impatiently_patient Posted November 18, 2015 Share Posted November 18, 2015 Hot women yes. But not that many and they are all mostly just full of themselves. If they get too cold, they could always move here to Scottsdale. They'll fit right in. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Protec Posted November 26, 2015 Author Share Posted November 26, 2015 Again, one of my female friends (gaming friend from BF4) said "I went to spy on your facebook profile. You are very handsome man! How come you're being single? There should be a line waiting for you" Darn it. Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted November 26, 2015 Share Posted November 26, 2015 Hot women yes. But not that many and they are all mostly just full of themselves. Sounds like east coast Australia! Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted November 26, 2015 Share Posted November 26, 2015 It will definitely be hard to attract a high quality GF when your main recreation is video games. It would be better to branch out to socializing, sports and outdoor activities (snowshoing or sauna?), cultural activities like theater and museum, cooking classes, volunteering etc. That's where you can meet women. I recommend you decide how important video games are vs. having a female companion. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Protec Posted November 26, 2015 Author Share Posted November 26, 2015 It will definitely be hard to attract a high quality GF when your main recreation is video games. It would be better to branch out to socializing, sports and outdoor activities (snowshoing or sauna?), cultural activities like theater and museum, cooking classes, volunteering etc. That's where you can meet women. I recommend you decide how important video games are vs. having a female companion. I do sports. I go to gym 2-3 times a week, i go running 2-3 times a week etc. I can't really afford going out much since i am unemployed, so i just have to enjoy things that are "free". I rather save money for a gym membership than 1 night outside clubbing. Link to post Share on other sites
MGX Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I do sports. I go to gym 2-3 times a week, i go running 2-3 times a week etc. I can't really afford going out much since i am unemployed, so i just have to enjoy things that are "free". I rather save money for a gym membership than 1 night outside clubbing. Maybe what SoleMate is saying is that you should join a class or activity group where you work out. I dunno...maybe join a dancing or yoga class that has lots of women. Try your luck there. You'd have lots to talk about during a bite to eat since you are experiencing the same things. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Protec Posted December 1, 2015 Author Share Posted December 1, 2015 Maybe what SoleMate is saying is that you should join a class or activity group where you work out. I dunno...maybe join a dancing or yoga class that has lots of women. Try your luck there. You'd have lots to talk about during a bite to eat since you are experiencing the same things. Can't really afford those classes ATM. I can even barely go to the gym... But yeah, group activities would be the key mostly. You can easily make new friends. I would like to start boxing again but there are not that many women there... Dancing, that would be the one. Not like freestyle dancing etc. but know, waltz, etc. real dancing. Link to post Share on other sites
LurkerXX Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 There are quite a few outdoor meetup.com events that are free, or have low entry fee, such as hikes and snowshoeing. Some groups ask for a very small yearly fee or donations to help with group registration fees. The city is Helsinki, but you can change that: Find your people - Meetup Link to post Share on other sites
Author Protec Posted December 6, 2015 Author Share Posted December 6, 2015 Finally had a date. With a woman around my age. And she was gorgeous. I mean very, very beautiful woman. The date went...well, not too great from my part, since i am VERY slow to warm up. So i was quite silent, maybe it was also because she was so damn beautiful. I kinda gave her the "mental" advantage already. I'm not used to dating that beautiful women... But know i know i can. And i still felt pretty confy with her She seemed also feeling comfortable around me because she wanted to touch me and she came pretty close. I don't think it meant anything, but you don't want to touch people you don't like, am i right? We were in the movies, sitting in the last row and "hey, touch my hand, it's pretty cold" Also i think she "sniffed" me, her nose touched my chest. so she came pretty close. But i smell nice so i have no problem there. Anyway, last words from her was "Lets keep messaging and good night!" Well, i usually know what that means... But still it did miracles to my self confidence. If a women of that caliber even wants even to date me, i have nothing to be afraid of. