Stage5Clinger Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 Spending too much time on POF lately and noticed a trend. I'm here to tell you that being a mother is not a profession. Putting that as your profession tells me, whether true or not, that you're living off of welfare. Just wanted to let it be known. I have no interest in these profiles. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 Just because some women post that as their profession does not mean they don't have a job and/or career outside the home. Some people choose to be cheeky in their online profiles. Men are notorious for it, that is IF they even bother filling it out at all. Besides, POF is one of the worst dating sites out there if you're looking for more than just a fun time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 Spending too much time on POF lately and noticed a trend. I'm here to tell you that being a mother is not a profession. Putting that as your profession tells me, whether true or not, that you're living off of welfare. Just wanted to let it be known. I have no interest in these profiles. Thank you for letting us all know so that we can don our sackcloth, ashes, and mourning garb....... I'm just teasing you. I have no problem with a married woman who is a SAHM. I do wonder how a single woman can be a mom and not have an outside job though. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 I do wonder how a single woman can be a mom and not have an outside job though. Child support and alimony do wonders on that matter. To the OP: Must agree that there is no school of trade to get a degree to be a parent, or to even have a kid that comes with instructions. Its one of the few Life-Loving services that are rarely given social respect it deserves.... 8 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 No it isn't a profession but a gift that they wanted. A profession is a job and I would think most mothers would view their children as their joy not a job. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stage5Clinger Posted October 15, 2015 Author Share Posted October 15, 2015 Just because some women post that as their profession does not mean they don't have a job and/or career outside the home. Some people choose to be cheeky in their online profiles. Men are notorious for it, that is IF they even bother filling it out at all. Besides, POF is one of the worst dating sites out there if you're looking for more than just a fun time. Do you have any suggestions on a better site? I'm willing to try about anything paid or otherwise but I seem to be bombing out pretty much across the board. Also, just for the sake of argument I'm pretty sure these women are not being cheeky. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 Spending too much time on POF lately and noticed a trend. I'm here to tell you that being a mother is not a profession. Putting that as your profession tells me, whether true or not, that you're living off of welfare. Just wanted to let it be known. I have no interest in these profiles. Maybe this should be in the rant section? There's no particular question. But I wouldn't assume that someone putting mom as their profession always means they have no job or career. It may be their way of saying that is what is important to them or a tongue in cheek thing to say they are single moms or something else...certainly it's a stretch to jump to "living on welfare" in any event you're free not to date "professional moms." 3 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 So many people call themselves professionals these days, I wouldn’t take it too seriously. Traditionally there were only a few professions- medicine, law, teaching, ministry, although I’ve seen accounting sometimes included. A profession is different from other jobs or careers because it has a public service function reflected in ethical guidelines. I saw lots of guys say they were “successful professionals” and they sure weren’t in any profession. Some were salesmen, which doesn’t seem to have any ethical rules or public service function. People use “profession” willy-nilly these days. Eh. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted October 16, 2015 Share Posted October 16, 2015 Actually when it comes to "professions" the stay at home mother is recognized by most countries as an "occupation". So you don't want to date a single Mum. Don't - not point battering those who are proud of their children now is there?! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted October 16, 2015 Share Posted October 16, 2015 Spending too much time on POF lately and noticed a trend. I'm here to tell you that being a mother is not a profession. Putting that as your profession tells me, whether true or not, that you're living off of welfare. Just wanted to let it be known. I have no interest in these profiles. Just enough interest to make a thread about it The purpose of profiles is to find compatible matches. Their professional status has appropriately weeded you out. Effective. