MsBlink Posted May 21, 2005 Share Posted May 21, 2005 Hey y'all...I'll get straight to the point! My mom, and the majority of the women in my family, are very traditional women. VERY. I, however, am what they like to call a "free-spirit" which is just fancy for what they sometimes call me--a problem. I have never gotten arrested, never done drugs, never stole, came home drunk, etc. (You get the picture!) but my outlook on life makes my mother's skin crawl. So, how do I overcome this without losing sight of who I am, while living at home? Obviously, the first thought would be to move out, but I had to return home after leaving college in the middle of the semester (wasn't happy there because I didn't choose the school). I've enrolled in trade school with hopes of going to the college of my choice this coming January to finish up, but I'm afraid my mom's going to decide for me that it's best to go to school closer to home. I feel trapped and panicked. School costs too much to attend and not enjoy it...again. She's NOT an easy woman to talk to (she completely stopped talking to me this past summer because I wasn't "acting the way I raised you to")...Help. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted May 22, 2005 Share Posted May 22, 2005 In my opinion, you need a third party. Someone who can be objective and talk to your mom about this. It can be a therapist or a relative (or both), but someone needs to let your mother know that you are not her. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 Are you paying your own tuition? If not, and if you choose to live under her roof, then you need to respect your mother's wishes and go to the school of her choosing and do your best and live by her standards. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MsBlink Posted May 24, 2005 Author Share Posted May 24, 2005 It was not my choice to live under her roof again and I'm willing to pay for school on my own in order to avoid following her desires. I've already done it her way once...that's why I had to move back home! It literally made me sick. I think my best bet is to get a third party, because she's not going to see my decision as being logical at all. I am doing my best right now by following her rules within her house...but I'm also saving my money to move away. So, with all this in mind, the third party sounds best! Thanks for the advice... Link to post Share on other sites
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