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted December 6, 2015 Share Posted December 6, 2015 Finally had a date. With a woman around my age. And she was gorgeous. I mean very, very beautiful woman. The date went...well, not too great from my part, since i am VERY slow to warm up. So i was quite silent, maybe it was also because she was so damn beautiful. I kinda gave her the "mental" advantage already. I'm not used to dating that beautiful women... But know i know i can. And i still felt pretty confy with her She seemed also feeling comfortable around me because she wanted to touch me and she came pretty close. I don't think it meant anything, but you don't want to touch people you don't like, am i right? We were in the movies, sitting in the last row and "hey, touch my hand, it's pretty cold" Also i think she "sniffed" me, her nose touched my chest. so she came pretty close. But i smell nice so i have no problem there. Anyway, last words from her was "Lets keep messaging and good night!" Well, i usually know what that means... But still it did miracles to my self confidence. If a women of that caliber even wants even to date me, i have nothing to be afraid of. Fantastic news! Its always good to read these positive stories and I hope she does keep in contact! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Protec Posted December 7, 2015 Author Share Posted December 7, 2015 Lucky me! She even answered me in whatsapp! Last evening i asked her "so, are you still interested about going to the observatory with me?" And when i woke up i had a message in my phone "good morning! I stayed up late, i still watched another movie and i had a restless sleep. Sure, stars interests me ^_^" Well...things are surely starting to get interesting again. But i have to keep my cool. I have a bad habit of turning my throttle in to 110% Afterburner mode when i get interested in someone. I still don't know her that well, and she doesn't know me. But it's a good thing she replied like that Usually women i have met have disappeared after first dates... Link to post Share on other sites
Redfisher Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 Awesome, Just play it cool dude. Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 Excellent news man! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Protec Posted December 8, 2015 Author Share Posted December 8, 2015 (edited) Ok, i had a second "date" with her today. We went out for a walk. We talked this and that and walked for almost 2 hours. We even had a cup of coffee at a cafeteria. Anyway, we walked around and hen we went to this pitch black path... She walked in front of me, she put her arms behind her so i could grap them and she led me safely forward Then suddenly she put her arm around my waist and it put mine on hers... Then she took me into this small tower to "have a nice view". That's funny, she used my tactics! I have usually taken my dates to a bird wathcing tower..since those are pretty romantic places. Nice views, just 2 persons in the middle of forest. Anyway... I noticed i enjoy being around her. I guess she is interested in me? I mean she came pretty close to me again, touching me etc. Apparently she feels safe with me. Edited December 8, 2015 by Protec Link to post Share on other sites
Author Protec Posted December 25, 2015 Author Share Posted December 25, 2015 I am dating her now I have a serious crush. I mean she is something! Link to post Share on other sites
sportygirl89 Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 If you are unemployeed, how are you able to date and pay bills and such? Link to post Share on other sites
Leucine Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 (edited) If you are unemployeed, how are you able to date and pay bills and such? Finnish women don't expect the guy to pay for them on dates. Most of them are hesitant to let you pay when you try to. Dating in Finland is also not like it is in America, where guys are expected to pick up their dates and go to expensive places. In Finland everyone uses the highly functioning public transport system or just walks, excessive displays of material wealth are more likely to be frowned upon. On the flip side, Finnish women seem to be rather difficult date partners otherwise, you can never know what will please them - they like making a fuss over the most random things. I am attractive, athletic, employed, confident and well-spoken, there is never a silent moment on my dates, and yet the percentage of anything more serious coming out of them is ridiculously low. Good luck OP. Edited December 26, 2015 by Leucine Link to post Share on other sites