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Goodbye Posted October 17, 2015 Share Posted October 17, 2015 WTF...Buddy, I've got 2 master's degrees and have worked my a$$ off in the "real world." I can tell you that being a stay at home mom to 3 kids has been A LOT more work. My daughters are better for it. I would put "mom" as my profession now...and I bet I could buy and sell you...no "welfare" here. Watch your stereotypes. You could be passing on some of the best women out there. Not everyone wants your petty cash. 14 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 17, 2015 Share Posted October 17, 2015 Do you have any suggestions on a better site? I'm willing to try about anything paid or otherwise but I seem to be bombing out pretty much across the board. Also, just for the sake of argument I'm pretty sure these women are not being cheeky. The usual suspects that come to mind are Match and eHarmony, although as I've mentioned on another thread they are not immune to online trickery and fakery. A LS member mentioned another OLD site called "How about We". I've used the former two a few years ago but up until yesterday, I didn't even know the latter existed. Might be worth checking out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stage5Clinger Posted October 17, 2015 Author Share Posted October 17, 2015 WTF...Buddy, I've got 2 master's degrees and have worked my a$$ off in the "real world." I can tell you that being a stay at home mom to 3 kids has been A LOT more work. My daughters are better for it. I would put "mom" as my profession now...and I bet I could buy and sell you...no "welfare" here. Watch your stereotypes. You could be passing on some of the best women out there. Not everyone wants your petty cash. Good for you, but it's still not a profession. Your profession would be what you studied so long for. Welfare aside if you state your a professional "mother" that comes off as professional breeder (although obviously not the case). Just pointing out how that comes off and is interpreted by someone like me (no kids, younger, looking for a young professional). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Goodbye Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 Good for you, but it's still not a profession. Your profession would be what you studied so long for. Welfare aside if you state your a professional "mother" that comes off as professional breeder (although obviously not the case). Just pointing out how that comes off and is interpreted by someone like me (no kids, younger, looking for a young professional). Yes, that is what we moms are...professional breeders. What do you state as YOUR profession? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Goodbye Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 Good for you, but it's still not a profession. Your profession would be what you studied so long for. Welfare aside if you state your a professional "mother" that comes off as professional breeder (although obviously not the case). Just pointing out how that comes off and is interpreted by someone like me (no kids, younger, looking for a young professional). Well, websites such as the one you use have specific criteria options for a reason. Enter a very specific age bracket, education level/financial level, and say NO KIDS. There...problems solved. You won't need to worry about those foolish gals dedicating their time to child rearing who think it's a "profession" while you do not agree. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stage5Clinger Posted October 18, 2015 Author Share Posted October 18, 2015 Yes, that is what we moms are...professional breeders. What do you state as YOUR profession? Information Technology. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 "Homemaker" would have been more acceptable. It is an occupation, not a job, though. And to some extent we are all homemakers, so it's more to explain the absence of a job. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 (edited) Dude, "P....o....F" - "Plenty of Fish". A website/dating site with a title like that alone makes me think that not the highest quality/caliber if people are gonna be there and/or I'm gonna get a bit of "any" kind of person there - both good and bad. If mum as a profession is put on the profile in sort of a "tongue and cheek" way to get attention, then that's cute and cool, but yea, I'm seeing/seen some women who are lazy, silly, lack ambition and just cuz they got some guy to knock them up, think they're part of an elite membership/club of "mother" . Being a mother (I mean a real "mother" who "raises" her kids - not someone who changes dippers, feeds and clothes the kid like she was a daycare worker) is an honorable role to have. Children are so dependent on the one they came from, and yes, men have a role, but the mother is significant one too. What that mother does/doesn't do is going to influence what/who that child will grow up to be and become a future member of our society. Also, being a mother is hard. I do not have kids, but help out with relatives and it takes a lot of work to run a home and be there for your man. So, in sum, a mother is a "profession" that a monetary and/or scholarly value CANNOT be placed upon ("priceless"). A real "mother" cannot be replaced by a relative, day care worker, babysitter, nanny, etc...and, I don't have issue with "real" mothers who take pride in being a mum by calling it a profession and/or using it in a tongue and cheek way. I DO take issue with women who turned motherhood into an income either through public assistance and/or the baby's daddy's money/stuff; and/or, defaulted into motherhood cuz they are too lazy to do a thing with themselves. So, maybe yeah, getting off of PoF is a first start, but really all OLD is full of a lot of fakes and flakes - if you ask me. Edited October 18, 2015 by Gloria25 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 The problem is not the response - it's that the word 'profession' is too restrictive and doesn't take into account that for whatever reason, a person may not be working. If a person is retired, a carer, full time student, part time student, ill or yes - a mother - do you think that they should just write 'nil' under profession? This is, I see that the point of the question "profession" is to ascertain what a person does during their days. Writing what they do is better than writing nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
