Tell me why I shouldn't send an angry text to my ex

[wlh22]

Hi all,

So to update. It has been 3 weeks since my call to her. She sent me a text right after the call saying "I am sorry. I know I can't make it okay. I hope you forgive me"

 

I have been still going through up and down. Recovery has been extremely tough as I am staying alone and just moved to a new city 2 months back. I don't feel like I have anyone close to me. I have been talking to friends as much as I can within their schedules but after more than 2 months of being dumped, I thought I would feel normal. But I don't think I do.

 

Part of me misses her. Part of me feels she should have given it more time and talk things out. Part of me blames for my own. This is the third time I have been dumped.

 

I am really starting to lose hope in my ability and luck to nurture a healthy relationship.

 

All I want to say to her... You shouldn't have come back if you were not sure

[artnoveau]

It is horrible that she just blocked you from everything.

My ex didn't do this to me, but he used the same line to break up - that he didn't love me enough and didn't feel it.

 

I'm not sure if your situation might not be similar to mine.

 

My ex had broken up with me several times, but we still kept doing the same things and to me we were in a relationship. It seems like he couldn't let go of me, but couldn't get any closer either.

To me the time we spent with each other was perfect. No fights, just pure harmony and a feeling of safety.

But every two months he would find something wrong and end it.

 

I know that he has done this to many girls in the past ten years - no relationship lasting longer then six months, all but one broken up by him.

I think there is nothing wrong with those girls and all fault lies with him.

I truly believe, that he can't love and commit and always finds a reason to leave his girlfriends.

 

Has your ex been like this? Do you know something about her past?

Because if she has the same problem, it is her - not you.

It is her being scared of commitment and just finding any reason to get out.

And that is really hard to grasp and understand emotionally, but in this case you have done nothing wrong. Those people leave when everything is fine and they are always gonna leave.