silverparakeet Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 Hello!! My virgo crush and I work together in the same office. We are both 30 years old. So we understand office romance can get tricky however it is not prohibited. I am a leo woman. Ive known him for about 9 months. However, it took me almost 6 months to talk to him even though we work in the same office. I just did not notice him. Majority of the women in the office find him attractive. In the last 3 months, he has started to talk to me more and slowly but steadily it has progressed. He isn't too good with texting and (more often than not) I need to initiate conversation. However, at work, he is always the one to come say hi and chat with me, eat lunch with me, always come to me when he needs a break (which is sometimes like 5 times a day!). Eventually he invited me home and now I have been over twice. Both times we have had lovely, long, fun, conversations and the second convo ended with a hug (which I initiated). We get along really well, chat (face to face) non-stop, laugh a lot! He's complimented my clothes, always notices when I am not in a good mood, always checks in with me about how I am doing.. Of course this is mutual. One specific point he's told me is "it would be nice to have a girl friend." I am 99.9% sure he is single, although i have never asked him that directly. Not sure I want to be the first to spell out my interest in him. He teases me quite a bit and his teasing has steadily increased. He invited me over to hang out with his friends but somehow i didn't get along well with them - i found them quite boring and i was quiet and sort of awkward. But that has not slowed him down. I spend so much time with him through the week and barely any time over the weekend. Last weekend that changed as I hung out at his apt but we are back to no contact this weekend. I have had some serious conversations with him about what I want in life, my career path, life priorities etc.. Ive made it clear that I am looking for something serious and not really in a mood to sort of kid around. I'd rather be honest about what i want.. I am growing very fond of him, his quirkiness, his slightly crazy side, his calm/cool personality... he is now becoming more attractive to me. I am not rushing into anything. But of course, I am thinking about him. I guess I am wondering what you guys think? Is he interested? Am i friend zoned? Appreciate any constructive feedback. Thank you all and have a nice day
thecrucible Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 He isn't too good with texting and (more often than not) I need to initiate conversation. It seems like if he really liked you, he would initiate more. Unless he is someone who is not into texting much. Eventually he invited me home and now I have been over twice. Both times we have had lovely, long, fun, conversations and the second convo ended with a hug (which I initiated). It also seems like if he's invited you into his personal space, he would have made more of a physical move himself, if he was really interested. One specific point he's told me is "it would be nice to have a girl friend." I am 99.9% sure he is single, although i have never asked him that directly. So you know he's single. Have you been on any actual dates with him? Going around to his apartment doesn't constitute a date and at work it's normal to hang out at lunch together without it meaning anything. I have had some serious conversations with him about what I want in life, my career path, life priorities etc.. Ive made it clear that I am looking for something serious and not really in a mood to sort of kid around. I'd rather be honest about what i want.. That's good. He knows you are looking for something serious. However is he acting like a guy would if he wanted something serious as well? It seems like he would have made some kind of move by now. But I don't know enough about your situation. I hope my reply will get others to reply and consider your question. I know it's hard to ask someone straight out, but you could always ask him directly how he sees you or at least get a sense of where his priorities are in life. Whether he likes you or not, you want something serious and need to find a guy who wants the same thing otherwise it's a no go.
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