JustSomeGuy001 Posted October 4, 2015 Share Posted October 4, 2015 Some days ago the company I work for invited some employees, including me, to a party. There is a girl colleague of mine that works for another department that I sometimes hang out with. For this party none of my department colleagues were invited, so I hanged out with her and her colleagues. It's the first time I spent time with her and her colleagues (usually it's her who spends time with my department). Personally, I found the way they were talking to her frustrating. All night long they, being all single, kept asking her for advice about how they can get a girlfriend, they asked her if her friends are all single etc. Almost every discussion was about how she can help them get girlfriends. I didn't like the atmosphere so I didn't talk much and I left earlier than them. I think she was a bit upset already at this point (she always enjoys spending time with my colleagues and she probably expected the same from me). The next day I wanted to explain my behavior and now I think it was a bad idea. Because basically this ended up with me talking bad about her colleagues which I think upset her even more (moreover, she told me that not only she didn't find their behavior offensive, but actually enjoyed their talks; they were just joking she said). She said she appreciates me being honest and maybe it's just in my mind, but I think she's really upset with me now.. I can't take back what I said and all I said is how I feel, but I guess sometimes it's better to keep things for yourself... Link to post Share on other sites
NoLeafClover Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 So you are upset because she was being asked from other men about find them girlfriends...question...why should this bother you when they aren't bugging you directly? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustSomeGuy001 Posted October 15, 2015 Author Share Posted October 15, 2015 So you are upset because she was being asked from other men about find them girlfriends...question...why should this bother you when they aren't bugging you directly? Probably because I consider her a friend and I thought it's out of place the way they were talking to her? But of course it depends on the way everyone is used to talking... maybe for some people this is a trivial conversation, but I know she usually is the kind of person who keeps things about her personal life... you know, personal. It doesn't matter anymore, anyway, because I told her I feel bad about what I said about her colleagues and she told me she didn't even notice I said bad things about them and she's not upset.. she didn't even seem to know why I'm apologizing for when I did it (or maybe she was pretending? ). And she said she always appreciates my opinions, so I should feel free to say them. Instead of posting this I would delete this post entirely but it seems that i can't Link to post Share on other sites
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