malehere Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 I wonder does love really exist? Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 It exists, and you can find someone online who you can love who loves you back eventually, but you can't fall in love online (that's delusion). You can only fall in love in person. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author malehere Posted October 15, 2015 Author Share Posted October 15, 2015 I agree. I have had such a bad experience, this girl just broke me from inside, such a player she was, gave me false hopes of meeting in person and years gone by nothing happened. Finally I broke up with her and I hope she never returns. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
emi Posted October 16, 2015 Share Posted October 16, 2015 Why dont you just pack up and go see her? Few years is a long time Link to post Share on other sites
froz Posted October 16, 2015 Share Posted October 16, 2015 It definitely does exist and can work. I know several people where this has happened. Seems far fetched at times but definitely possible. Are you thinking about dating someone LT? Link to post Share on other sites
Author malehere Posted October 16, 2015 Author Share Posted October 16, 2015 It definitely does exist and can work. I know several people where this has happened. Seems far fetched at times but definitely possible. Are you thinking about dating someone LT? @froz, I have had a couple of online relationships but they don't seem to work for me, distances make the hearts of the couple wander may be. I am a full time chartered accountancy student and am studying online so I don't have a social life currently, I am looking for online dating but they don't really work. Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 16, 2015 Share Posted October 16, 2015 (edited) It definitely does exist and can work. I know several people where this has happened. Seems far fetched at times but definitely possible. Are you thinking about dating someone LT? I agree with froz. It is very possible and quite common place anymore. I met my partner randomly online through an adult forum we were both members of. After months of chatting, phone calls and Skyping, we felt like we didn't dare take it too seriously until we met face to face and see if what we had translated in real life. It did and we carried on a LD love affair for 3 years. I don't think you can really call it love or even a real relationship until you've had an opportunity to meet in real life. Maintaining it requires honesty, enormous trust, ongoing communication AND regular face-to-face visits. Being a LDR is challenging at the best of times and definitely not for the weak. Edited October 16, 2015 by Michelle ma Belle 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author malehere Posted October 16, 2015 Author Share Posted October 16, 2015 I agree with froz. It is very possible and quite common place anymore. I met my partner randomly online through an adult forum we were both members of. After months of chatting, phone calls and Skyping, we felt like we didn't dare take it too seriously until we met face to face and see if what we had translated in real life. It did and we carried on a LD love affair for 3 years. I don't think you can really call it love or even a real relationship until you've had an opportunity to meet in real life. Maintaining it requires honesty, enormous trust, ongoing communication AND regular face-to-face visits. Being a LDR is challenging at the best of times and definitely not for the weak. I agree with you. Do you know of any trustworthy online dating websites ? The ones I have been on, they are mostly fake, it is hard to tell which one's real. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 16, 2015 Share Posted October 16, 2015 You are studying OL & that's fine. You can't live your whole life on a computer. All that time you put into searching OLD sites & talking to these women who have no desire to meet you is a waste. Shut off your computer & go outside. Seriously, even if you grab one of your books & study at a coffee shop you need to interact more with people in the real world. Until you do that consistently love will continue to elude you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 16, 2015 Share Posted October 16, 2015 I agree with you. Do you know of any trustworthy online dating websites ? The ones I have been on, they are mostly fake, it is hard to tell which one's real. They're all fake, or at least they all have an element of fake to them. It's all in an effort to drive up membership sales. I just posted about it on another thread. There has been plenty of proof of it through countless news reporting and exposes done on them over the years. Unfortunately I don't have any suggestions especially since I haven't been on them in several years. Perhaps trying the more popular sites like Match or eHarmony might give you a slight advantage but then again they certainly aren't immune to trickery and fakery either. Personally, I still believe in dating organically, especially these days since SO much is done online that we've created this culture that no longer knows how to communicate with real people about real things in the real world. I find that to be terribly sad. I would strongly suggest trying Meet Up groups. They are a great way to get your feet wet and if no romance comes of it, then at least you've managed to meet a few nice people with whom you share common interests. What's so awful about that? Good luck. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 Despite the fact that it almost always feels different in real life I do think it's possible to fall in love without meeting, after all we are all different people. I do however think that it's easier to let go of someone you haven't met. Sometimes i think it's better to meet online cause you might have much more time getting to know each other before seeing Link to post Share on other sites
Guyouthere Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 It exists, and you can find someone online who you can love who loves you back eventually, but you can't fall in love online (that's delusion). You can only fall in love in person. Not true, I just experienced this. It depends on the person, situation, and most of all, the amount of actual interaction you have (especially face chats, calls). I spent thousands of hours online with mine. You can fall in love with someone when you interact with them excessively as I did. I eventually went to see her, but in my case, she wasn't someone genuine. No, she didn't do it on purpose, she was just ill. I fell in love with a false self created from her past abuse. She lived her own lie, still does. That is where I became devastated, because my feelings for her were very real. In fact, had she been normal, we would have gone all the way. We had plans of that. But to answer the question, yes. And not only that, I met my wife of 15+ years online. She ended up just being a bad person. Link to post Share on other sites
Truth34 Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 Have none of you watched "Her"? Link to post Share on other sites
Clarence_Boddicker Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 I don't believe anyone should fall in love with someone, without spending time with them in real life. Of course that doesn't guarantee that someone isn't putting on a false display of who they are, but you can judge attractiveness & look for red flags/deal breakers. You can definitely bond with someone online or LD. In the end, there's no substitute for human touch in a relationship, both in & out of the bedroom. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
redbaron87 Posted October 30, 2015 Share Posted October 30, 2015 Yes you can, I met someone on AOL (2004) in which I was in high school at the time. Eventually we talked, exchanged numbers (I live in LA and she lives in San Antonio,TX). Surprisingly our relationship lasted for 7 years in which I decided to pull the plug. She came down to visit me and me visit her. It got to the point where we were planning our wedding and starting a family. I was steps away from moving to Texas but then things went down South. To be honest it will not be easy at all but you might have better luck than me. Link to post Share on other sites
Dominik Posted November 2, 2015 Share Posted November 2, 2015 You can but I think you fall in love with the image of the person you created in your head, sometimes seeing a person in a real-life can change a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
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