October 1, 2015 Take the high road and apologize. It doesn't matter if you feel you are not in the wrong. Chalk it up to it being a wedding present that will put you all back into a Happy Place with one another. Link to post Share on other sites
OnlyBelieve Posted October 1, 2015 Share Posted October 1, 2015 Sometimes we can see what people do to us but at times have no idea our actions or words hurt others. Apologized for anything that you may have said or done that upset both your dad or step-mom. Ask them to forgive you and forgive them of whatever pain they may caused you. Let it all go and move forward. Be the one to bring peace in the family. Hope this was helpful. Blessings, Link to post Share on other sites
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