biggles6087 Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 So it's been nearly ten weeks now with no Nc after she dumped me and treated me really badly some members may of read my other on the matter have to say I'm doing great getting on in life went back to college had a few hook ups with some lady's just abit of fun ,anyway I was on Facebook the other night and my inbox flashed up I checked it and it was a chat messenger invite from the ex to join her chat I still kept my No Contact rule . I was really surprised I went to look so I clicked on her named and I noticed she had me unblocked there has been no contact from her but I'm still blocked on the site where we met.Now I keep on getting these chat messenger invites to join her chat,I never get them of my friends not one even tho they they all have my numbers as i don't use the app myself he strange thing I'm getting them randomly sometimes three times a day. I'm confused I'm trying to make a stand and I want to keep moving forward any advice please guys thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
casey.lives Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 it means something changed in her and a wall came down. Link to post Share on other sites
Author biggles6087 Posted October 10, 2015 Author Share Posted October 10, 2015 it means something changed in her and a wall came down. Thank you I'm still going to stay very quite I think my head is all over the place. Link to post Share on other sites
Stage5Clinger Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 I'm confused I'm trying to make a stand and I want to keep moving forward any advice please guys thanks. I unblocked an ex recently to see if she was going to this party (I'm not going because I now know she is attending). Facebook then requires a 48-hour wait before you can re-block them. Don't look too far into this it's not even breadcrumbs. You should be blocking her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author biggles6087 Posted October 10, 2015 Author Share Posted October 10, 2015 I unblocked an ex recently to see if she was going to this party (I'm not going because I now know she is attending). Facebook then requires a 48-hour wait before you can re-block them. Don't look too far into this it's not even breadcrumbs. You should be blocking her. This has happend since tuesday night I'm still not blocked and got another two invites to join her messenger so she must still have my number. Link to post Share on other sites
Stage5Clinger Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 This has happend since tuesday night I'm still not blocked and got another two invites to join her messenger so she must still have my number. Sounds to me like your life is getting on pretty well. I don't know why you would want to ruin that after all the progress. It's only going to result in the same treatment even if you two tried it again. Why keep tearing open that wound? Doesn't make logical sense to me but it's a free world brother! Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted October 11, 2015 Share Posted October 11, 2015 She's probably curious and nothing more. It's normal to want to check up on an ex every once in awhile. Sometimes, it's genuine curiosity. Sometimes, it's to see if you are doing terrible in life. It might also be to see if she can get a response, to see if she can still affect you. I would not respond the the chat request. FB is lazy communication and not worthy of a response in this instance. Link to post Share on other sites
wlh22 Posted October 11, 2015 Share Posted October 11, 2015 As others said, just ignore and keep on with your life. You actually seem to be doing ok and handling the breakup well (unlike some of us) so don't ruin it. If she really wants, she can contact you. That's about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author biggles6087 Posted October 11, 2015 Author Share Posted October 11, 2015 As others said, just ignore and keep on with your life. You actually seem to be doing ok and handling the breakup well (unlike some of us) so don't ruin it. If she really wants, she can contact you. That's about it. Believe I'm finding tough going sometimes I be smiling on the outside but on the inside it's killing I do kind of still miss her in my own way it just ended in one big mess.But the ball is in her court I done enough chasing and making a fool out of myself to last me along time no going back there again thats for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Author biggles6087 Posted October 11, 2015 Author Share Posted October 11, 2015 She's probably curious and nothing more. It's normal to want to check up on an ex every once in awhile. Sometimes, it's genuine curiosity. Sometimes, it's to see if you are doing terrible in life. It might also be to see if she can get a response, to see if she can still affect you. I would not respond the the chat request. FB is lazy communication and not worthy of a response in this instance. It certainly is I got two more Invites today but again of no one else very strange. Link to post Share on other sites
dyna85 Posted October 11, 2015 Share Posted October 11, 2015 Ten weeks under your belt, you're doing great biggles. The next best thing for you would be to block her. You said yourself she treated you terribly and you're doing great! Sounds like she's re-entering the scene just in time to rain on your parade once again. I wouldn't allow it and would suggest blocking her for your own best interest and so you don't need to analyze it further. I'm all for giving people second chances, but only those who really take great strides to prove that they are making it better. A few flimsy facebook invites is not good enough. It is all but doomed for a repeat if you are to re-establish contact at such an early stage. Ten weeks is not enough time for anyone to change that substantially, in my opinion. Just remember, burn me once, shame on you, burn me twice, shame on me. Do you want to get burnt again? Think about this seriously. Block, delete, ignore is doled out on here for a reason... to help you heal and move on to bigger and better things. Link to post Share on other sites
changchewsoon Posted October 12, 2015 Share Posted October 12, 2015 I immediately broke up, unfriended and blocked my ex on Facebook and other various social media when I found out about her cheating. After a short while, I unblocked her because I felt that I've already moved on and it doesn't really bother me anymore if her news appeared in my feed, although the chances are really low especially she's no longer in my friends list. Never looked back ever since. Link to post Share on other sites
Author biggles6087 Posted October 12, 2015 Author Share Posted October 12, 2015 Ten weeks under your belt, you're doing great biggles. The next best thing for you would be to block her. You said yourself she treated you terribly and you're doing great! Sounds like she's re-entering the scene just in time to rain on your parade once again. I wouldn't allow it and would suggest blocking her for your own best interest and so you don't need to analyze it further. I'm all for giving people second chances, but only those who really take great strides to prove that they are making it better. A few flimsy facebook invites is not good enough. It is all but doomed for a repeat if you are to re-establish contact at such an early stage. Ten weeks is not enough time for anyone to change that substantially, in my opinion. Just remember, burn me once, shame on you, burn me twice, shame on me. Do you want to get burnt again? Think about this seriously. Block, delete, ignore is doled out on here for a reason... to help you heal and move on to bigger and better things. Thank you for the great advice I always try and see the good in people it is just the way I am I rather forgive than carry around a burden of hate , I can't bring myself to block her maybe I'm not over her just yet,but yes your right it is a flimsy way to make contact it is going o take a lot to win me over again after what she did that s if she even reaches out. Just like to thank everyone for there advice. Link to post Share on other sites
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