chapter44 Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 Spending too much time on POF lately and noticed a trend. I'm here to tell you that being a mother is not a profession. Putting that as your profession tells me, whether true or not, that you're living off of welfare. Just wanted to let it be known. I have no interest in these profiles. Someone's trying to stir the pot! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
chapter44 Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 WTF...Buddy, I've got 2 master's degrees and have worked my a$$ off in the "real world." I can tell you that being a stay at home mom to 3 kids has been A LOT more work. My daughters are better for it. I would put "mom" as my profession now...and I bet I could buy and sell you...no "welfare" here. Watch your stereotypes. You could be passing on some of the best women out there. Not everyone wants your petty cash. Best response I have read on here in ages! I love it 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 WTF...Buddy, I've got 2 master's degrees and have worked my a$$ off in the "real world." I can tell you that being a stay at home mom to 3 kids has been A LOT more work. My daughters are better for it. I would put "mom" as my profession now...and I bet I could buy and sell you...no "welfare" here. Watch your stereotypes. You could be passing on some of the best women out there. Not everyone wants your petty cash. Question is - would you want to date someone with an attitude like Stage5Clinger? Answer I can probably guess is no. A resounding no possibly with some bells and whistles on it! So let him pass up these women and give the guys who are ale to appreciate them a chance. So problem solved. He shouldn't date single mothers and you shouldn't date idiots who have no clue how much hard work goes into bringing up well rounded and happy children... So by putting Mum in the profession slot you are both avoiding each other... That is probably a good thing! 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Goodbye Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 Question is - would you want to date someone with an attitude like Stage5Clinger? Answer I can probably guess is no. A resounding no possibly with some bells and whistles on it! So let him pass up these women and give the guys who are ale to appreciate them a chance. So problem solved. He shouldn't date single mothers and you shouldn't date idiots who have no clue how much hard work goes into bringing up well rounded and happy children... So by putting Mum in the profession slot you are both avoiding each other... That is probably a good thing! No, I wouldn't date someone like him, and he'd not date someone like me. That is fine. I make it clear at the onset that my kids are number one for now. I do not do online dating, but am familiar with the process. I would only want to date men who've raised kids, because I think they understand the priorities involved. As far as the "profession" thing...there are lots of vague make believe things I could put as my "profession." Just like men. Entrepreneur. I like that one. The reality is that I do not have "formal" employment right now. So "Mom" kind of defines how I spend the bulk of my time. I could put my former professional title down...doesn't really reflect who I am now. Should I put "Retired" instead? I don't feel retired. Meh...this is why I won't do online dating. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 Not withstanding the attitude by the OP towards women and moms. If you are unsuccessful at online dating I recommend fronting the monies and use It's Just Lunch or other matchmaking services. May fit the needs better but the cost is substantially higher. That is what I would do if I was dating. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 No, I wouldn't date someone like him, and he'd not date someone like me. That is fine. I make it clear at the onset that my kids are number one for now. I do not do online dating, but am familiar with the process. I would only want to date men who've raised kids, because I think they understand the priorities involved. As far as the "profession" thing...there are lots of vague make believe things I could put as my "profession." Just like men. Entrepreneur. I like that one. The reality is that I do not have "formal" employment right now. So "Mom" kind of defines how I spend the bulk of my time. I could put my former professional title down...doesn't really reflect who I am now. Should I put "Retired" instead? I don't feel retired. Meh...this is why I won't do online dating. Don't let one man put you off the rest of them Entrepreneur is one that makes me laugh. IT also makes me laugh because everyone is "in" IT these days it seems. I always imagine some sad nerd at his computer window shopping for a bay watch style broad and "spanking the monkey" over her pictures rather than actually speak to them. Having dated a few who put their profession down as IT, I have also found that they don't earn as much as they would like you to think... Sad really to feel that they have to hide it but it takes all sorts. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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