Phone or not to Posted May 20, 2005 Share Posted May 20, 2005 I have asked my gf to marry me but i would also like to ask permission from her parents. The problem is that they live very far away. It would not be impossible for me to fly there and ask permission but it would be very difficult. Would asking permission by phone or web cam be ok? Any thoughts on this out there? Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted May 20, 2005 Share Posted May 20, 2005 My husband tried to ask my parents permission in person when they were here for Thanksgiving (they live on the other side of the country). Unfortunately with the timing and all the stuff going on, he never got the 'alone' time to do it. He ended up doing it by phone. My parents loved that he asked for permission. It's about the asking, not about how you ask for the permission. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Artifact Posted May 20, 2005 Share Posted May 20, 2005 I think phone is perfectly fine- especially since you are not exactly calling down the street... It's respectful and thoughtful, and they will be very happy you wanted to ask them personally. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 20, 2005 Share Posted May 20, 2005 by web cam is totally cool. just make sure you have something prepared just in case they say NO! Link to post Share on other sites
Artifact Posted May 20, 2005 Share Posted May 20, 2005 Do you have a ring you can flash them over the web cam? Link to post Share on other sites
UltimateZen Posted May 24, 2005 Share Posted May 24, 2005 If you are going to follow the tradition of asking her parents, do it right; especially if it is possible for you to fly there. Her parents would appreciate the gesture and so would your g/f. Plus you get major brownie points and it makes for a great engagement story to tell through the years. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted May 25, 2005 Share Posted May 25, 2005 ASKING PARENTS FOR A PERMISSION?!?!?!?!?!??!?!? My American fiance wanted to ask my dad for a permission and I was like: "Are you joking? WTF?" Before it made sense, when parents had a say, but he'd meet my father for the first time and ask him for a permission. What is my dad supposed to say: "Well I don't know you, but I know my daughter loves sleeping with you so be it!"? Link to post Share on other sites
UltimateZen Posted May 25, 2005 Share Posted May 25, 2005 Originally posted by RecordProducer ASKING PARENTS FOR A PERMISSION?!?!?!?!?!??!?!? My American fiance wanted to ask my dad for a permission and I was like: "Are you joking? WTF?" Before it made sense, when parents had a say, but he'd meet my father for the first time and ask him for a permission. What is my dad supposed to say: "Well I don't know you, but I know my daughter loves sleeping with you so be it!"? Well, perhaps "permission" is not the right choice of words. More like getting their support. Having family involved, especially the parents is rewarding for some; especially those who are close to their family. I asked my fiance's parents for their support before I asked her to marry me. It was a sign of respect, knowing that her parents have always provided her with support and advise through the years and have been an intricate part in their daughter's life. Also, my fiance encouraged the gesture knowing that having her parents (and mine) support will help us in the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 I think asking by phone is fine, especially if they know you. My fiance called my Dad, and my Dad really appreciated it. Flying out will make it difficult for your gf not to figure it out. Plus you should be saving your cash for a ring or wedding or honeymoon or down payment on a house (depending on your priorities!!), and probably her Mom and Dad will realize this and want a financially responsible man for their daughter! Best wishes, its such an exciting time!! Link to post Share on other sites
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