Was emotional affair also physical

[Mr. Lucky]

Just how much cheating is enough?

 

And beyond that how much intent to cheat is enough?

 

Your wife has effectively told you, besides her ONS, she's planning on sleeping with other men. Were this a cartoon, she'd be the Roadrunner, you're the Coyote and the anvil is headed your way. I wouldn't wait for it to hit...

 

Mr. Lucky

[aliveagain]

And beyond that how much intent to cheat is enough?

 

Your wife has effectively told you, besides her ONS, she's planning on sleeping with other men. Were this a cartoon, she'd be the Roadrunner, you're the Coyote and the anvil is headed your way. I wouldn't wait for it to hit...

 

Mr. Lucky

 

Remember, he not only falls off a 4000 foot cliff but he falls beyond ground level as he unfortunately drops into a 1000 foot deep Acme mine shaft as the anvil is about to hit. Beep beep.

[Lion Heart]

Absolutely and that aspect has been completely devastating to me. But now it comes down to honesty - is she being truthful and honest with me. She also had a one night stand and when I first uncovered evidence pointing towards that she pretended it was nothing - a "quick kiss at a bar" and later when the truth came out said she wasn't totally honest about that to protect herself and to protect me. How can I be sure she isn't doing the same with her emotional long term affair?

 

You can't be sure of anything AT ALL. You are certainly at liberty to assume the worst BECAUSE she's skilled, HIGHLY skilled, at doing the worst ALL READY. WW has already gone full throttle into having affairs of ALL types. Crikeys she organizes them with her friends knowing and collaborating.

 

THIS whole marriage deal is a simple game to her.

She never ever comes clean BY HERSELF. Ever!

 

You are always gonna have to find EVIDENCE FIRST before confronting her. Ofcourse she's gonna lie to your face, minimize the truth which is actually maximizing the deception and completely deceive you.

 

WW has far too much spare time for these affairs. Too much time out from your M. If she was ACTUALLY COMMITTED to YOU, she'd much rather BE with you.

Instead she's running about town like a horny animal just released from the zoo!

 

STEP UP MAN!!

 

NO!

 

No. You haven't got a CLUE where she is. WHO she is with and you haven't had a clue at all WHAT she's been doing with OTHER MEN for years! He** I know that feeling of being blindsided by my own level of trust in M. Serial cheaters CANNOT BE trusted. Simple. They can't.

 

Why on earth is she still working in this place? A smorgasbord for her. The den where she uses must change BY HER. Tell her you expect that.

 

The friends she's used for her "using" ie affairs are NOT friends of the marriage. She is not ACTING married AT ALL.

 

What are you providing that she uses YOU for? Money? Then cut it. She's treating you like a flatmate / FWB. SHE pays half of everything. Move your money. Get separate accounts. Cut the credit cards up that have both your names on them. I can bet she's totally wayward with $$ and she's using you for that "security" at least. Withdraw that immediately.

 

Move fast and because she's making a mockery of your M, go NC. THIS is when you'll see what she's REALLY like. The distance of NC including full detachment is actually when you start to open your eyes to everything.

 

Gosh can't you see she's a serial cheater yet? Once with full unsolicited confession? No. Twice with no change = serial cheater with serious issues. Make deliberate and serious moves to exit.

 

Best wishes

Lion Heart.

[drifter777]

OP - please update us when you get the truth. I think that every single story like yours I have ever read or heard of has ended with "she had sex with him". But hey - maybe this will be different.

[qubist]

OP - please update us when you get the truth. I think that every single story like yours I have ever read or heard of has ended with "she had sex with him". But hey - maybe this will be different.

I would be shocked if this is any different

[cgiles]

Oh a nice guy ™.

 

Well, sorry mattwr, I don't mean to insult you, but you are a classic doormat.

 

Of course she will answer always the same, as she knows you won't stand for yourself.

 

You are granted to her, she could have a gangbang in your home,leaving puddle of fluids everywhere, you would stay with her, and clean the house, for show how a good husband you are.

 

Read this book and do what it says to do : https://7chan.org/lit/src/Robert_Glover_-_No_More_Mr_Nice_Guy.pdf

[HereNorThere]

Whether you admit to molesting 2 children or 3, you aren't babysitting my kids, ya know.

 

If the first two admissions weren't s deal breaker, the 3rd one isn't going to be either. Stay or go but this is who she is. Accept it or move on.

[HereNorThere]

OP - please update us when you get the truth. I think that every single story like yours I have ever read or heard of has ended with "she had sex with him". But hey - maybe this will be different.

 

In my experience, the usually sleep with the first two, but they have way too much respect to go for the third one. The third one is kinda crossing the line.

 

Lol, just kidding. After two, it wouldn't matter if she admitted it or not. I'd just naturally assume she did it and move on. Besides that, it's pretty obvious she did anyway.

[Spectre]

She already had a one night stand so why does it matter what is on her phone? Leave her, she has no love or respect for you. I mean I am truly puzzled if you know she already banged a stranger then why? If you find out she didn't take this emotional affair to a physical level..SHE STILL HAD A FRIGGIN ONE NIGHT STAND WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

 

Do you plan to find the secrets to time travel in her phone so you can go back and stop her from cheating? Or wait no if you have to break the laws of time and space to prevent a chick from banging other dudes there is a problem. Maybe you can use the time travel to make it so you never met the horrid woman?