Author Protec Posted December 30, 2015 Author Share Posted December 30, 2015 Oh. I guess i am not dating...i thought wrong. Silly me... I mean, i've slept with her, at her place, she has been here overnight, i've seen her kids, played with her kids, we have made out in front of her kids... Then we discussed about new year's eve... at first we were supposed to spend it together, then suddenly "what if you as your friends, i mean, if i decide to go at my friends cabin for a party?". WOW. Just. WOW. That is unacceptable. Now she does not answer the phone anymore, she doesn't reply to my whatsapp messages. What in the hell happened?! Just today she sent me pictures of her playing with her kids! Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted December 31, 2015 Share Posted December 31, 2015 So I hope these kids are like, 1 or 2, if you were making out in front of them. Otherwise, talk about unacceptable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Protec Posted December 31, 2015 Author Share Posted December 31, 2015 So I hope these kids are like, 1 or 2, if you were making out in front of them. Otherwise, talk about unacceptable. Well...we just kissed and hugged. Nothing too greasy. You know, those gentle type kisses Her kids were 3 & 7....so yeah. The kids may wonder where did i suddenly disappear and why the old guy who disappeared is back again Yes. I am single, still. I kinda considered myself taken for a while but... well. Maybe better this way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Protec Posted January 1, 2016 Author Share Posted January 1, 2016 Saw dreams about her all night... I really wonder does she miss me at all... i doubt not. Even though she said we had wonderful time together... Link to post Share on other sites
Xiomn Posted January 1, 2016 Share Posted January 1, 2016 Oh. I guess i am not dating...i thought wrong. Silly me... I mean, i've slept with her, at her place, she has been here overnight, i've seen her kids, played with her kids, we have made out in front of her kids... Then we discussed about new year's eve... at first we were supposed to spend it together, then suddenly "what if you as your friends, i mean, if i decide to go at my friends cabin for a party?". WOW. Just. WOW. That is unacceptable. Now she does not answer the phone anymore, she doesn't reply to my whatsapp messages. What in the hell happened?! Just today she sent me pictures of her playing with her kids! So....if I'm reading this correctly she changed her mind and decided she wanted to spend New Years Eve with her mates instead of you, whom she has not known that long at all? How is that unacceptable OP? Sounds perfectly reasonable to me.... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
theredpill Posted January 1, 2016 Share Posted January 1, 2016 Dude, you need to slow the **** down... You are going to chase anyone away with this kind of approach, just chill, have no expectations and the right people will become a part of your life, don't try to force them to be a part of yours or think because you've spent a few moments together, you're anyway more important than her friends, because you're not. The best response to her wanting to go out with her friends would have been "Sure no problem, have a great time sweetie ;)" and that's it... I implore you to go watch some coaching video's to understand potential areas of improvement, how to be less needy for example. This may not be so obvious to you, but it's clear to us on the outside. Good Luck and have a great New Year! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Protec Posted January 1, 2016 Author Share Posted January 1, 2016 (edited) Dude, you need to slow the **** down... You are going to chase anyone away with this kind of approach, just chill, have no expectations and the right people will become a part of your life, don't try to force them to be a part of yours or think because you've spent a few moments together, you're anyway more important than her friends, because you're not. The best response to her wanting to go out with her friends would have been "Sure no problem, have a great time sweetie ;)" and that's it... I implore you to go watch some coaching video's to understand potential areas of improvement, how to be less needy for example. This may not be so obvious to you, but it's clear to us on the outside. Good Luck and have a great New Year! I did not say that to her, of course not. I said "oh i thought i was going to spend it with you but, it's ok!". Or something. Maybe i ****ed up there, i don't know. Of course i cannot be mad at her if she wants to spend it with her friends. I was just slightly dissapointed since she first said she was going to spend it with me. So i was mostly upset about the "broken" promise. I already set my plans so i was going to spend it with her. Then she notifys me so late, i don't have time to call for my friends anymore etc. so i ended up spendin new years eve alone. And i took it slow. It took 4 dates even to kiss her, and few more to end up in bed. Then things started to go forward and then she left me and took her ex back. Or at least that's what she says. So things are slow again. Edited January 1, 2016 by Protec Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 You were used as the pass time guy Protec. Sorry to see it ended up that way. I've sadly been there several times. You can thank sex and the city for helping make men as disposable as a Bic razor. Link to post Share on other sites
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